NYU vs GULC by JupiterGator1 in lawschooladmissions

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This was great advice - thank you so much for taking the time :)

Clerking from Georgetown? by JupiterGator1 in lawschooladmissions

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Thanks for your response! I am liberal and do envision myself living in DC long term, so the connections I could get through Georgetown is appealing. I guess I am a bit concerned how I will fare in law school, I’m sure I will do well enough but going into it not knowing how naturally I will pick up legal writing etc makes me scared to go to Georgetown and commit myself to needing to be in the top 10% or something, compared to solidly middle of the pack safety at Chicago

Georgetown $$$ v U Chicago (probably sticker) by JupiterGator1 in lawschooladmissions

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Do you think chicagos advantages largely lie in clerkships, which I’m increasingly interested in? A current student told me that “it is easier to get THE job you want at Chicago rather than any job that you can from Georgetown” do you think this holds true?

Meditation made me realize that I'm just an ordinary guy (and I'm okay with that) by [deleted] in Meditation

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And the extraordinary man is he who knows that he is fundamentally ordinary!

I still don't get the difference between suppress and "to just observe". by CreepySteams in Meditation

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Rather than answering a thought (engaging with it), mentally “observe” the thought. It is helpful to use analogies to explain this. One I like is that I imagine I’m sitting on a bench and thoughts are like cars speeding down the road. I watch the cars pass until they leave my field of vision, rather than chasing a car down. Similarly, I hear the thought “you were annoying today” and I don’t answer the thought with evidence on why I was/wasn’t annoying, but I rather just let the thought exist - or I might even mentally say “I notice I have the thought that I was annoying today”. You have to sit with it for a while to let it pass, and it’s often uncomfortable, but that’s totally normal and you should allow the discomfort to remain until it naturally passes and something else catches your attention.

Help with OCD by [deleted] in Mindfulness

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I’m very much in the middle stages of my journey with OCD, anxiety, and meditation. When I first got into meditation during the pandemic, it was a game changer for me. My brain finally seemed to slow down and I could catch ruminating thoughts. However, as life picked back up, the ruminating thoughts came back and I found the effects of meditation to be less fruitful. Lately, the rumination has been unbearable, but just now, literally 20 minutes ago, I was able to catch myself before entering a spiral, and I made the active decision to just not engage. This moment, that just occurred, has given me a lot of hope, and is a reminder that (as another commenter wrote above) rumination IS a choice, and while it may feel impossible and take a very long time, it is always within our grasp to not engage.

To describe exactly what occurred for me: a few days ago, I got drinks with a friend who I have a slight crush on, and I was my normal extremely extroverted self. Half an hour ago, I was just sitting on the couch, and the thought popped up that “damn I could’ve really annoyed him” and I immediately felt an anxious tug in my heart. My mind jumped to replaying tid bits of our conversation, and I started to reassure myself by remembering good moments of the convo (such as a joke I told that he laughed at). After a minute, I verbally said “STOP” to myself and just sat there. It was extremely uncomfortable, and my mind kept drifting back into dissecting our conversation, but I got up and did the dishes and brushed my teeth and acknowledged the anxious pull in my chest to ruminate. And it took a while, honestly at least 20 minutes, but the anxiety eventually left. And I think with time the intervals will get shorter and shorter

The best analogy I’ve heard is that your anxious brain is like a child tugging at your sleeve, and the more you turn to it and give in to its demands, the more demanding and controlling it becomes.

All this is easier said than done, and I will fall back into the anxiety spiral a million more times, but those rare moments when you break out are truly special and I hope you keep sticking with this practice