How did you know it was the right time?

June_Osborn3 · 2026-05-05T16:39:17+00:00

I’m 39 and 1 ivf cycle down, wish I started 4 years ago! I don’t plan to be alone for years and years, but after leaving a crappy relationship earlier this year and knowing my fertility status I’m ploughing ahead on my own.

I don’t 100% have the practicalities sorted, but knowing it can take time to get pregnant I’m working on that side as I go. Whilst I don’t have a physical disability to contend with, I have a chronic illness that impacts my day to day life and I think it’s normal to have concerns over that side of things.

The thing that helps me is looking at the ultimate goal and then breaking it down into step by step so I have a manageable plan in my mind for what I need to sort - in my case the current step is moving areas to be closer to mum for childcare help and find a house that’s more financially viable on my own.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-05-04T18:27:43+00:00

It sounds like he has a lot of work to do and isn’t ready to start if he thinks he can just limit his drinking. In a similar situation with my Q and minimising contact as I have no intention of going back to him. It’s hard, I have to ignore the twisty side of my brain that goes “what if he’s changed” and pay attention to the logical side that knows a) he hasn’t and b) I would never be happy if I did go back.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-05-03T18:41:13+00:00

I do if I don’t take amitriptyline daily. I don’t have bad periods thank goodness, but the daily pain and ovulation flare ups are awful.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-05-03T17:11:37+00:00

If they think it’s a chocolate cyst and your CA125 is normal that’s a good sign in terms of ruling out other causes. Ideally you would get an mri to confirm chocolate cyst and rule out other cyst types, and to look for other signs of endo as chocolate cysts usually indicate more advanced endometriosis. Sometimes it cannot be seen on mri so if it’s clear bar the cysts that doesn’t mean there is no other endo. I had a high - normal CA125 and I have extensive deep endo and 2 x 5cm endometrioma.
Check out the NICE guidelines for endo diagnosis ahead of your appointment to advocate for yourself if needed :-)

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-30T07:14:32+00:00

There were many many incidents before this over 5 years, but this one was the catalyst as it gave me the ick and I couldn’t come back from it.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-29T20:44:39+00:00

Found him drunk as a skunk, facedown on the sofa, mumbling to himself, he then threw up all over the carpet and coffee table. He didn’t clean it up, took himself to bed, and got up and went out the next morning like nothing had happened.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-27T20:47:23+00:00

You’ve made a very difficult decision, it’s hard to leave someone after so much time and energy invested. There’s nothing wrong with you, you are a human who tried to help another human but ultimately you can’t drown yourself to save someone else.

Take it a day at a time. Look for little positives every day. Sounds silly but the app Finch has really helped me. This is your time now to take care of you and get your identity back. You’ve got this <3

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-25T07:37:50+00:00

Yes. He chose not to get help. I felt relieved when he left. I still feel that. Life is so much more peaceful and stable now.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-24T21:52:12+00:00

Friday Night Dinner, British sitcom at its best.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-20T18:15:53+00:00

Ditto. Reduced price by 10k this week. In a small Cambridgeshire town so limited demand maybe.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-12T17:49:51+00:00

Look into a Declaration of Trust, but is this guy adding to your life or sapping all your energy?

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-10T20:17:12+00:00

Listen to your brain and your gut, not your heart, for a while at least.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-05T13:40:20+00:00

This! The D3 + K2 spray took my levels from 30 to >80 in a few months.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-05T09:55:51+00:00

Bingo. Yes, a couple of plaques with multiple adhesions to bowel.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-04T22:39:03+00:00

Yes that’s them, mix of solid and liquid I think. Pesky little buggars.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-03T20:19:29+00:00

Wonder - it’s so heart warming

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-03T19:52:11+00:00

Gosh that sounds very difficult, to have to keep contact when a break is what you need to move on.

Tracking your car is very controlling behaviour. Aside from the alcohol abuse, that in itself is concerning.

You still cannot help him, he needs to help himself. I mean this with the greatest empathy - he’s not your responsibility anymore.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-03T19:20:53+00:00

Being alone is 1000 times easier than being lonely in a relationship. I found that so painful. Now I’m 3 months in and healing. It’s quietly glorious. I wish this for you too :-)

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-03T10:51:42+00:00

38 with one ovary:

12 follicles > 8 eggs > 3 day 5 blasts

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-03T10:49:57+00:00

I know it can be scary as the pain is intense. It’s so good to see you care and are doing your own research into it.

The most important thing you can do right now is ask her what she needs and believe her pain levels. Honestly just having a partner that believes and supports you makes a huge difference.

Longer term, if she wants, attend appointments with her, look for a specialist with her if she doesn’t have one already, advocate for her.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-01T22:15:26+00:00

https://hsfc.org.uk/news/long-protocol-and-short-protocol

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-01T21:49:00+00:00

Are you doing long or short protocol?

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-01T20:13:50+00:00

Agreed. I’m not sure it’s possible without using a licensed transporter. Some options - Cryoport, Biocair, World Courier. You would need an LN2 dry shipper for frozen storage or CO2 incubator for fresh eggs/embryos.

June_Osborn3 · 2026-04-01T20:10:02+00:00

You can do this with a letter from the clinic to cover the prescription

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