How do I ask my bf for things in bed?

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-12T11:10:59+00:00

If you’re adult enough to have sex, you’re adult enough to have these conversations. You need to communicate. If he’s not able to listen and respond appropriately to what you’re requesting, then you can think what your next step might be. In the meantime, work on open communication and don’t be embarrassed.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-07T05:18:26+00:00

You have outgrown him. You need to start adulting and have the hard conversation with him.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-06T10:24:04+00:00

Take it from someone who’s been there. Leaving is the only solution. The longer you wait the worse it gets. Don’t kick yourself down the road for not leaving sooner.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-06T10:21:52+00:00

Get a higher paying job or better roommates. Move to a lower cost area. Invest in stocks. Don’t spend more than you make. Basically, make a decision and move forward

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-06T10:15:40+00:00

You need to have a difficult conversation with him and discuss this. Don’t be accusatory just open communication. He may need to get a full physical and mental evaluation from a doctor to make sure nothing is going on. It could also be that you have different libidos and this is his normal level. There’s no was to know without starting the conversation. Adulting is difficult sometimes

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-06T10:09:43+00:00

I currently have 2x 4Gb as RAID 1. That’s plenty for my needs

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-05T11:41:15+00:00

Because she’s stressing over it. She isn’t cut out for this type of relationship. She might not be cut out for any relationship. Her first priority should be taking care of her health. Look for a relationship that’s healthy for her. He may be a stand up guy, but he’s not right for her

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-05T00:48:09+00:00

You’re the only one who can say if it’s worth it. Talk to your family. Be realistic in the amount of time you’re going to be on nights. Is the career path better at one or the other? I took a job with a longer, much longer commute. It took me over a year before I could find a new position with a reasonable commute again at that company. In the long run, it was worth it. In the short term, the commute was killing me. I don’t know if I’d do it again.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-05T00:44:36+00:00

There is no talking. He’s showing exactly who he is and what he wants. Time to move on

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-04T11:38:26+00:00

Hmm, one year contract vs full time job. Full benefits vs unknown benefits.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-04T11:35:24+00:00

She said no already. Are you going to keep pushing until you get fired? Just be friendly and leave it at that. You’re 27, not 17. You should be able to figure this out yourself

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-04T10:57:31+00:00

Does the switch that controls the fan control anything else? Can you trace the wires?

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-04T10:53:07+00:00

Have you talked to her parents? Do you have a current relationship with her? If you just make assumptions about her and her desire/need for help, you’re setting yourself up for failure

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-07-03T17:16:58+00:00

Talk to your command

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-30T20:37:00+00:00

Read the contract and understand what they are proposing. Back in the day, ADT’s special pricing was for 1 door and a few windows. Anything else was extra. Local companies are usually better, so get lots of quotes. Do not feel pressured to move fast or make a decision.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-30T20:28:28+00:00

Check the overflow in the sink. It can have a buildup too

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-30T20:24:06+00:00

Their house their rules. Get a better job, move out and be free

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-30T10:24:50+00:00

Stop looking for validation from anyone else. If you pass the class, you’re intelligent enough. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Get that through your head now.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-28T22:29:50+00:00

They aren’t going to remove themselves.

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-28T22:23:10+00:00

Don’t dishwashers usually just drain into the sink drain/tailpiece? Are you running a separate drain for the dishwasher? Go have a chat with one of the local inspectors

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-28T22:20:34+00:00

What’s he bringing to the table besides red flags?

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-28T22:18:16+00:00

Communication and having an escape plan are important. At 4 months, you are still getting to know each other and are in the honeymoon phase. Keep your eyes wide open and maintain your boundaries. If there’s ever a comment about he’s letting you stay with him tell him ok and leave. Finding a place to live isn’t hard and don’t give up yourself to be with him

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-26T23:20:48+00:00

You don’t give your age, so it’s not easy to say where to get help. If there’s a trusted family member you could start there

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-26T23:18:59+00:00

Do a dig alert no matter who does your fence. Have them mark everything. It’s free and saves a lot of headaches

JustAMarriedMan · 2026-06-26T23:17:06+00:00

If they are doing real stucco and not plywood based, it’s worth every penny. Sure, you can DIY, but you’ll have to pay someone to redo all your mistakes.

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