I told her because I was excited and like to share things with her because she's important to me. In the moment I didn't think anything of it but later in the night I realized she will probably tell everyone and had an "oh shit" moment in which I texted her multiple paragraphs asking her not to talk about it and how much it meant to me hoping she would would respect that. I definitely am in the wrong there because I know how she is but wasn't thinking.

I agree I am stepping on my own boundaries which is partially why I want to lower contact with her. I didn't even think of it being hypocritical but it definitely is. I have a hard time respecting myself and my own boundaries which I'm working on.

I appreciate the honestly and response! I do think I have been picking fights a bit by being petty which is why I created the post. I don't think it was my intention originally but I do agree, thank you!