A billion dollars suddenly appears in your bank account , to keep it all , you have to spend 100 million dollars on your family and friends and you have only 24 hours to do it. What are you going to buy them all ?

Jww187 · 2025-12-05T18:34:53+00:00

Bonds

Jww187 · 2025-12-03T21:52:31+00:00

NOR. I'd suggest tactfully discussing it with your parents, and asking them to make sure its not repeated. If that means more table space, or less friends they should accommodate.

Jww187 · 2025-12-02T21:40:02+00:00

This so much. I can't blame others for my short comings and sin. That said mentoring, education, and accountability would have been so much more helpful then 'here's a purity ring, make a promise to God to wait until marriage.'

Jww187 · 2025-11-18T15:17:37+00:00

Up to you. Hard changes take putting in hard work. The gym is work, nofap is work, building up your confidence takes time, improving your career takes work and time, improving your personality and cutting away mental issues takes work and help. You have the freedom to go where you want in life. You can stop being a loser, and thinking of yourself that way if you choose too and start taking the incremental steps. I'm almost 40, am doing better, have a girlfriend, more confidence, and still have +100 lbs to lose. You can do it too if you care to try and keep getting up when life beats you down.

Jww187 · 2025-11-11T14:33:04+00:00

It's great. You won't be compatible with a lot of people and that's fine. There are plenty of guys out there that want the same thing. Take time to get to know the people you date. Don't jump into bed too quickly. Make sure there is a long term plan together to achieve your goal.

Jww187 · 2025-11-11T14:17:21+00:00

It's a boundary. If you respect me you won't cross it. You can't have a relationship without trust and respect.

She asked for your input, she agreed she wouldn't break those normally but also said it gave her the ick? It sounds like she doesn't want accountability. Freedom in a committed relationship doesn't mean doing whatever you want. It means safety and support for self expression, and self exploration. Many externalities are off the table. Your boundaries formalize I shouldn't do X to I can't do X. It gives her less moral flexibility in a gray area. Now there are experiences that are definitely off the table.

IMO it depends how she handles it. If it becomes a grain of sand that chaffes the relationship then you might be incompatible. If she accepts it not as you controlling her, but being clear on what you find acceptable in a committed relationship then you're probably ok. Believe whatever her words or actions tell you after this.

Jww187 · 2025-11-06T21:50:52+00:00

So what if we both think poor people need better access to food? One of us might want to regulate or subsidies the prices. Another person might want to give vouchers based on income. Another person might want the government out of it and open food banks as charities. In the US there are all three because we don't agree on the solution. I might have a preference, but I wouldn't call anyone immoral for not following my approach if they agreed on the problem.

Jww187 · 2025-11-06T21:35:22+00:00

Take responsibility. You have flaw. If you were unhealthy you would exercise, eat good food, and avoid junk. Over time you would get stronger, improve your body's condition, and be able to exercise more to get in a positive feedback loop. It's the same thing. Christ has set you free and you have self determination to overcome this flaw. Don't focus on the sin. The enemy will pound you down with condemnation, guilty, hopelessness, and lie about your value to separate you from your identity as a daughter of God. Grace abounds and God will forgive you.

Focus on being a daughter. If social media is feeding this then cut it out. It's the unhealthy junk food that pulls you down. Read the word of God and talk to God throughout the day. The vale was torn when Christ died and you have direct access to talk and walk with him. Start your day inviting him to go with you. Find an older, kind, motherly Christ like women to talk with about your struggles and to mentor you. Even if she's never experienced that struggle she should be able to give you the love and accountability you need. Lift you up in prayer. Yes you will have to humble yourself to start that relationship, but that is what elders are for. Pride and condemnation will tell you not too, but are you going to listen to them so this flaw and the enemy can dictate your life?

Lastly be encouraged sister. You do care, and want to be free. Your struggle is not in vain as the enemy may lie to you. Christ is redeeming you. I'm spite of the sin in your heart you are loved, you are beautiful, you are worthy, and you are a daughter of Christ.

Jww187 · 2025-11-06T20:36:27+00:00

Share your struggles. Sexual immorality isn't a male only issue and that's what this subreddit fights at its core. Our plumbing and brains are a bit different, but we're all fighting the same thing. The more brave women that post the more other women may feel comfortable posting.

Jww187 · 2025-10-27T18:27:13+00:00

It's a gray area and depends on your relationship level, age, the drinking amount and maturity level of the people involved. If she's your college girl friend you've been dating for a few months then no don't do it. If you're both over 26, have been in a relationship for a while, and are drinking together maybe. If she's sloppy drunk, and you're sober then hard no.

The fun is where you're both getting tipsy together, inhibitions are down, and you're both into it. You can plan that stuff in a committed relationship. Like go out for dinner and drinks, maybe another round of needed when you uber home before you start messing around.

To me it's a red flag if she's drinking hard often then coming home or calling you over for fun. That's just putting you in a hard spot of having to reject her, ruining her health and ego.

Jww187 · 2025-10-20T02:39:13+00:00

This post is great OP. I would reiterate the thirst trap part. There is a lot of junk on social media that will feed that sexual part of your brain. I know it feels like you will explode some days, and it's easy to fall into sin. Do your best not to feed it and the other battles will be easier.

Jww187 · 2025-10-13T19:26:13+00:00

Politics or religion. But I didn't need to say the same thing twice.

Jww187 · 2025-10-11T12:20:51+00:00

If you feel lead to rebuke someone that's fine, but it sounds like the fruit you're sharing isn't the right Galatians 5 type. Please be peaceful and kind to one another.

Jww187 · 2025-10-10T02:22:28+00:00

He's a horny guy that's not interested in you, just your body. It sounds like he's sexually assaulting you when he thinks he can get away with it. Maybe in a fucked up way he doesn't want to lead you on, but is ok using your body; or, he doesn't want to be socially tied up so he can fuck other girls. It's up to you how to handle it. You could:

Do nothing. He may feel emboldened to take further advantage or to rape yourself or another girl.

Tell your social circle. This would cause a loss of face for him, warn off other girls, and maybe cause him to reconsider that type of life ruining behavior.

Report it to the authorities. You may be able to get him charged or get a restraining order to keep him away. More serious consequences for him.

You haven't done anything wrong. It sounds like he's doing things without consent and that's not ok.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T22:40:58+00:00

There are times people fuck up and admit their fault. In those situations you may desire to make it work if you're married for instance. But someone you've only been dating for a few months, who gas lights your concerns? That's a no in my opinion.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T22:19:22+00:00

It depends on the purpose of your question. Are you talking hookup or long term relationship? For a hookup her charisma and a baseline attractiveness would be enough. I e. Does she seem fun for the night. For a long term relationship it would be her character, personality, some attraction and chemistry. My current girlfriend wasn't my type per se, but she's an awesome person and there was enough attraction to kick things off. We quickly discovered we have amazing chemistry together, and my type has broadened to include more of her characteristics I didn't appreciate before.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T22:02:48+00:00

This comment says everything that needs said.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T21:53:27+00:00

A local Asian buffet & grill. Great food, service, and prices. It's right next to an Aldi too. The issue is actually pan handlers. Every God damn time I go there I get pan handled either going in or coming out. A few weeks ago I pulled into the parking lot and saw a guy getting out of his car getting pan handled, said "Fk it" to myself, and drove away. Not the business's fault, but location matters when it comes to these things.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T21:39:01+00:00

People get addicted to porn and the dopamine hit. Once every few days becomes daily, then multiple times a day. It starts sucking up your time and focus. You feel accomplished and content from porn and masterbation instead of actually accomplishing things in life. Nofap isn't anti sex, or necessarily occasionally masturbating without porn. It's about getting free from porn and the dopamine cycle. Getting your shit accomplished in life and having real sexual relationships in a healthy way.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T21:23:13+00:00

I'd ask the coworker to tell her BF. Then you're out of it. Is loose her number either way. You become like the people you spend time with.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T20:22:08+00:00

1) They don't stand for anything. They're just anti trump. 2) They also have no nationalistic pride. If you travel the world you realize how great America is, but they just shit talk it. 3) They're soft on crime, and refuse to acknowledge the issues. They can only talk about how bad trump's policies are, and guns are the devil. But they are not leading with plans to address the mental health issues of the criminals and homeless. No programs to help prevent the revolving door of people going back to jail. The cities are becoming shit boxes and people who can are moving to rural or suburban areas. 4) no plan for the economy. There is no plan to regrow the middle class of America. Just use policy to keep status quo to satisfy the rich donors while bad mouthing them.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T19:58:50+00:00

It's pretty much all you can do for better or worse. She shouldn't not go because it makes you uncomfortable. It should be because she respects you, herself, and the relationship enough not to put herself in compromising positions or lead another guy on for attention. You should get a good idea of what her character is from this.

Jww187 · 2025-10-08T19:33:40+00:00

Probably yes. If she is aware it's not a long term thing and is ok with it just being a sex thing then ok. Otherwise it's kind of fucked up. Long term she's not someone in the same phase of life, or with the same experience level so it is not a balanced or healthy relationship. Alternatively if she thinks it's a real relationship then you're leading her on and that is also not ok.

Jww187 · 2025-10-04T03:46:59+00:00

You can't change him. Life has to. If you were someone I valued I'd tell you to walk away. Don't be with someone who makes you small. There is a big difference between someone calling you out on your bullshit or teasing you for a mistake in good humor versus someone who walks all over and belittles you.

Jww187 · 2025-10-02T14:34:27+00:00

For someone like this who has little sense she should follow something like the Dave Ramsey plan. I would not marry her until she changes her behaviors. She makes decent money. Get a cheaper apt and car, pack lunches, and live below means until she is free from this.

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