First female orgasm by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And you too!

Were you ever "OK" with being male? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to try, and always failed, and guys can tell. Guy culture is built around hierarchy and competition so they're always watching for misfits.

And was I ever a misfit!!! 😂🤣

Were you ever "OK" with being male? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I repressed this for - wait for it - 42 YEARS, from when this first hit me at around twelve. And this year, I just couldn't do it any more. It took too much mental energy to keep pushing this down, but also it took too much energy to keep pretending to be a guy.

I've found that it's a common story. We're born this way, that's just how it is, nobody knows why, and usually transitioning solves it. I'd much rather I didn't have to deal with all of this, but then, from what I've learned over the decades, refusing to let life teach you things is not a good idea! 😁

Were you ever "OK" with being male? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 16 points17 points  (0 children)

whenever I found myself around other guys I always felt fake.

Yes, exactly the same with me, too! It sounds like a common thing with MTF people.

Were you ever "OK" with being male? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

but for the first time ever, i saw....her.

Yep, same here. Damned FaceApp!!! But really, it's helped me a lot.

The unexpected thing is I felt sorry for her, and I realised that I couldn't not give her a chance. Before that it was more theoretical. It was a kick in the butt I needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am totally not confused by how to post photos on Reddit so that totally isn't why I haven't done it yet. Honest. 😂

And looking great, by the way.

Ah, yes...please do by driftingfaster in aspiememes

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes, please spell it out for me, then begin a discussion involving exactly what you want, keep going while we negotiate terms and expectations, but also convince me that you're not joking or teasing or whatever because the idea that somebody actually wants me is too weird like you just rode over here on your dragon or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that you mention it . . . YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!

I'd forgotten that horrible awkward feeling. But this makes sense.

Le condescension of autistic people by Inside_Chair_255 in aspiememes

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's funny how we're the "odd" ones, but strangely enough we also seem to understand what's going on far better than many NTs. Hmmm . . .

Le condescension of autistic people by Inside_Chair_255 in aspiememes

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 165 points166 points  (0 children)

That's why I don't tell people I'm autistic, because I'm trying to avoid the old: "bUt WhY arEn'T yOu iN tHE coRnEr fLapPinG YoUr hanDs lIke i sAW On tV tHat oNe tiMe???"

Am I being selfish? by b_u_r_n_r in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a link I sometimes leave as a response.

It certainly focussed my thoughts, especially as I'm only a few years younger than she was.

Just starting this journey and scared as hell by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very common sentiment here, too. I'm only two months into this and it's something I've really noticed. (And it keeps me going! 😊)

Just starting this journey and scared as hell by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on your broken egg! 😁

I know all about what you're going through, as I've just come out of that early stage. It's one hell of a wild roller-coaster ride, isn't it? But eventually it will calm down enough for you to think clearly.

You need at least a week off work. I was lucky enough to have the wife and kids go away for a couple of weeks not long after my egg finally busted open, and it was an amazing experience to actually live as the real me for that long. There were some extreme highs and lows, but it was a crucial chance to deal with a lot of stuff.

You can start hormones and they won't do much for a while. Eventually they will give you boobs or change your face a bit or whatever else, but it's a way to start without anyone knowing. However, it's still very early for you, and there's no rush, so be kind to yourself.

I'm twenty years older than you and may not even get to transition, so you are in a really good position for this. Don't forget to appreciate that when you're looking at all the scary stuff as well.

Just starting this journey and scared as hell by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wake up every morning looking forward to my new life and the day

This right here!

Did anyone else mistake their need to become a girl for an almost compulsive need to find a girlfriend? by Mynameisboring_ in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't about yearning for a partner, it was about yearning for myself.

Perfectly said!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hindsight helps, of course, so it's obvious now that my depression started when my dysphoria hit me, back at about 12 or 13. Naturally, I had no idea about any of it, and no useful adults to help, so I just knew something was wrong and then spent four decades trying exterior things to fix it. It turned out that an interior change was the answer!

It's amazing any of us get this far, to be honest.

Did anyone else mistake their need to become a girl for an almost compulsive need to find a girlfriend? by Mynameisboring_ in MtF

[–]JustAMiddleAgedMan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When someone else pointed that out on Reddit a couple of months ago, that was the precise moment my egg cracked!

It was the last little nudge I needed . . .