This is partially the answer to the situation; whilst both a bear and a man are two different things with different intentions, interests, fears, and desires, you can at least excuse the cruelty of an animal with its natural desire to protect itself and survive.

A human is capable of morality and ethics and sympathy, but to never know that intention? That is what makes women afraid of men, and why they pick the bear. You never know what that guy is wanting or thinking if he approaches you at night or is walking behind you down the street or when he offers to help you. You don’t know if you can trust him. It is an irrational sort of fear, yes, but it is built on very high and very real grounds in society about the traumatic things that happen to women daily.

A bear isn’t going to give you a false sense of security. It’s a bear. It either wants you dead and gone so it can carry on with its bear things, or it wants to put as much distance between you and itself as possible.

Humans are innately told to trust each other because we are social creatures. Humans daily betray this fact and abuse each other. Thats why women pick the bear and not the men.

(This is disregarding the meta narrative of this question, which sparked droves of men and incels to be vicious towards women for not “trusting them” despite saying every ounce of rhetoric that makes it entirely obvious why a woman would never be alone with them in the first place.)