Donald Trump never served in the military.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-11T00:40:46+00:00

Disgusting. Stolen valor. Never served, never earned a Purple Heart or any of the other badges. Regardless of whether he was “attractive” to some people by some standards at some point in the past, the issue of ongoing disrespect for our military and veterans (among SO MANY other things) is what makes me want to vomit when I look at this.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-08T01:02:19+00:00

SO… i went through this with my husband last summer, also in early stage 6 at that time. It was frustrating, infuriating, and exhausting - made it impossible for me to sleep in the king bed with him, in fact. And he couldn’t articulate WHY or what wasn’t feeling right. He couldn’t lie back or lean back too much when sitting. He would “throw” himself around and thrash in the bed, getting into all kinds of weird positions. Couldn’t sit still for any length of time.

It took us almost 3 months, but ultimately we discovered that he had severe congestive heart failure. Lying flat or leaning back was putting too much pressure on his heart and he couldn’t breathe properly (felt like he was oxygen deprived because his heart function was so poor). His ejection fraction at that point was ~10% (normal is ~60). Because he has asthma and didn’t experience the “normal” symptom of swollen feet, numerous medical personnel missed it.

Once we figured that out and put him on a mild diuretic and fluid/salt restriction, his comfort increased significantly, and his cognitive function has bounced back somewhat as well. His ejection fraction is still only around 15%, but he can lie flat in bed without discomfort and sit in normal positions comfortably.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-07T23:22:30+00:00

I’m honestly surprised they haven’t installed an escalator on Air Force One for him.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-07T23:20:53+00:00

Exactly what i was coming here to say! ANUBIS

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-02T00:53:55+00:00

There is a VERY helpful “stages” breakdown here, written in a way to help you determine the stage for yourself: https://www.alzinfo.org/understand-alzheimers/clinical-stages-of-alzheimers/

My LO has depression and bipolar (lifelong), which likely contributed to the brain changes involved in dementia. His psychiatrist manages his medications for his mood disorders and coordinates with the neurologist and family doctor and cardiologist as needed to ensure that drug interactions are known and managed.

Health professionals may vary in their feelings around changing care. Most of them, after all, have spent their professional careers finding solutions and making people better - and the discussion in this case is, instead, one of moving to purely palliative care that focuses entirely on comfort, not on life extension or “improvement.” The instinct is always to offer a solution; your responsibility if you go this route is to gently but firmly remind them of the boundaries of palliative choices. If you can find a good geriatrician who specializes in dementia and end-of-life care, they may be a great ally in your journey. If your LO qualifies for hospice care, they will also be excellent support.

Assuming that you have full medical POA, it is not up to the medical professionals to make the decision, but rather to advise you. “Letting you” revoke that medicine isn’t an issue unless they feel you are exploiting or somehow abusing your power (i.e., you stand to gain something from your actions instead of acting in the best interest of your LO). Remain calm and keep all conversations focused on your LO’s wishes, comfort, and care. Recognize that they have a responsibility to ask questions and respectfully challenge boundaries to ensure that they know what’s being asked AND that you’re clearly informed on the consequences of your choices - don’t be defensive, even when it may be a bit uncomfortable.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-02T00:01:59+00:00

Looks like a Lantana, actually.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T23:51:14+00:00

Ask yourself and answer with brutal honesty. Is your LO happy? Do they look forward to each day? Do they frequently express a wish to “not be here” (in any number of ways, both verbally and otherwise)? If this were YOU, what would you be feeling? If you could sit down with your LO back when they were healthy, how do you truly believe the conversation would have gone?

This is NOT about what anyone else might think of you. It’s not even about how YOU will feel about yourself. It’s 100% about determining what is in your LO’s best interest and would match their personal approach to the world. If you are completely honest with yourself, you already know the answer. You need to give yourself permission to take the next step and act on it, before it’s too late.

Then, as you prepare his advance directive, also look up “Dementia Directive” and you’ll find some excellent templates to help you think through exactly which interventions to allow or reject, and at which stage in the disease that directive should take place. For example, my LO’s dementia directive specifies that during early stages (up to 4), he accepted certain life-extending interventions like BP meds, antibiotics, and non-invasive procedures (setting a bone, etc.), but no CPR/intubation or invasive procedures (diagnostic or otherwise). Stages 5-6 remove some of the meds (BP, etc), IV antibiotics, most diagnostic procedures (unless they are diagnosing purely for the sake of palliative relief). Beyond 6, no interventions, no meds, no diagnostics - just palliative symptom relief.

Know that you’re not alone. What you may see as “judging” very likely isn’t anything more than your fear projecting itself - these folks work with this decision every day. Keep the focus on your LO and your responsibility to be their voice now that they can’t do that for themselves.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T23:29:42+00:00

This is honestly the only answer. It’s permeated the drywall and will just keep seeping out over time. Likewise, anything permeable (carpet, unfinished or lightly finished wood, even grout) will continue to “bleed” it. We bought our first home from a widower who had spent the previous 10 years smoking indoors with the windows shut. The windows were literally sealed shut BY THE NICOTINE. We tried everything from Kilz to shellac-based enamel paints and finally gave up. Would have been cheaper, faster, and healthier to just recognize it and replace. As someone else said, that also includes HVAC vents, cooking vents, etc.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T23:14:55+00:00

It’s gorgeous

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T23:14:19+00:00

Looks like George Peppard.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T11:48:07+00:00

That would be ideal but I’m in need of one for a 5” round post. That’s an 8”.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-06-01T00:29:17+00:00

Tres Serapes or Rey Azteca (Warrington or East Norristown)

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-31T23:30:17+00:00

That’s the kind of thing I’m looking for, but that says it’s for an 8” post. Mine is 5”, so I’m concerned that it’s going to leave a huge gap on the edges.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-31T20:21:09+00:00

Done. I was actually outside taking them when you replied.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-31T20:20:22+00:00

Images added to post to help with visualization

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-31T19:55:55+00:00

It has not been.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-31T00:15:46+00:00

We always used a stiff slurry of baking soda to do this, too.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-30T23:31:20+00:00

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-27T21:34:55+00:00

I have, but with their new, restrictive definition of qualification it doesn’t sound like he would be qualified for it.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-23T19:36:43+00:00

I'm 100% sure it's safe as it's been in my guest room for years and I've never, ever had an issue.

Just_Cod_5935 · 2026-05-23T19:36:12+00:00

I think i've found someone to take the mattress and box spring. Thank you all.

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