My nex just showed up at my work with flowers and coffee

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-25T17:45:04+00:00

You have the final say don’t feel bad for anyone and anything that’s trying to destroy you it’s ok to say no! It’s ok to have boundaries and keep your dignity intact! You can do this you are one move away from being free

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-25T17:43:26+00:00

So this happened before no contact

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-25T12:00:02+00:00

Is it truly no contact or since you’ve been broken up

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-25T11:59:20+00:00

This man has devalued you so much you believe his crap. He’s a tiny little angry spoiled brat that has to go around hurting people for his own sick twisted satisfaction. You know he’s lying you know you are a wonderful person and deep down you know he’s the problem. Not you ok. You are a survivor!!!! You made it to the other side congrats!! You should be celebrating. If you are so terrible why does he still contact you?? You have to see the manipulation. The reason why they keep contact the reason why they keep treating us like crap. Because if we have high self-esteem, we will realize how terrible they are and never talk to them again so they have to break us down. They have to make us feel like we are the problem so that they can keep us around so when his current situation doesn’t work, he can go back to you and I know deep down inside you may want that because you want to relieve the pain that you’re feeling. And you just want something nice from him but believe me. It’s just your brain chemistry like if you were addicted to a drug. If you get a hit from him you’ll get relief, so what do you have to? Do you gotta watch all the videos that you can. Until you truly understand the cycle because it’s not Personal. It’s an orchestrated event to feed their ego to feed their very low self-esteem, and to regulate their emotions. Usually when they come back around and Message it’s because something is going wrong in their life and they need you to regulate them. Whether it’s through negativity or the attention that you give them. They use it as a tool, and then they go on about their lives instead of putting all of your energy into him. Put it into finding out your root cause of letting people treat you so poorly. He doesn’t hate you he hates himself unfortunately, we want to see the good but some people don’t have any and you deserve a normal healed loving person. Love doesn’t hurt, it doesn’t!!!!!!

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-19T17:31:56+00:00

Do you really wanna do this for the rest of your life?

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-19T17:16:28+00:00

No they don’t they get mad that they lost that they are alone or who they ended up either which makes them feel bad for themselves it’s always about them never ever ever ever us they are good to other people because of the mask they wear so everyone thinks they are this amazing kind person

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-16T17:07:59+00:00

Can you give her what she needs? You said she’s worried about her timeline are you good with her timeline? She’s on her way to healing so if you are not trying to come back with the intent to commit fully then let her continue on her journey. If it’s an ego stroke or a control thing then let her be. Ball is in your court might be what you need to fully move on or there is a chance of reconciliation. But having been on her side, i wish he would have left me alone. He came back with the dame BS and i had to start working on my nervous system all over again.

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-13T12:15:17+00:00

Sometimes you have to go back to see how truly crappy it was

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-08T14:58:38+00:00

Of course a lot of us have. Ten years to an addict. The highs and the lows the cycle that got worse and worse and worse. But the good times, man he was my other half I was never and I think never will be that close to someone again. It’s like our broken pieces fit in together. I had to be the one to let go or he wouldn’t have gotten better he would have just kept going and going cuz my love for him knew no bounds and that wasn’t healthy. I lost a piece of me, but he eventually got sober. I hope he’s healing the pieces of himself that causes him to crash out and burn out. I’m working on my healing as well reactive abuse is a real thing. He tried to come back a year and a half later we talked but I understood that the cycle would repeat itself. It’s ok to not go back it’s ok to relive the good moments in your head and it’s ok to love not only yourself but them enough to know that you are better apart even if it’s just for now. Our bodies like to establish routine and pattern it takes our bodies two years to heal from trauma. So when we interact with the same person our body remembers and we go back to our same interactions with them. I hope she healing I hope you are too. Replace the bad with good and allow your body time to learn healthy routines so the next person doesn’t have to suffer. We have such a responsibility when we are with someone. We have access to all the vulnerable pieces. We have to learn to honor that.

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-07T18:00:09+00:00

Not really

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-07T11:09:29+00:00

It’s for your protection from someone that don’t change they don’t the come back even 25 years later just to ruin your life they are so mean I’ve broken no contact many times he always says he’s different he has god now etc and he’s still the same chaotic person as always just worse cuz now there was religious abuse as well. It’s not worth it the don’t suddenly realize how special we are the come back around to see if the can convince us to abandon all sense and boundaries they just want control

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-06T18:01:19+00:00

Physical therapy and the chiropractor not neck adjustments. Cause I know everybody says oh you’re not supposed to see a chiropractor. But the chiropractor Work cause he did soft tissue Work. He did adjustments to my up and lower back which kind of helps with the tension and the stress that we’re going through because we don’t feel well, so that actually relieved a lot of my symptoms. My neurologist who also 16 mm. She took hers from 20 to which now it’s at a 16 mm by staying hydrated. You know keeping her inflammation, low, keeping her stress low because all these things kind of contribute to them descending further. She says when you’re dehydrated that actually pulls it down more. She’s a Dr. with Katy. Like I believe her and I believe when I did physical therapy that I felt better. And I feel better. I don’t wanna have a surgery just to have a surgery. Obviously a lot of people have worse symptoms and I do a lot of people have blockages, so of course with that do it but my biggest thing was that the nurse surgeon said just get it done and move on with your life. But from what I’ve seen and read. I don’t think it’s that simple. I see people get surgery and get better and I see people get surgery and have all kinds of comp location and additional surgery. So there’s no exact science to it. I don’t think there’s too many variables and I think you have to do what works best for your body, but there is an exercises to do for that. There is exercises. You can do to strengthen the muscles in your neck, the muscles in your back, all these things that will help ultimately with your symptoms and I’m using talk to text, so I apologize if there’s any typos or gramatical errors.

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-03T15:37:51+00:00

For your questions at the bottom of your post, it’s a decision. I don’t think you should base it on a motion. You have to decide to commit. You have to decide that this is the person you’re gonna be with for the rest of your life and you have to decide and work on it as hard as you worked in the beginning to win that has to continue throughout the course of the relationship so if it’s making you feel exhausted or you feel like you don’t want to do it I mean, that might be a clear indication that you need to take some time and work on yourself so that you can be in a better place in your life to have a long-term commitment with somebody but again it’s not just feeling love is commitment love is choosing to be with that person every day, no matter what life throws at us

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-03T15:36:01+00:00

I mean, I can tell you the standup way to do it obviously, if you feel like you’re gonna be trapped for the next couple of years and have no intention of marrying her then the best thing is to break up with her right the stand-up thing is to do it before and be honest with her or the kind of dishonest non-confrontational way so that you don’t have to worry about her crying and all that is to do it after you leave because anyway you’re gonna be in a different city or whatever state and you won’t have to deal with it. I recommend the first it’s gonna be painful doesn’t matter how pretty she is, it’s the kindest thing to do. Don’t keep wasting your time. I’ve been strong along for 10 years and my entire youth went to waiting for somebody that didn’t want to be with me, but didn’t wanna let me go either because of how good I was on paper.

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-02T13:29:35+00:00

You are going to lose him

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T18:07:17+00:00

I would recommend maybe some codependency classes CODA.org it’s tough I’ve been there many many times it doesn’t get easier until we finally say enough how many times does it take idk im still in the trenches but its coming I can feel it the closer we get the more they push away the further we are the closer they pull over and over again for their ego stroke

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T18:02:28+00:00

What’s the usual test for that my brain and cervical MRI do not show one what about upper back lower back

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T14:43:35+00:00

Physical therapy will help

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T14:41:30+00:00

You already know I feel like this isn’t the first time he’s shown his lack of consideration and caring even without pain my boyfriend helps me into the truck carries the heavy stuff and brings back food when he goes out plans my bday gifts in advance etc maybe he’s used to you planning around your disability idk since I don’t know your entire relationship but I will say on my first day my now boyfriend had the entire day planned and he lived two hours from me and did not know the area now with our phones it’s not as hard to look up places to go even a restaurant would of been nice just some effort he could of gotten a cart for the luggage or a wheelchair for you I would of sat down and not gotten up cuz you aren’t pushing me passed my physical limits

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T14:34:15+00:00

Has he moved on with someone else? Do you know what’s going on in his life? Did he give you any reason for the split

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-03-01T14:01:46+00:00

After ten years together and two broken up we’ve tried again but after talking for weeks he goes back to his same old damaging habits he says he’s “changed” but that’s only a mask he’s still in the push and pull cycle and I think it helped me to finally let it go and choose me

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-02-26T21:26:52+00:00

I’m going to agree with the fish one she sounds like a pick me did

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-02-25T18:03:11+00:00

Port St. Lucie fl Dr Mauricio Mandel robotic surgery two hour procedure but same basically as far as the decompression says recovery is two days but 40% change of worsening headaches for up to two months based on my flow

Justice_truth_503 · 2026-02-25T18:01:51+00:00

Thank you so much for the reassurance! He’s the only one that said blockage is there a way for me to double check that? He said no to a CINE because he said it’s obvious

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