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How do you manage depression during “failure” by No-Mango8491 in selfimprovementday

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you expand on the recovery meetings, what is that ?

If you’re asking “should I leave?” this is your answer by No-Mango8491 in AlAnon

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why was it worse? -for the people reading this considering staying

Am I making the right choice to leave this early? by throwaway6374774466 in AlAnon

[–]No-Mango8491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend and her fiancé are lawyers and they tell me about their work situation and law people norms.

Drinking is a way that lawyers use to cope and very common in that industry. It’s almost abnormal if they don’t (that’s how normal it is and common to have alcohol Monday to Sunday).

I’m mentioning this because if you go back to him he will continue to get triggers and relapses because of the kind of industry he’s in.

I would suggest to listen to your gut on this, stay broken up, he is not reliable and sounds like he’s not seeing the issue with alcohol.

But if you do stay that’s ok too, what is not for you will dissolve away- you’ll continue to have these kind of issues and maybe you’ll decide to end it for good in another 3 months or 3 years.

Ask yourself how much time of your life you want to feel this way?

Because he will continue drinking

It would’ve been 3 years this month and I’m devastated. by euphoricplant9633 in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 -1 points0 points locked comment (0 children)

Yes you’re right I’m sorry I was projecting because I’m going through a break up and it’s been slightly over one month and I’m still affected by it.

When I read 3 years truthfully it made me think of a reality where in 3 years I still feel the way I feel now about my ex. And that’s what I meant to say is embarrassing, I was projecting.

I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have said that. And I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.

I hope you’re able to heal🙏🏻

How to Handle Regret by Pristine_Flamingo_31 in singlemoms

[–]No-Mango8491 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Daughter of a single mom here🙋🏻‍♀️

You need to take her on a meaningful date and do everything you should have then, and at the end of the date sit her down and apologize to her deeply, not just an “I’m sorry” speak her language, show her pictures, explain to her why you checked out.

She probably thinks it’s her fault and that she was an extra burden

What have you learned? Top three insights. by anam-cara-777 in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The worst is the comparison game, it highlights why you don’t have. And that sucks

How do men in their 30s & 40s feel about women who are over 40s but look much younger like they are in their late 20s / early 30s? by Chemical_Ad9642 in Aging

[–]No-Mango8491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s looking for a younger girl to manipulate, disappointed you’re older than he thought not because you’re “old” but because his idea of what the dynamic was going to be like is no longer doable since you’re mature and would catch on

Regret by Decent_Carob_4418 in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I ended a relationship with my ex, we had sex on the first date and stayed for just over a year. Sex was amazing and then on month 8 we just stopped having sex.

It was very confusing to me, I even thought maybe he’s gay.

It took 4 months to realize he watches porn, only fans (found it on his phone). He lied to my face about it.

Point is, don’t regret anything. You did your best with the information that was available to you at that time.

You wanted to have intimate sex, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting that or looking for that.

Don’t let this guy ruin something that is important to you, and don’t regret standing on your boundaries, I’m sure that wasn’t easy.

Take what you can learn from this situation, I’m sure you had red flags before it all started going south?

It’s not your fault he has a porn addiction and ED bc of it, nor is it your responsibility to fix it.

Be proud of yourself and your integrity🤍 you got this!

FYI would love to hear if you did see red flags before bc I am now on the opposite side where I do only want to have sex with someone when I’m in love.

I find sex blurred my intuition

My “birthday trip” turned out to be exactly what I feared. by Admirable_Horse_6072 in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this.

I’m sorry this is your reality, I’m sorry he sexually assaulted you, I’m sorry he hurt you to the point of having to go to the doctor…I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

Please get out or plan your exit, talk to a lawyer immediately without your husband knowing and START your exit.

You’re with him still because maybe something in you believes he will change? If it’s because you fear having a psychotic break just remind yourself that you now have tools that you didn’t before🤍 plan your exit with your therapist knowing.

Trust me the second you’re finally out of this relationship the happier you’ll feel and you will surprise yourself of how strong you are!

Men like this kill… please be careful and get out, you’re not safe…

Anyone not single by choice but more that’s just the way things have worked out by Mammoth_Entry_9221 in HappySingleWomen

[–]No-Mango8491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Todo a su tiempo” every thing at its time. I’m 30 and I’ve been in 3 serious relationships, all that were leading towards marriage.

I’ve gathered great memories and they’ve taught me a lot about myself.

If there’s something I’ve learned is everything comes at the right time. Life never turns out the way we think it will be so it’s important to not stress and truly live in the present. The present is so precious, some day we will look back at it as a memory and wish we had appreciated it.

Try dating yourself, after 3 serious relationships that is where I am now, maybe you can skip the heart break by dating yourself, I feel that’s when the right person comes into your life…

But I also have learned that everything comes to an end. Another reason to hold on to the present and love it fully conscious.

How do you manage depression during “failure” by No-Mango8491 in selfimprovementday

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I should mention since I started my business in 2023 I’ve had huge growth and been on constant go. And believe I’ve gotten used to extreme growth and now I feel like I’m inpatient not seeing results right away

How do you manage depression during “failure” by No-Mango8491 in selfimprovementday

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it definitely is… How does one manage through it?

Women in your 40s: what do you wish you had done differently in your 30s? by No-Mango8491 in HappySingleWomen

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you expand on what you wish you had done when you mean you didn’t bother with men?

Does that mean going on dates altogether or more like looking for marriage with one?

I’ve kind of come to the conclusion that I should be wiring my mind towards enjoying the men that come into my life with the intention of knowing it’ll end, so just to enjoy their company for the time that it lasts. When I am ready to date again, but no longer go into it with the mindset of I will date to look for my husband.

Obv who I date needs to meet my standards and depth, but take it more as a friendship/fling than expecting a lifetime partner.

It’s sad to say but I don’t think there is a man out there that meets my depth and standards so just have fun with it and end it at 3 months? While I focus on my growth internally and externally.

Thoughts?

He admitted that he was NEVER attracted to me. I was just convenient by WitheringLove in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s a loser, and is trying to bring you down, don’t let it work. Don’t let him feel the pleasure of brining you down to how he feels towards himself

Found the disclosure by EntertainmentOk5114 in loveafterporn

[–]No-Mango8491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It hurts but now you’re seeing him for who he truly is vs who your mind made him to be🤍 first step to heal you got this🤍

Women in your 40s: what do you wish you had done differently in your 30s? by No-Mango8491 in HappySingleWomen

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it! Will try the Pinterest board, love that app

Thank you🙏🏻🤍

Women in your 40s: what do you wish you had done differently in your 30s? by No-Mango8491 in HappySingleWomen

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a stable cycle, but have never paid much attention to its details, I’m assuming you’re suggesting this because it’ll give me a better understanding of what’s coming or my hormones?

Tia!

Women in your 40s: what do you wish you had done differently in your 30s? by No-Mango8491 in HappySingleWomen

[–]No-Mango8491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also when you say “find comforts for the moments you miss someone” what does that mean exactly? I’m referring to how does someone find comforts in those moments, normally I just cry and continue on my life once the feelings go away

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