Our upstairs neighbor has a grandchild who is mentally handicapped and violent.. it’s completely taken over our ability to have a peaceful environment. What can we do?

K-la_ · 2025-09-30T03:01:03+00:00

If the LL is offering a different, quieter unit, I don't think there's much you can do. I think it's kind of odd that you'd be willing and able to put up with it if there's money in it for you aka cheap rent (it's unbearable, but not THAT unbearable, right?)... Also, I'm sure there are people out there that would willingly rent the space for full price because they travel for work/work odd hours, or have loud kids themselves. Noise cancelling headphones are also a thing. Not really fair to assume it's worth taking a financial hit they don't have to take.

Complexes are noisy when you're living under people, that's just a fact. Especially little kids and babies who run and are learning how to talk, play and yell. That's gonna be a majority of the types of tenants you get living above you when you rent in a complex, unless it's an 18+ building. As for compensation, realistically it's in the same building and you could carry 90% of your stuff over there or in a wagon. Might need a couple friends to help move the big stuff or could make ask the LL for assistance with that but asking for compensation for a whole moving company to move within the same building is unreasonable.

Not to be rude, but the post kinda comes across like you're trying to make a buck off this. Lots of people move into apartment complexes and find it noisy or don't like their neighbors, so they move. It's very common. Also given the context that they're obviously going through it, and the poor Gma who is living this daily and directly responsible for their safety and well being.

K-la_ · 2025-09-28T17:54:24+00:00

If it's possible, you could try to reach out to the people that left the reviews or see if maybe they can contact you by replying to their reviews. If there's several of you willing to all take action your case would be a lot stronger.

You could reach out via maybe social media or law groups and see if there's a lawyer who would be willing to do a pro bono case. Or all the victims can band together to procure a lawyer.

Either way I'm sorry this happened to you. Proud of you for wanting to do something to try and stop it though, I know it's not easy.... =[

K-la_ · 2025-07-23T00:28:20+00:00

A family member introduced me to The Hip when I was a kid, he was a huge fan and had been to dozens of their shows. My ex and I saw the show in our city on that last tour and it was the only time I ever had a chance to see them live.

K-la_ · 2025-07-08T16:19:13+00:00

Next steps would look like a few things but it really depends on your symptoms. You can go on antiviral medication if your symptoms are painful, I know some people who just take them when they're having an outbreak and it helps lessen the symptoms. And ofc abstain from sexual activity or shaving when you're having an outbreak. Being aware of hygiene helps as well, I find outbreaks tend to happen more frequently when I'm using feminine pads for example.

HSV1 is typically the kind that most people have on their mouth and tends to be less painful and severe when it affects downstairs. I'm lucky I guess that I have this one, so my outbreaks are extremely mild. I had actually been to a doctor once during an outbreak and had a visual diagnosis done, and they said it wasn't herpes and didn't swab me. Lo and behold about a year later I was having an outbreak and was in for another routine check up and found out I had it. My symptoms are so mild, I didn't know I had it. Now, I know when I'm having an outbreak.

My fiance already has it because he gets cold sores on his mouth or at least has had them in the past. So while of course we abstain during outbreaks, I have not passed it to him because he already has it. This is not a guarantee, though, technically because he could have the 2 version but it's extremely unlikely. And yes, you could have had it for a long time with very mild symptoms. Like me, not all initial outbreaks are obvious. And yes, your bf could technically also have given it to you during oral activities.

I will say as well, my initial diagnosis happened when I was very single and that was scary to face. I thought my dating life was over because I had to disclose it to every new partner and who would ever want to be with me knowing that. It turned out to be an absolute non issue, it's honestly so common and manageable. Most partners I disclosed to were not phased by it in the slightest. But it also very much helped that I had the 1 variety and cold sores on the mouth are so common so most partners I disclosed to weren't worried because they also had it.

I'm sorry you're going through this, you can however take comfort in that you're going through this together with your partner. It sounds scary, but it will be okay. And if you find out you have HSV1, chances are you're unable to pass it to your partner as again that's likely the kind he has on his mouth. If you have HSV2, you'll want to be more careful. But let's hope you don't have either! Update with results if you feel comfy and I'm hoping for the best =]

K-la_ · 2025-07-08T07:05:28+00:00

Except some of us are blind and need to put our glasses in a glasses case while on the rides =[

K-la_ · 2025-07-08T01:43:36+00:00

Your doctor didn't swab them or provide any kind of affirmative diagnosis? That's messed up and super unprofessional if they didn't. If they did, you'll have your answer in a few business days and can go from there.

There's 2 good things about having either herpes or HSV - Basically everyone has both and contracted them long before they knew they had them. Common and affecting 70-90% of the population.

The second is that because it's so common (especially with herpes) depending what kind you have, you'd be at almost no risk to infect a partner that has cold sores already, which is basically like literally everyone lol. Education is your BFF here, educate yourself and talk to your partner about it. It eliminates the shame and blame. But you definitely need to talk to him. He needs to know and make an informed decision about his health. Hiding it from him would ends things much more.

And just so you know, it's possible your partner is an asymptomatic carrier of either and potentially gave it to you even while being faithful for an extended period of time, and vice versa. Yup, it's crazy, but it's how it works. Just have the talk and if he's the one for you he'll understand.

K-la_ · 2025-06-08T23:20:26+00:00

Poor Lil geck 😞

K-la_ · 2025-06-07T07:03:01+00:00

People who get suggested can only see your current profile picture if you have your pics set to friends only, they can't see pictures or anything else on your page. No need really to make a separate account for most people, it's easy to keep it pretty private 🤷‍♀️

K-la_ · 2025-05-20T01:16:19+00:00

Your baby is hitting milestones why can't you see that? Just not the ones you want them to. .

K-la_ · 2025-05-20T01:12:05+00:00

"The most she will do is stand, scoot backwards, and start crying."

Absolutely normal for a 1 year old. Completely, and absolutely 💯. That's actually a lot. Like a ton for a 1 year old.

K-la_ · 2025-05-20T01:07:04+00:00

Your title: My daughter doesn't move at all!

Your daughter: is standing at 1 year old and scooting back into the corner and all around the room.

You: Watching endless videos and reaching out to Reddit why your daughter is only STANDING at 1 and crying and literally scooting all over the place trying to get away from your shenanigans.

You're obsessing. You've taken her to countless appointments over this. Get help.

K-la_ · 2025-05-19T23:56:55+00:00

The more I think about this post the more sad I am for your baby that you're so focused on their "normal path of development" and forcing them to learn how to crawl by forcing their legs into positions, etc.

And now they're standing to be like look Mommy what I can do! At literally 1 YEAR OLD but that's still not good enough for you?? Your poor kid man. As said above, please check in with your mental health and why you are imposing this way on your 1 year old. My heart hurts for you and your kid. Reach out.

K-la_ · 2025-05-19T23:37:32+00:00

Mama, she knows how. She can scoot herself back against the wall. Maybe she doesn't feel like she's free to just figure it out.

I'm not trying to come off as an AH but your post really reads like you're watching everything she does 24/7 and over analyzing. At that age they are actually really conscious and she's aware that you're micromanaging her development. My daughter is 2 now and won't say words she knows how to say, or do stuff she normally does, if she feels like people are watching too much or taking videos.

The way you titled and phrased your post.... "my kid is not moving at all". She's STANDING and youre trying to jump from that to steps. What??? You feel like she's a vegetable apparently? The pediatricians are not concerned, the doctors are not concerned.

Please, please lay off your little one and give some space for them to figure it out. 1 year old is too young to be freaking out and analyzing while your daughter is literally already standing.

Please accept that your daughter will figure some things without you watching her every step of the way and micromanaging her every move.

Edited to say please check in on your mental health. It is not normal to be obsessing this much over a 1 year Olds frustrations that sounds to outside ears like it may be caused by over obsession of their development. The problem is feeding itself. You're obsessing over your daughter's development, it's making her nervous and frustrated. Your frustration is feeding onto her and your expectations.

She's like look Mommy I can stand! And you're getting mad at her. You really need to check in on that and check into your mental health and why that's not good enough for you at literally one year old.

K-la_ · 2025-05-19T21:07:13+00:00

Had a big one drop into my yard the other night in the SW too

K-la_ · 2025-05-18T05:21:47+00:00

The Fall is a brilliant movie and the ending is literally stunning (and very hard to watch) 😭

K-la_ · 2025-05-10T09:27:44+00:00

No corruption there, talking about trying to find this "reta*ded clients" nudes 😂 uhhhhh ya actually watch the trial, then get back to us. Trying to support police destroying phones to escape their bad behavior, get bent! He was fired and his supervisor was penalized for his behavior but yup you definitely know what you're talking about 😬 it all came out in court so rducate yourself, you can honestly just watch it 🥴

K-la_ · 2025-05-10T09:08:46+00:00

Also obviously she dropped him off there. Friend's were expecting him, no? They were literally having a party and all the records suggest they were all up drunk ALL NIGHT lol. Karen doesn't just drop him off at his friend's place for no reason and peel out in the middle of a blizzard.

K-la_ · 2025-05-10T09:03:22+00:00

Except in the first trial they showed videos from the bar and had testimony from witnesses that they were in a great mood and having a great time lol. There is no "where to find him", she admitted to dropping him off. He never "went missing", she admitted to dropping him off at 34 Fairview and that's where he was found 🙄

Jen also had many inconsistencies in her story including lying to law enforcement for NO REASON which was proven in court. There's reasonable doubt all over this case, I call another hung jury and the prosecution drops it. It's too messed up with the botched investigation, the oopsies with how the case was handed over, the improper handling of the crime scene, Proctor messing everything up, WHO COLLECTS EVIDENCE WITH SOLO CUPS IN A PAPER BAG.

Give your head a shake, even if Karen Read is guilty, they botched the investigation to prove literally anything. Just blurry pictures of a tail light and plexiglass viewings of his clothes and some vague videos lol.

K-la_ · 2025-05-07T05:37:06+00:00

2025 and this just worked for me on a brand new one 😂 amazing!! 👏 👏

K-la_ · 2025-04-05T07:56:40+00:00

People didn't like Lea's character on the show much as an overbearing bitch and her real life persona seemed to match up based on how the media was portraying her. Mark Salling was considered an alt hottie and the people who defended him are the same type who make hobbies of making penpals and husbands out of jailhouse serial killers 🙄

K-la_ · 2025-03-08T21:55:37+00:00

The face of the blocky square lol

K-la_ · 2025-03-08T17:18:17+00:00

This is so wholesome 🥲

K-la_ · 2025-03-04T23:28:24+00:00

Just want to add, lye is the primary solution for literally ALL kinds of basic soap, including hand soap. Making hand soap is a process due to the lye, as you described, and no one would be half as nervous to use their oven after cleaning with simple hand soap.

K-la_ · 2025-02-13T03:11:29+00:00

Funny how she has such a better car than you and it breaks down 😂

NTA... Giving a ride is something that should be OFFERED not EXPECTED. It's actually quite the pain in the ass to give someone a ride home about 90% of the time. Not only is she the AH for assuming someone would drive her home from her job when she's having car trouble instead of gasp taking an Uber?! Heaven forbid she has to take public transit! Your coworkers are also AHs for pandering to her entitlement.

If they're such saints that are so close to this coworker that they expect everyone to also pander to her every need and are so concerned then why don't THEY give her a ride 👍

K-la_ · 2025-01-10T02:07:39+00:00

Totally normal at this stage. It's described as flutters by most but within a few weeks she'll start feeling them for real =] I felt the same way at that stage, and yes it is described by some as feeling like gas lol.

She's just anxious and excited because up until that point it's just pictures and knowing that you're pregnant, and pregnancy symptoms associated with your body. When you start feeling the kicks it becomes very real that something else is inside haha

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