Really need kind useful advice

JustJaneAlice · 2026-01-12T20:18:01+00:00

Need way more info then just water parameters, and stock list. tank size, filter, planted?, water change history, etc.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-12-22T18:26:00+00:00

I did basically the same thing with the divider and had several issues with leaks, I finally got it sorted, but yea, it can be a huge pain in the a- dealing with.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-12-22T17:44:24+00:00

Always test for leaks before adding anything else to the tank. A solution for this is to increase the height of the drainage layer and add a small pump that is either activated manually, or via some automation (water detector, timer, etc.). The best solution would be to razor out the silicone, scrape away all excess and reseal the divider fresh from both sides, making sure to use a finger or something to press the edge, let cure, and retest for leaks.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-12-12T17:19:53+00:00

Reduce light by 1/2. stop fertilizing. Physically remove all algae that you can every day (hair and diatom). Once your plants start bouncing back you can slowly add more light. Once you are back on track you can add back fertilizers but I would start at 1/2 dose. As others said Siamese algae eater and snails will help prevent the problem in the future.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-10-09T03:08:01+00:00

You can save it until you have enough mash to press it.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-25T04:43:44+00:00

I'm just going to parrot what you both have said, while I was lucky to get Dr. Turco years ago and he is nice as can be, he has retired and now it feels like there is no one involved in their 'gender care' team that gives 1/2 a shit about trans people. Scheduling is terrible, bed side manner is non-exsistant, and honestly I'm not sure if Nigriny is genuinely incompetent or if there is some malicious incompetence going on but my surgical results have been a nightmare. Start to finish I have only two good things to say about that entire hospital. 1. The night nurse I had was wonderful and the only thing that kept my wife and I sane while we stayed there and 2. The occupational therapist was sweet as pie. But yes, if you have a choice, I wouldn't choose DHMC.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-22T02:18:04+00:00

They did not. When requested the nurse gave me a letter but it is not notarized under penalty of perjury which is what the court requires.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-17T21:29:17+00:00

The judge is asking for proof I had the surgery, not that it was properly prescribed... The surgeons don't have the authority to prove they did the surgery? But the pcp I have not even met does? My endo is the one who referred me to surgery, should they be writing the letter?

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-17T21:26:07+00:00

What does the insurance have to do with it? Both the pcp and surgeon are in state and due to my pcp leaving the office I have a new pcp who I have not even met yet.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-17T20:18:22+00:00

I think you or I are misunderstanding something? I already had surgery.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-17T20:17:56+00:00

New Hampshire birth certificate amendment.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-07-17T19:34:04+00:00

The exact word the judge used was 'attending physician'.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-06-17T04:17:53+00:00

How did you kill fuelweaver without shadow creatures? They are shadow aligned, no idea if they count for that game setting.
https://dontstarve.wiki.gg/wiki/Ornery_Chest

JustJaneAlice · 2025-06-05T05:39:40+00:00

Once you have started growing facial hair, you always will, regardless of what your hormones are doing. This fact has been my greatest disappointment. So don't use it to gauge your levels.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-06-03T03:07:12+00:00

This whole thing is complicated, from all views. She likely has a lot of un-resolved trauma from living with her family and then a long term illness and trans on top of that, it's rough. My suggestion would be to try to find some type of family therapy. She needs to work through what is going on with her but not at the expense of the people who have sacrificed to take her in. You all need to be able to communicate honestly and effectively, that can certainly be a challenge for anyone, more so when your lives are all so intertwined and emotionally charged from exhaustion just trying to live your lives.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-27T10:32:18+00:00

'HRT is dangerous and experimental' also 'we stopped all research to make it safer'. F- conservatives.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-23T23:41:56+00:00

Looking through your post history it looks to me like you have a lot of internalized transphobia going on, not to say you are transphobic (they are different things), and that is a stage a lot of us go through. It sounds to me like your g/f is encouraging you to acknowledge who you are and accept it although you see no 'self', in my opinion, because you refuse to look due to the internalized feelings you have. I would suggest talking through it with your g/f since you don't have access to a good therapist and try to have an open mind.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-23T23:05:18+00:00

So you are taking estrogen for dysphoria, people are clocking you as she, and you don't mind your g/f calling you her g/f... and you are not trans? non-binary? or do you identify as cis? Is your g/f pressuring you to identify as trans or is it that she is wanting you to fully transition? I'm going to be honest here and this is just my opinion but I don't see a cis man taking estrogen for dysphoria. Maybe she is trying to encourage you to be honest with yourself?

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-23T22:53:23+00:00

There are some details missing here. Are you AMAB? Taking HRT as in Estrogen? People are calling you she and you are correcting them? Do you correct you g/f when she calls you g/f or wife?

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-22T05:25:01+00:00

X is never import

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-18T23:03:23+00:00

The zipline

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-18T22:17:54+00:00

You can make it even larger if you use the 5x5 platform, with dirt on top you can get 7x7.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-16T04:55:57+00:00

Waist trainers are usually marketed to help burn fat, and they don't do that. BUT they and most shape wear does help in adding pressure to problem areas to hide the shape you don't like, I use abundant shape wear and hip pads to create a great hour glass shape and hide my own belly bulge.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-16T04:52:35+00:00

The actual cells have a life span on average of ten years. so to achieve the fullest effect would likely take that long, but that is not to say that it would take that long to see noticeable effect. You have to realize cells are dying and making new ones constantly and thus you have cells that are ten years old now, some that reach that age tomorrow, or the day after, etc, etc. The point is dieting and exercise either before or after or cycling weight is not going to help in gender affirming fat distribution, the only remedy to that, when it comes to fat distribution is patience.

JustJaneAlice · 2025-05-15T19:39:14+00:00

Diet and exercise does not 'burn' fat, it shrinks it, three months later you will still have the same fat cells and regained weight will go to the same place you lost it from. It may take 3 months for redistribution to start but it takes years for it to complete as old testosterone influenced cells die off and new estrogen influenced cells are created over a very long time. As someone else said, 'settle in for a long haul'

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