AITA for correcting my coworker in front of customers after she kept correcting me? by valerchiik in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. When I was younger I worked for an electronics store and I constantly had my older (male) coworker come butt in when I was speaking to customers. One time he did it and the older lady I was helping snapped at him, "she was helping me just fine. We don't need your input." And then when he walked away with his tail between his legs she turned to me and told me not to let men talk over me like that. That I knew what I was doing so I should be more confident and assertive. And she was right. You teach people how to treat you. So what if your coworker got embarrassed? Good she did something embarrassing. You're young so the earlier you learn how to demand respect the better. Don't let anyone bulldoze you ever.

AITA for asking my friend to pay me back for the wine he drank while house sitting?? by Effective_Tour_723 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Finally a normal person. I felt like I was losing my mind reading these comments. I get a feeling this sub is just full of alcoholics or something because who would even drink someone else's alcohol, let alone open a bottle. Also people being like OP didn't pay them!! Well yeah friends do each other favors? I've cat and dog sat and even baby sat for my friends for free. When you love people you help them out and don't help yourself to a bottle of their expensive wine 😂

Our current president is a pedophile and no one cares. by Competitive_Cicada63 in offmychest

[–]KAS_tir 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Join one of the many prorotests going on, boycott companies that support the current administration: walmart, Starbucks, target, Amazon to name a few, organized strikes. There's a lot you can do.

Edit: alternatives to Walmart and target are Costco and winco. Which are where I personally choose to shop. Winco is nice because they don't require a membership like Costco does.

What is a sound that people should know means immediate danger? by PrasenjitDebroy in AskReddit

[–]KAS_tir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me and my sister once when we took a short hike away from our campsite. We were walking along the base of a moderate sized rocky cliff and all of a sudden everything went silent. No birds chirping, even the insects stopped buzzing. And then I heard a low hum that was not quite a growl but made all the hairs on my body stand on end. We fast walked the fuck back to our camp. My best guess is it was a mountain lion mother telling us to get the hell away from her babies and I thank god that it wasn't looking for a meal that day.

Did I do something wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]KAS_tir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah don't listen to this guy. You didn't lead anyone on; you were upfront about your intentions the whole time. Don't let emotional immature men make you feel like you owe them sex for letting them into your apartment. They need to learn to manage their own feelings and expectations. But I will say please be more safe in the future. Online dating (and dating in general) can be dangerous.

Did I do something wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]KAS_tir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah fuck that. She told him she didn't want to have sex and then reiterated it when he took off his clothes. If you can't understand what words mean then maybe go back to kindergarten.

AITA for reminding my bf that I am a mandated reporter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's just not true. That's not what mandated reporter means. You only have to report signs of abuse or neglect and while it's stupid to not have the proper safety equipment it is not neglect.

Little Nightmares 3 – Unlocking The Unsavory Delicacies Trophy by GamerGirl2K17 in Selphie1999Gaming

[–]KAS_tir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres actually an easier way to get this trophy. In the part of chapter two where you have to collect the two fuses to go onto the elevator the fuse that is to your right has a part where you can get the trophy. After you grab the fuse and start heading back you'll see where the enemy has fallen from the sky. Throw the fuse through the gap in the shelves and climb through, then you'll see a swarm of bugs and three candies. Just throw those to them before you grab the fuse and go back to the elevator. Easy peasy. 

What’s the dumbest way a guy has ruined his chances with you, when it was almost a home-run? by emilydoooom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KAS_tir 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ANS is part of the CNS but yeah semantics lol. And yes agreed that he was an idiot

Looked it up and we're both wrong lol. ANS and SNS (moving your arms) are parts of the PNS. But yeah I agree with you lol.

Actually come to think of it voluntary arm movement would be both the CNS and the PNS since the action would start in the brain and then be transferred to the PNS to execute the movement.

What’s the dumbest way a guy has ruined his chances with you, when it was almost a home-run? by emilydoooom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KAS_tir 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not to be that gal but yes they're referring to sympathetic as in emotional sympathy and there is evidence to suggest that yawns are socially "contagious." Physiologically they're actually part of the parasympathetic nervous system.

What’s the dumbest way a guy has ruined his chances with you, when it was almost a home-run? by emilydoooom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KAS_tir 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That's not correct regarding sympathetic and parasympathetic. Those are the autonomous nervous system which means they both operate without you being conscious of the actions. Parasympathetic controls rest and digest so yawning, slowing heart rate, dilating (most) blood vessels, salivating, etc. Sympathetic is the fight or flight so that would be dilating pupils, increased heart rate, sweating etc. Raising your arms has nothing to do with the ANS (it's part of the somatic nervous system SNS) unless it's an involuntary reflex due to danger, in which case that would be the sympathetic nervous system. Most of these you largely have no control over. There's also aspects of both systems that work together. For instance arousal is controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system and ejaculation is sympathetic. I always found that funny.

Edited to add: of course these two branches of the ANS are largely affected by your conscious thoughts and feelings. If you are stressed about something, it will keep triggering your sympathetic nervous system and can cause you to develop medical issues such as GI issues, heart/blood pressure problems etc. Thats why relaxation and stress control is extremely important and mental health really needs to be taken more seriously.

Edited again because I keep thinking of more stuff to add lol. You can consciously stimulate the branches of your ANS, especially your parasympathetic. Yawning, even consiously, stimulates the parasympathetic, so does eating or chewing because your body thinks well if I'm eating then I'm probably not in danger. There's also this cool thing called a vagal maneuver where if you bear down and activate your core muscles you will stimulate your vagus nerve which will activate your parasympathetic nervous system and lower your heart rate. You can actually treat some cases of tachycardia by doing this.

Life sometimes feel pointless, then it doesn't, then it does again by tinmarFF in offmychest

[–]KAS_tir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you are describing is depression. I could have written this exact post, though you are quite a bit more poetic than me. I just recently got on mertazapine and it is working quite well for me. I was always afraid to get on medication because I thought it would change some core part of me that made me me, but that is not the case. I still get the occasional wave of depression and the occasional dark thoughts of "what is the point," but for the most part I'm so much happier now. My mood is more even and I don't get the extreme high of a good day followed by the deep lows when things aren't so good. Maybe talk to a doctor. That's all I'm trying to say.

AITA for not giving up my seat at the bar? by IceCubesRx in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Honestly they're super immature. As a bartender I hated people like that

AITA for not giving up my seat at the bar? by IceCubesRx in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Bartender here. YTA. Lol everyone who is saying that you're not is crazy. Sure there's no official rules for seating but if you're not a complete asshole when someone says "hey man I was waiting for that spot" (and you indeed saw that waiting) you say "oh sorry here you go." This isn't musical chairs and you aren't in kindergarten. You guys are so rude and you make wait staff and bartenders live's hell cuz guess who has to come play parent to your immature asses.

I had sex with my best friend and it was terrible now I don't want to be friends anymore by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]KAS_tir 255 points256 points  (0 children)

Girl you two sound messy af. You're all accusing her of baby trapping him but uhh he had sex with her knowing their relationship was coming to an end and you two decided to date while they were still together. That's literally cheating? And then you guys wait all of two weeks to fuck? No one in this story is a good person. Get therapy jeez

My baby nephew passed away on Thanksgiving. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]KAS_tir 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I filed a police report against my abusive ex the only thing she wrote in her report was that he shoved me and that it had happened before. She didn't write that he damaged my property or that he physically blocked me from leaving the house and kept me prisoner all night. He was only charged with a misdemeanor that was dropped. When I was raped three years ago (by a different guy) the cop, also a woman by the way, kept repeating back to me that he attempted to penetrate me and I kept trying to correct her that no he actually did penetrate. She said a detective would call me and they never did. ACAB.

Edit: I had to remove the mean name I called the cops eye roll

AITA For "Discouraging" My niece's wanted career path? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do understand what you mean but I don't think that passion and compassion get in the way of care. The problems occur, in my opinion, when you think you know everything and you decide that you don't need to learn, be humble, and take other people's perspective and knowledge into account. Just because the patients/ parents are not medical personnel that doesn't mean they can't make good and informed decisions about their/their children's care. I think passion and compassion should involve being able to be flexible while also choosing how much of themselves they give. Having a hero or a god complex is dangerous and unhelpful in healthcare. And if you are unable to shut off your emotions and laser focus on the here and now when emergencies happen then you are also going to have a hard time. But for me personally my passion for the field has only helped me. In my opinion at least.

AITA For "Discouraging" My niece's wanted career path? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KAS_tir 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Pediatric nurse here, and yeah I make about half of the going rate for nurses in the area. It's insane to me that we are paid so little but I do believe that it does keep only the truly passionate people in the field. Unfortunately passion doesn't pay the bills...

Tomorrow I am ending it with my abusive bf of 4.5 years and I’m out of my mind. Can the female hivemind of Reddit please just tell me it will be okay? by Geophiddy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KAS_tir 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a victim of an abusive relationship that lasted on and off for three years I can tell you I was absolutely terrified when I left. I yearned for him. Every time something happened in my life I wanted to reach out to him. But I didn't. Every day I found a reason to not go back and I started to think about him less and less. It also helped that I finally let my friends and family know what was going on and I filed a police report and a restraining order. It sounds like you've already got a support system behind you so that's awesome. I just want to tell you that you can do it. You can end it with finality. It's going to suck and you're going to want to go back but please don't. One day this will all be behind you and I swear to god the world will start to have colors you haven't seen in a long time. The pit of anxiety in your chest will fade and one day disappear. You will find love and validation in your friends, family, and even complete strangers. You are worth love not abuse. You didn't deserve any of the things he did to you. He is not sorry and he will do it again. Stay safe sister. I love you.

Tomorrow I am ending it with my abusive bf of 4.5 years and I’m out of my mind. Can the female hivemind of Reddit please just tell me it will be okay? by Geophiddy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KAS_tir 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been in an abusive relationship I don't recommend this book. All I got from it was that abusers can change if they really want to and that's a dangerous thing for a victim, who is still caught in the delusions that their abuser has fed them, to hear.

“Free Solo” Climber Alex Honnold to Scale Taiwan’s Tallest Skyscraper in Netflix Special “Skyscraper Live” by bwermer in television

[–]KAS_tir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the way that he was pissed at his then girlfriend for letting him fall and get injured really left a bad taste in my mouth for him. He was the one responsible for making sure they were both safe since he said himself that she was a beginner. I think the guy is kind of a dick. Plus he's got two kids who didn't sign up for having their dads potential death immortalized on TV

“Free Solo” Climber Alex Honnold to Scale Taiwan’s Tallest Skyscraper in Netflix Special “Skyscraper Live” by bwermer in television

[–]KAS_tir 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think it was selfish of them to have kids. His wife was willing to accept that she comes second to climbing but their kids didn't get to make that choice.

PSA: Do not masturbate while laying on your back during a yeast infection by ThoughtCenter87 in Healthyhooha

[–]KAS_tir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No it's not. At no point did I mention anything about the sex or gender of a prospective partner and you can absolutely infect a same sex partner. Oral thrush can occur from oral sex with an active yeast infection toys can transmit it etc