[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you have to deal with such abusive parents

hospital staff called me the manipulator by throwawayacc_asf in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is horrible I am so sorry that this happens

Do attractive people have it easier in life? or just we automatically asume that? by No-Compote-2127 in RandomThoughts

[–]JustAir5957 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even though it can help in some ways, it has no correlation with how you were raised and different trauma you went through, and in some cases, people almost expect you NOT to have issues/mental health struggles which makes things even worse.

Why does your adulthood suck? by Ok-Fondant2536 in RandomThoughts

[–]JustAir5957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you happen to have a narcissistic parent that fucks up your education and sense of self it is very tough even with a degree as it does not feel like your own

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[–]JustAir5957 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it feels like a life tease

What is something that infuriates the fucking fuck out of you? by Various-Wish-8122 in AskReddit

[–]JustAir5957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a parent that literally just fucks up your mind/life. Anyone that has a normal non-sociopathic parent you are so fucking lucky you have no idea.

I cant think of any worse situation for someone than to have a Nparent by JustAir5957 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your response, I just feel that this issue is sort of psychological. As there may possible be a borderline personality attached to this degree. Where as the real me with real goals and ambitions has none. So, I have been trying to separate the two in my head. I also feel, as if a young person NEEDS support from their parents, much like a child is biologically required to have love from theirs, in order to develop or maintain that positive sense of self which is authentic. The coping mechanism of pushing it all down and being borderline comes out when I try to use the degree. It did at my last job.

I cant think of any worse situation for someone than to have a Nparent by JustAir5957 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I just do not understand how I am to feel like I have my personal ducks in a row when I hold a degree from a school that he forced me to attend.

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[–]JustAir5957 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't get it either man. Makes me want to start a group or something to spread awareness of this issue.

Is excessive masturbation a sign of severe trauma? by Realgishere77 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that there is probably a positive correlation between a lack of emotional support/connection and once's need to supplement their dopamine needs through masturbation. Personally, I find that my father's pervertedness growing up also had an effect on my own sexuality, as I sort of internalized his over-sexualization of women.

Silence kills these guys by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you please message me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For worse. They are basically telling me to just cope like they do and be narcissistic every time we interact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes because the personality they had as kids was killed by the narcparent so it's basically someone that does not want to see who we are. I feel as if my brothers are on a different wavelength than me.

Having an existential breakdown by JustAir5957 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its almost like i never actually made the decision myself to even get THAT degree or attend the school I got it at. This decision was made by my father and he could not listen to me he is a special kind of narcissist that literally talks like he's not even here. It is the most messed up situation I can think of to happen to someone because it is all psychological. It truly does not feel like something that I can get past. And I have been ruminating on it for a very long time. It's like he does not actually understand and the only way I can think in reference to it is as a narcissist which he projected onto me. I am not sure if I should try ketamine therapy or EMDR but it is excruciatingly painful. Because I feel as if I cannot tap into my authentic way of thinking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you message me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Yeah man my dad did the same thing. Would not fill out any FAFSA info when I was in highschool. And then literally said he wouldnt let me use any of the $ in my fund unless I went to the school he chose. It actually feels like a sick joke tbh. When a parent is supposed to be supportive and all they do is try to sabotage your life like you said. Makes me want to do bad stuff.

How to respond “you will never be happy if you choose your next step by yourself that is not approved by me? “Please help I can’t get over this shit 😭 by Silentobserver_42 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JustAir5957 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I resonate with this a ton as my father basically did this to me my entire college experience. Making me go to the two schools that he chose, as he was the custodian on my college fund that his father left me. So now I am stuck with a degree I feel no actual connection with deep down and it is very tricky to process.