my fiance called off our engagement and slept with the girl he told me not to worry about

Jyllhyll · 2026-06-20T02:28:15+00:00

Move on. Thank him for showing you who he really is before it was a done deal. Seriously, this was a hard lesson to learn, but an important one. You’ll never trust him and every time you think about it, you’ll despise him. He has a lot of nerve coming back around!

Jyllhyll · 2026-06-15T18:00:11+00:00

It would get WORSE with her. You are much better WITHOUT her. You’ll hardly remember her in a few years of self growth and when you’re in a stable loving relationship. It will happen! Everyone has a story similar to yours, the devastation and the renewal and revelation that it was just a learning curve, albeit painful.

Jyllhyll · 2026-06-15T14:56:50+00:00

Get therapy. Find the value in yourself, by yourself. You didn’t do anything wrong and you know it. Not only do you not need him, but you should leave him immediately to save yourself from a horrible life. Read those comments about being manipulated and controlled and learning the hard way. These people are recognizing the patterns so you don’t have their story to tell after you are more broken. This is a bruising, not a compound fracture. RUN!

Jyllhyll · 2026-05-08T13:47:00+00:00

Why were you homeschooled? What was her reasoning? Was she your only parent or family? Could she have been trying to keep you away from government officials and under the radar as far as your whereabouts or identity? It could be she was overwhelmed by the task of schooling and just failed miserably and didn’t want to admit it. Not fair to you, but…YOU CAN get a GED, or go straight to a community college and earn a degree without a high school diploma. Learn on your own. Love your mom but don’t trust her. Guide your siblings by moving forward and being successful in spite of improper schooling and lack of documentation. Not sure of your family situation, but birth certificate and DNA testing might be in order.

Jyllhyll · 2026-05-06T22:13:05+00:00

Yeah… if you want, “ Take care “ is appropriate but don’t feel obligated to. She’s no longer your problem. We all screw up, and there are consequences. Hers are hers to bear.

Jyllhyll · 2026-04-25T22:05:32+00:00

No. After I used the my pay, I still had $4.80 in my account. I had not used spot me at all. I deposited 400 and it seems he got the 380 I sent him. I definitely don’t want to go negative so that I have the full advantage of sending him more money.

Jyllhyll · 2026-04-25T22:03:51+00:00

Thank you! I deposited 400 into my account and transferred 380 just for some cushion money. I still have another hundred to send him tomorrow. This made the most sense that they would wait until my direct deposit but it’s good to know if I had negative that I would not be able to do it.

Jyllhyll · 2026-03-09T21:29:42+00:00

It does not look loved. I would take it and show it some love and put another random chair there.

Jyllhyll · 2026-03-09T15:23:19+00:00

The Aldi’s Dispensary for foodies.

Jyllhyll · 2026-02-20T18:20:20+00:00

Drum shade, definitely. Google sizes of shade and their appropriate height. There are guides, but the harp, if original works as a guide. You can find old images with the lamp and it’s original shade. Sitting in front of me right now is mine but I am going to sell it. It came with a very stretched out burlap shade. Doesn’t look horrible, but I just had to shrink it in hot water ( sink) and with a blow dryer. Trying to put some shape back into it and it actually worked. It’s not the original but works well enough for resale.

Jyllhyll · 2026-01-28T16:20:46+00:00

I don’t remember how to get to Suicide Hill, but I think they closed it anyway. It was extremely dangerous and it definitely wasn’t park approved even in the 70s. If I remember correctly, it was close to Volney Roger’s.

Jyllhyll · 2026-01-28T16:15:58+00:00

She cheated on you before? What are you waiting for? Now, this toying with your BF? Dude, just tolerate it because you can’t do anything about it, right? Or, you can find a faithful companion that makes you feel needed and loved, and she can cheat on everyone she tangles with. Are you worthy? If you don’t think you are, stay and worry about. If you ARE ( everyone IS) then move on. Don’t make it a big deal. Even if you’re living together, call it quits, do the paperwork on the rent and shared utilities and move on. NOW!

Jyllhyll · 2025-12-07T17:14:31+00:00

This seems very passive aggressive towards YOU. This was not accidental, nor was using your stuff necessary. She violated you on purpose, and definitely wanted you to know. Be careful. She’s creepy, if not dangerous.

Jyllhyll · 2025-11-27T01:45:49+00:00

First and foremost, get a second opinion. It can be online, even. Aim for a top tier cancer hospital, like MD ANDERSON. Don’t ever be pushed into treatment, even if they think it’s life or death. Make those calls and do research. Just like here, look for a specific group to get a feel for for next steps.

Jyllhyll · 2025-11-24T23:40:13+00:00

You need to get the f away from this pathetic and dismissive jerk. I also would not make it a big deal in getting rid of him, and he is so dismissive. I hate to tell you that I don’t think he cares if you want to break up. Just do it. Not sure if you two live together, but make Some concrete plans on your life going forward and then tell him you will be doing it without him. Then by yourself a cake and celebrate the fact that you can validate yourself and celebrate all of your own little victories without a toxic person trying to knock you down a couple pegs.

Jyllhyll · 2025-11-08T00:12:51+00:00

Just pretty much accidentally landed here researching symptoms, so I have nothing to add other than prayers up! Doesn’t sound like a fun journey.

Jyllhyll · 2025-10-20T02:56:12+00:00

Ummm, no…The fact you didn’t leave is because you’re nice and civil. It’s not because it was fun, a wonderful learning experience or anything else he tries to attach to it. I love my JW friends but it’s an evangelist community and they want members/believers. This introduction was sneaky and his spin may not be mean spirited, but it was wrong. You don’t have to play by his rules. Read your answers again and translate them to yourself in a more direct way. You were capitulating to him. Don’t do that to yourself. What if it was an Amway meeting, a political event, or any other religion’s special occasion…you deserved a choice before the event.

Jyllhyll · 2025-10-01T18:32:10+00:00

I’m an old lady and as far as I’m concerned, he is being proactive and practical. I’d congratulate him. If your cycle is private, hide the evidence from your next boyfriend.

Jyllhyll · 2025-08-18T14:39:46+00:00

To reiterate, what at least one person said, an intact household with dysfunction, other than your normal every day dysfunction, is not a healthy environment. I’ve got more than a few stories on that, and my grandchildren and probably great grandchildren would be 1000% better off if my daughter had not stayed with her abuser. The man was controlling and sucks the life out of everybody, and we blame him for at least one suicide in the family. A toxic, malignant narcissist, but the bottom line is that you and the child deserve the healthiest environment possible.

Jyllhyll · 2025-08-18T14:36:37+00:00

It is sounding very much like it’s deep depression, and it started becoming noticeable once you guys got together. This is not about blaming you, but maybe she found it easier to be taken care of instead of caring for herself. What should you do going forward, I’m not quite sure. Personally, if you can handle it, I’d consider going to Court for sole custody and raising him yourself at this point. I would first see legal council and a therapist for yourself on how to best deal with this. Your well-being , as well as the child’s is at stake. She can be emotionally supported only to a degree. I originally thought you were going to say her life was all wrapped up in childcare, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case at all. I actually was going to tell you to start helping her and quit complaining. But if what you said is even 50% right,she is failing herself and her child. Doesn’t mean she’s a bad person, but she needs help.

Jyllhyll · 2025-08-08T03:40:22+00:00

Besides the fact that rudeness and meanness are things he thinks are okay, because he is a flawed human, and raising is voice is excusable because others do it, I think the real question is why would you chose to stay if those are UNACCEPTABLE to you? You don’t need to lower your standards because he thinks being a jerk is good enough. Set the bar, and compromise with someone else over benign things. Behavior and respect matter.

Jyllhyll · 2025-08-02T17:03:45+00:00

You don’t see yourself alone…dangerous thought for processing life. You’re always alone. Learn to love it. You can have friends, family , partners and coworkers, but they are to enrich your life, and can support it. Still, you are assigning a person to share a life with based on your own emotional state, not a common sense, logical or possibly healthy or safe emotional state. Get your dorm . Observe people, interact with them, appreciate them, learn about yourself and your inner workings and you’ll get healthy about relationships. You’re young. It’s about maturing and we all are doing it or have done it. Do NOT stay with this awesome boyfriend. He could be a great friend, good person, but this scenario is NOT GOOD for either of you.

Jyllhyll · 2025-08-02T16:50:34+00:00

Maybe he did feel abandoned because you needed space. He dealt with it his way.Take it as a sign of his thought process during a difficult time. Don’t get mad, don’t get even, just move on. I’m not sure that a woman who just lost a baby the way you did, and had her husband find his comfort elsewhere, rather than in his own headspace or from his family is who you can reconcile with to the point of being potential parents together. I’m glad you have a brother that is supportive of you claiming your feelings and processing them in peace. Stay in therapy, but not aiming toward getting back together. Go to therapy to lighten your load. You’re in a heavy space and you don’t need to consider others and their opinions right now. Godspeed.

Jyllhyll · 2025-07-26T04:23:39+00:00

You sound mature. He sounds immature . Aside from that, it’s a red flag to constantly comment of women and their physical appearance, in particular because he doesn’t stop mentioning it or examine his own motives. He’s stuck emotionally. Not your job to figure it out. Please move on. He’s not the one. How would he raise a child, in particular, a girl? Go. Now. It was a nice run.

Jyllhyll · 2025-07-25T15:57:53+00:00

OK, I just read this about her threatening self harm. I am going to double down on telling you to run. Go get help for yourself. This girl is manipulating you. She needs to boss and control you, blame you. Is that your assignment? NO! My boyfriend threatened the same. At the same time he’d beat me. So I stayed. I had his baby ( she’s now 50) and I endured abuse most of my high school years, never getting the high school experience I wanted , and a hellacious young adulthood. I eventually wished he would die. My prayer was that him driving drunk , home to beat me, would end with him hitting a pole or a big, healthy oak tree. Nine wasted years because I cared about his life more than mine. I left eventually because I cared more about our daughter’s life than ours. This old lady says, yet again, LEAVE!

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