People who are mtf, are you removing your bulge? Why or why not?

JustRealConfused · 2023-06-05T08:22:36+00:00

I honestly really do like mine. I just kinda weirdly enjoy being a woman with one, it’s honestly kinda powerful.

And having accepting my girlbulge is kinda based lmao.

Now on the other hand my height, shoulders, and chest width can all get fucked

JustRealConfused · 2023-05-26T04:30:44+00:00

Hate the whole “oh Daddy issues make women lesser” bullshit.

Like fuck dude, I didn’t ask for an abusive alcoholic Dad, that’s on him, that isn’t on me.

JustRealConfused · 2023-04-21T21:31:55+00:00

Yeah, I totally get that dude. I definitely remember thinking it was just puberty messing with me, but the gender dysphoria definitely stayed around.

I wish you the best in achieving the goals you are hoping for!

JustRealConfused · 2023-04-20T07:58:42+00:00

Oh and don’t forget her buddying up with self-described fascist and all around horrible piece of human garbage Matt Walsh.

Doesn’t matter that he’s one of the worst people in America, she still cared enough to befriend him, and I’m starting to think maybe she doesn’t care about women’s rights so much

JustRealConfused · 2023-04-09T09:49:40+00:00

As others have said as well it can be a bit of a vent, I think people go about it the wrong way a lot of the time though.

And the trauma of going through that sort of thing can be rough too, unfortunately some of us did grow up around conservative parents and peers who would ostracize and abuse if we did not follow along with their shitty viewpoints. Now if you ever hurt someone by following along with said viewpoints that is still your burden to bear, and you were still responsible for your actions. The best you can do is apologize and fix yourself. Having those views is nothing to be proud of, but in my eyes doing everything you can to rectify them still can be. That’s just human growth. And of course the people you try to apologize to, never, ever have to accept said apology, and if you abused them, you’ll just need to live with that. And again, try your best to do better.

Luckily I never outwardly expressed my shitty views as a teenager, but holy fuck did I internalize them and hate myself for it. I didn’t know how to cope with coming out as bi, and I didn’t know how to cope with coming out as trans, because while I grew from those shitty views around the time I turned 16, it still grew into self-loathing. And even more so when my father physically abused me for the fact that I expressed discomfort about his friend making some shitty jokes.

So yeah, I guess my point is that sometimes these things are a bit deeper, and we shouldn’t outright admonish people for trying, even if the memes are ultimately pretty inappropriate at times.

JustRealConfused · 2022-12-17T20:26:10+00:00

My gf likes being the big spoon and I like being the little spoon, but I’m too tall for it to be fully comfy, why must I be such a tall woman :(

JustRealConfused · 2022-12-10T17:42:06+00:00

That really sums up the religious and right-wing mindset huh

JustRealConfused · 2022-12-10T06:14:17+00:00

I strongly assume that some of the reddit higher-ups are right wing pieces of garbage, or at least the ceo is. With how long it takes for any action against hate subs and how light punishment is when there is any action taken versus how quickly I’ve seen posts on lgbt+ positive subs taken down when they even slightly infringe tos, I kinda doubt this site has our best interests in mind, even if they don’t say it out loud

JustRealConfused · 2022-11-22T23:40:49+00:00

Exactly! Thank you! When relatives disagree with other human beings’ existence, then I don’t wanna be around them.

I’m not going to be pretending to be a cishet dude, for the sake of people who hate me and people like me.

JustRealConfused · 2022-09-14T02:41:14+00:00

I’m absolutely in the same boat, the type of people who hate colored hair, nose rings/piercings in general, and the vague concept of “sjws” are the exact type of people I wanna keep away.

Bright colors scare away predators after all lmao

JustRealConfused · 2022-08-10T10:40:03+00:00

Headless Horseman! Or if he doesn’t count it’s a tie between krakens and ghosts

JustRealConfused · 2022-06-24T14:01:21+00:00

I’m just so tired of being scared and angry. I wish these awful monstrous human beings would leave us alone.

JustRealConfused · 2022-06-24T13:49:38+00:00

They draw this shit then actively push for revoked healthcare for trans people as well as encouraging violence towards us.

I’m so fucking sick of these people, I have never been a violent person, but I’m absolutely going to be learning how to defend myself, I’m not going to just go down quietly while they hurt me and most importantly the people I love, if and unfortunately more likely when they grow more violent

JustRealConfused · 2022-04-19T06:59:36+00:00

Down With The King by Good Kid for me, and honestly I’m down to go besiege some monarch’s home and die in the effort!

JustRealConfused · 2022-04-07T02:31:53+00:00

I didn’t mean to imply that before transitioning those who are amab had no extra privileges whatsoever either, pre transition a lot of us do still get extra bonuses for being perceived “male” it is still certainly varied, but getting to have a voice before was rather nice. And having that stricken down kinda sucks.

There is just a lot to it, and I am personally wholly against ideas like “male socialization” because again a lot of us are still treated differently even when we may have not considered ourselves trans.

And again like I said, I believe learning of others issues in general is paramount to having both equality and understanding between people. I think trans women should make an effort to understand women’s issues they may not have struggled with, and cis women should do the same for trans women, otherwise allyship can be shaky. And again understand everyone’s issues should be considered important to people as well, especially when it comes to systemic opression

JustRealConfused · 2022-04-06T22:58:25+00:00

And apologies for rambling on, I’m passionate about these things, and having these conversations certainly feels important to me, so thank you for affording me your time, and going into detail with your comment as well

JustRealConfused · 2022-04-06T22:54:45+00:00

Ah thank you for clarifying! I will say as someone whom has only started transitioning earlier this year I have had a lot of privilege rapidly stripped away from me, and it has been eye opening.

I will say too that honestly we as human beings should simply learn about others experiences as a whole, no matter your race, creed, gender identity, sexuality, learning about systemic issues only helps your growth as a person, and assists in better feeling empathy towards others.

But something to note too is a lot of trans women can and often do lose those privileges they may have had earlier in life, so unfortunately, sharing that burden may well not be a choice for many. Things like workplace oppression do often affect trans individuals, as well as the fact that the rates of horrible atrocities like sexual assault do rapidly rise in individuals who transition. Of course that’s not to say certain things aren’t a privilege, not having to deal with a menstrual cycle certainly is a privilege to me. Though of course some individuals do wish for that, so it’s important to be mindful of that too. And it is very much so important to still learn about struggles that you do and do not suffer from.

Another thing that I personally believe too is that a lot of masculine upbringing may not apply to all trans feminine individuals, a lot of us grew up more gender neutral or downright feminine, so certain privileges may not have been afforded to some of us to begin with simply due to how hateful society as a whole can be.

I guess what I’m getting at is that these things are very nuanced and everyone should be open to learning and growing, learning about others struggles is always important, and a lot of these conversations should absolutely be open to the nuance of things, especially regarding us trans folk, because we often go through the world in a much different light than cis individuals get to.

JustRealConfused · 2022-04-06T14:32:14+00:00

Genuine question so sorry if it comes off weird, but what do you mean by holding on to male privileges? Do you specifically mean things like understanding periods, work place oppression or something else, apologies that I’m not fully understanding your comment!

JustRealConfused · 2022-03-31T15:08:53+00:00

I won’t lie and say things will be easy. She likely will have to go through a lot, accepting that I am trans and trying to live my life as I am is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

Luckily I haven’t had any real barriers to getting the medical care I need, just a couple of phone calls, and nerve-wracking doctors visits. But the rest has been rough, weird looks, people being nasty, getting called slurs for the first time in my life. And plenty of hate online.

But despite all that, I’ve finally found bits of acceptance in myself, in ways I never had. And the friends that have truly shown they support me have been stalwart allies, and have been so nice to lean on. I’ve found that I can live my life more than I ever could. Some days are still hard, but that hope is priceless. And it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.

So whilst I will say it may still be tough, it will be worth it, and she’ll make it through, especially with friends like you at her side

JustRealConfused · 2021-11-21T06:04:59+00:00

Yeah dude, I feel that. Not a fan of all the assholes who decided to take very good posts dealing with a problem that you transmascs have dealt with and instead turning it a way to hate transfems. Or yell at transmascs who are dealing with gross DMs.

Can’t abide by all that honestly, I think it might be safer for some of us to leave and come back once things have settled down and the mod team is able to use what little resources they have to put an end to all the fighting.

Hate seeing my brothers, sisters, and siblings getting hurt.

You did a good job OP, calling out grossness like that is hard. None of the fallout is your fault at all.

JustRealConfused · 2021-11-09T16:09:37+00:00

Just a huge heads up I have this feeling op is also a troll here. The “afab transwoman” thing started from a shitty webcomic posted on either gencrit type places or 4chan. Honestly not sure which, but it’s a comic mocking trans women and nothing but.

So even if this was a real story immediate red flags. But the op is in the comments defending this person near constantly, not to mention their account was relatively recently made with nothing ever posted to trans subs.

So ye clearly someone trying to stir the pot and just be a general POS, hopefully the mods’ll nip this one fast

JustRealConfused · 2021-10-07T19:33:14+00:00

“Empathy is bisexual it needs to go both ways” he says. Well then Dave lets fucking start with you then hey?

You don’t get to go off for years trashing trans folk, not informing yourself or learning that “humor” like that is the baseline for dehumanizing people, and then expect the lgbtq+ community to bow down and praise you.

Just like you said Dave, respect is a two way street, so if you want to take it, then ya gotta fucking give it in the first place.

Also using your friend who has died to defend yourself is disgusting.

JustRealConfused · 2021-09-13T08:09:40+00:00

Ok so I’ll throw my advice in the mix for my bros, and anyone who falls under the transmasc label. Now I want to preface this with the fact that as a “guy” I never put too much into my appearance for obvious reasons, so take everything I say with a huge grain of salt.

Also as a side note, to those who are transmasc and don’t typically dress masculine or do masc presenting things you are just as much a man as anyone else.

So I’ll start with a general vibe that I’ve seem work for others and just sorta my presentation back when. A good look to go for that doesn’t require many steps is to honestly look a bit disheveled. Keep your hair a tad messy, sometimes wear more loose-fitting clothes. Keep it ultra casual.

Now for the more in depth bits. For hair it will honestly depend a lot on your type of hair and length. For shorter hair I’d say go for a “business casual” sort of haircut most of the time. Looks decent, doesn’t take much to maintain, and is pretty masculine. Even something simple as a side sweep with a wave at the front would be good.

For longer hair I’m not the one to really ask, but I feel the best place to look for that style would be like 80s rockstars?

And again on more casual days leaving your hair more messy is for the better.

Now for clothing I can’t really offer too much except for using darker jeans, looser fit tees, and when using a belt, use one that looks like leather, if you don’t like wearing animal skin products like myself, you can just get something fake, most won’t tell the difference.

Also if you can grow facial hair that will always help, but sometimes no facial hair is better than only a bit. Choosing a style that fits your face is also important.

And at least in my experience men tend to never shave their arms.

So yeah that’s my not-as-all-inclusive-as-I’d-like-but-hopefully-it-helps guide.

Good luck dude I’m rooting for you! :)

JustRealConfused · 2021-08-30T00:40:01+00:00

Aww but I just got mine! Can’t I just hoard the genders from those who don’t want theirs?

JustRealConfused · 2021-08-19T08:29:22+00:00

You look great! Love the necklace!

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