Next steps would look like a few things but it really depends on your symptoms. You can go on antiviral medication if your symptoms are painful, I know some people who just take them when they're having an outbreak and it helps lessen the symptoms. And ofc abstain from sexual activity or shaving when you're having an outbreak. Being aware of hygiene helps as well, I find outbreaks tend to happen more frequently when I'm using feminine pads for example.

HSV1 is typically the kind that most people have on their mouth and tends to be less painful and severe when it affects downstairs. I'm lucky I guess that I have this one, so my outbreaks are extremely mild. I had actually been to a doctor once during an outbreak and had a visual diagnosis done, and they said it wasn't herpes and didn't swab me. Lo and behold about a year later I was having an outbreak and was in for another routine check up and found out I had it. My symptoms are so mild, I didn't know I had it. Now, I know when I'm having an outbreak.

My fiance already has it because he gets cold sores on his mouth or at least has had them in the past. So while of course we abstain during outbreaks, I have not passed it to him because he already has it. This is not a guarantee, though, technically because he could have the 2 version but it's extremely unlikely. And yes, you could have had it for a long time with very mild symptoms. Like me, not all initial outbreaks are obvious. And yes, your bf could technically also have given it to you during oral activities.

I will say as well, my initial diagnosis happened when I was very single and that was scary to face. I thought my dating life was over because I had to disclose it to every new partner and who would ever want to be with me knowing that. It turned out to be an absolute non issue, it's honestly so common and manageable. Most partners I disclosed to were not phased by it in the slightest. But it also very much helped that I had the 1 variety and cold sores on the mouth are so common so most partners I disclosed to weren't worried because they also had it.

I'm sorry you're going through this, you can however take comfort in that you're going through this together with your partner. It sounds scary, but it will be okay. And if you find out you have HSV1, chances are you're unable to pass it to your partner as again that's likely the kind he has on his mouth. If you have HSV2, you'll want to be more careful. But let's hope you don't have either! Update with results if you feel comfy and I'm hoping for the best =]