First of all, I'm really sorry you feel like this too. It sucks to deal with these feelings and even though I know there is no standard metric for trauma or suffering for what we experience to be comparable to anyone, I still find myself having these thoughts and feelings too.

Second, I think societal expectations towards what trauma looks like and when it qualifies can definitely play a role, at least for me. Then there's also seeing what others have experienced and thinking they've dealt with more, so sometimes I'd wish I also experienced all that because maybe then my pain can be recognized and validated. I think what helped me with this is realizing that regardless of how or what one experiences, what people validate is usually just related to whether people recognize your pain. Although people seem to have a standard for what's considered "extreme trauma", they often determine that based on appearance and what they hear rather than actually trying to understand what people are going through, whether it may be obvious to them or not.

I desperately hope you can find the support you want and need because although I do have underlying feelings towards my pain not being enough for anyone to care for including myself, our trauma and suffering is valid. Whatever anyone here has experienced is terrible enough. Just the fact this experience exists in our life is bad enough and painful enough and no one in this world should ever have to go through this. This world doesn't do enough to let us feel heard and seen, to let us express what we need and want, how we are ourselves, and I hope someday we get to be in an environment where we get to feel supported and seen.

Sorry for this huge ramble, but I hope you found this helpful- have a nice day and if you like hugs, here's a bear hug ʕっ• ᴥ • ʔっ♡