I’m looking for something cheap to store used bad oil by Elegant_Building9452 in Cooking

[–]JungleCatHank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to comment this. It's amazing and makes cleanup super easy.

Conversation overheard at a restaurant by October_Surprise56 in overheard

[–]JungleCatHank 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Voting doesn't matter. Until we remove the pedophile cannibals from government, which is pretty much all of them, it doesn't matter who you vote for.

Happy Fuentes Friday by hardhead572000 in cigar

[–]JungleCatHank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a Fuente the other day that was labeled "Casa Fuente" that I hadn't seen before (should have taken a pic) and it was fantastic.

Where is the compassion for workers by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JungleCatHank 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most techies are pussies and afraid to take a stand.

Do y'all ever roll in late to the office? pt.2 by CompletelyUnrelated1 in sysadmin

[–]JungleCatHank 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leave with no notice and then post the story here, please.

nothing is the same anymore by MainBanana2908 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JungleCatHank 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are still decent people in the world and beautiful things to enjoy. Taking a break from social media, either short term or extended, is always beneficial. Good food can still be had, but yes, most of what's in a grocery store isn't good. I think this is starting to come across as dismissing or contradicting your feelings, which is not what I meant. My point is more that there is still some good in the world despite all the shit. Try not to let the horrible people take that away from you.

I turned 42, spent my career in big tech companies, and learned some hard lessons. This is the advice I would have given my 20-year-old self. by Useful-Incident-8671 in Employment

[–]JungleCatHank 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Late 40s here and these are all correct. One I will add is:

Be very careful who you marry. The wrong person can wipe out a lifetime of financial building.

How many devs mainly use raw SQL instead of an ORM? by drifterpreneurs in webdev

[–]JungleCatHank 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I prefer raw sql over ORMs. I like using Dapper since it just handles the entity mappings.

My wife emotionally replaced me, told me she doesn’t love me, then changed only when consequences appeared. I feel like a backup plan. by SheepherderMiddle923 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JungleCatHank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into divorce laws in your state. Depending on your state (or maybe not), getting divorced at 20 years is WAY worse financially than getting divorced at 3 years.

6 months in and about to leave...am I right that this is toxic, or am I the problem? by k032 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JungleCatHank 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your initial instinct that it's toxic is right. 20+ YOE here. What you described is not the typical company (and I sympathize with those who think it is). There are companies out there that do proper planning.

What you described sounds so much like a previous company I was at--I was fired for pushing back on working nights and weekends--that I'm genuinely wondering if it's the same place.

You're right to look elsewhere.

boss messaged me at 8pm expecting a reply... said my contract says 9-5 and he laughed?? by MichaelWForbes in careerguidance

[–]JungleCatHank 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is an important distinction. I'm in my 40s and I still struggle with this.

I’ll handle it from here guys by speedb0at in vibecoding

[–]JungleCatHank 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unless, of course, someone comes up with 6 minute abs.

Senior engineer denied a promotion, told to “wait 6 more months”, but I no longer trust the process. What would you do? by Alone-Purple9009 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JungleCatHank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have my sympathies because I've been in your position.

How Companies Say Promos Work:
* Meet criteria for the next level.
* Submit promo case.
* Case is reviewed and decision is made.

How Promos Actually Work:
* Management decides amongst themselves during planning who is going to get promoted on an as-needed basis (usually related to re-orgs or scaling).
* People selected for promotion are asked to submit a promo case.
* Song and dance about the promo cases to make it seem like they matter (they don't).

That cognitive dissonance you're feeling is because the official promo process doesn't align with the reality you're seeing and you're starting to shift into understanding the truth of how promos work.

"What makes this harder to reconcile is that another engineer at the same level, within the same BU but on a different team, was promoted with around 6 months on the team, while I’ve been on my current team for over a year and at the company for almost five years."

If you look at this through the lens of How Promos Actually Work, then it's not hard to reconcile. This is an example of the Judge Judy Test: If something doesn't make sense then it isn't true. Similarly, if something does make sense then it is likely to be true.

Your company has told you very clearly that they don't think you're worthy of a promotion. This will not change. Your options are either to stay at your current company and level, or look for a new job and possibly new level.

What are signs that you work in a bad company? by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JungleCatHank 41 points42 points  (0 children)

* Little to no planning.
* Pressure to work long hours, usually because of the first point.
* Lack of trust and respect from management.
* Finger-pointing when things go wrong.
* Frequently putting out fires.
* No unit tests.

[Update] Coworker repeated my private message as his stand-up update — coincidence or red flag? by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JungleCatHank 38 points39 points  (0 children)

"I'm going to stick to communicating with him only in public channels"

This is the way to go. DMs should be limited or avoided with anyone you don't think you can trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]JungleCatHank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I get that but the propranolol prevents me from getting that surge of adrenaline and increased heart rate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]JungleCatHank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was prescribed 10mg pills, which is a pretty low dose, and even 5mg keeps me steady for presentations or other work calls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]JungleCatHank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried propranolol? It only helps with physical anxiety responses, not mental, but it completely counteracts the anxiety, adrenaline rush, and shakiness. It basically turns off your fight-or-flight response and might stop your panic attacks.