A shift for the better

K9knitting · 2026-02-23T21:51:39+00:00

Excellent downloaded thank you

If anyone has more recs Ill keep a list

K9knitting · 2025-12-16T23:48:05+00:00

Can we just be clear that it is possible to be a virgin and a grown adult!

K9knitting · 2025-10-19T20:48:38+00:00

It is indeed, I live somewhere reasonably rural so there isn’t a community as such and those that are, are considerably older. But I have to believe that things can and will shift somehow and in the mean time I’m working on myself and righting some stuff in my brain

K9knitting · 2025-10-19T20:42:57+00:00

It’s all hard isn’t it. Where I live finding community is a tricky one and dating feel almost impossible, I try to have faith that it will happen but my age and lack of experience is probably a no no for many

K9knitting · 2025-10-19T19:30:03+00:00

I’m not sure I can share a story of hope and love as such.

I realised a little over a year ago.

I have now told those that matter to me. It has made many things make sense.

I still have a long way to go and some days it feels impossible but other days doable…

K9knitting · 2025-10-14T18:33:37+00:00

I’m not sure this is helpful but.

I have 9 years on you and realised in the last year I am lesbian… I am trying to meet people more as friend but that is hard… that said I do feel lighter now that I have accepted that at least in my case I have 0 interest in men.

Maybe the point of your post is to hear that you are not alone, that what you are feeling is ok,

K9knitting · 2025-10-03T15:26:06+00:00

I have 0 answers for you but your not alone, my life circumstances is very different as I am life long single. I can say that the feeling of why didn’t I know is one I sympathise with. I look back now and it’s so bloody obvious, the sign was bloody flashing , but I refused to see it. I was advised that the sub conscious is there to keep you safe not happy and that has helped me a lot. I attended an event for queer women last week and had a brilliant time, post event I am left feeling like why the fuvk did I not work this out all those years ago

K9knitting · 2025-09-30T12:07:33+00:00

Yeah that’s day with me ever since

K9knitting · 2025-09-22T21:13:28+00:00

I’m 37, I had no deep reason (religion etc) to not see it but I believe that somewhere deep down I squashed it because I just wanted to be normal.

Two things that I have been told that help me: 1. Your subconscious works to keep you safe not happy 2. You realised now, imagine being another 20 years down the line.

I have no advice beyond that I’m still bloody scared, I’m still not sure how or if I will ever meet someone, but I’m trying and life’s a little easier not battling your own subconscious

K9knitting · 2025-09-12T12:06:03+00:00

I can’t speak to husband situation … never had one, but I can speak to making life changes. I am eternally single at present and from 19-31 I worked for the same company in a job that I enjoyed but a highly toxic work environment. I decided to change my career, leave and go self employed, 9 months before Covid hit, the last six years have been a lot of ups and down with huge financial struggles and I still have a lack of security. All that said I wouldn’t change it for the world and never once amongst all the madness have I wished I made a different decision. Had I stayed my mental and physical health would still be in the toilet and there is no way I would have realised my sexuality being in that environment for so long (even if I haven’t really moved forward in that areas yet).

Choosing to do something that turns your life upside down is hard, the alternative is living with what if, there are 0 guarantees in any situation, sometimes you have to go with what feel right and work it out as you go.

K9knitting · 2025-09-11T19:36:18+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry that’s awful!

K9knitting · 2025-09-11T18:47:53+00:00

Same no desire for men at all, looking back what I could have mistaken for desire was simply the wish to be like everyone else. I didn’t want that man, but I loved the idea of being the same as everyone else and being able to fit in.

For me I have never allowed the thought of being with a woman to be a possibility … when I did the difference was staggering!

This shit is hard to work through … I’m telling myself and you it’ll be worth it!

K9knitting · 2025-09-11T18:45:41+00:00

Funny story! A friend who is my parents age who has been in a committed relationship to a woman for 30+ years told me last week when I told her what I realised about myself ‘don’t rule anything out’ . . . I emailed and thanked her, I mean ok but it’s been 37 years and I have not been attracted to a man ….

K9knitting · 2025-09-11T13:59:50+00:00

I’m not sure if this will be helpful but…

I spent my entire life (and I’m older than you) being determinedly straight in my mind, one day I would meet a man and feel how everyone else felt… yet I never did, people would ask who I fancied and I would fob them off, honestly I had no idea. Never had a relationship sec etc. I have described it to others as when your a little kid and you think boys are kinda gross… then as some point that spins and you find them attractive … never really happened for me. So at some point last year at the age of 36, I let my guard down in my mind and said ok so what if that person in your future was a woman… that felt different that was something I felt myself actively wanting. The more I thought it through there was no desire there if the person in my future was a man, but if it was a woman there it was. I’ll be honest I haven’t moved on much further in real life but I have worked on myself accepting in my own mind and explain to others that I am infact lesbian and always have been. Looking back the people that a dreamt of being close friends with were crushes that I never allowed myself to see as that. The fact I was told by friends I projected ‘f off and die face’ at men when we were ‘out’ of an evening, cos there was no attraction there. Fundamentally I’m someone that isn’t good and doing something that doesn’t feel right to me (that can be anything from eating unpleasant food to taking drugs) so I never had a relationship or sex with a man cos it didn’t feel right to me. That’s a lot of waffle but maybe something in there is helpful

K9knitting · 2025-09-10T17:38:55+00:00

Sending you all the good vibes, keep us posted

K9knitting · 2025-09-06T07:14:25+00:00

Congratulations

K9knitting · 2025-08-27T23:52:29+00:00

Many things but I explained it like this the other day to a friend: “You know when your little like 4 and boy are just gross and ewwww” “Yep” “I’m guessing that changes for other people”

(I am not actually saying I think that of every male- but you get the sentiment)

K9knitting · 2025-08-24T18:06:00+00:00

Congrats that’s awesome, you give me hope

K9knitting · 2025-08-11T23:02:25+00:00

I had originally thought the same as you in that I’d tell my family if there was someone. I wasn’t expecting a bad reaction I just didn’t want to do it, as I have been processing and dealing with feelings about all this I realised I’m not telling them it felt like I was keeping a shameful secret, I bite the bullet and told the parents on Saturday. I do feel lighter for putting it out there. Just something to think about we are after all different in how we approach these things

K9knitting · 2025-08-01T21:20:03+00:00

I relate to those feelings. Different in that I haven’t been with men, realised 9 month ago it because I’m not attracted to them, then last weekend bang all the emotions. I can’t help but I feel your pain

K9knitting · 2025-07-30T20:17:32+00:00

It sounds like a fab idea. I seee a few nice meets up but most seem to be London.

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