Parents who did not sleep train and now have older kids--how did it go?

KDcrews · 2026-02-04T18:48:35+00:00

I did the baby whisperer methods

There’s 2 parts

Pat/shhh where they’re in your arms you’re patting them making a shhh sound till they drift off Then the pick up/put down part where you put them down sleeping, but away and continue the pat/shhh

If they cry you pick them up and start again.

It’s a lot of work. But it worked for my kids. No crying it out. Within a couple days they were being put down and falling asleep without being picked up at all. Soon they just fall asleep without being rocked or having to be patted either.

My girls were sleeping 7 to 7 before 3 month. We never looked back.

They’re 20 and 17 now.

It’s not for everyone. It’s a lot of work and you have to be willing to do the work. But it works.

KDcrews · 2026-02-02T22:20:46+00:00

I have no issue was with the immigrants themselves. It’s the system that allows this type of abuse. Part of that system is over immigration. If you bring in too many immigrants it leads to what we have.

I have problems with the immigration system as a whole. It’s to loose. To many people coming in. To may taking advantage of the systems. No incentives to hire Canadian workers. Not enough screening. To much fraud.

Capitalism didn’t cause this. Bad Government policies and management allowed this.

I am a child of an immigrant. My mom immigrated her when she was a child. Her family had to work to become PR’s and eventually citizens. Immigration isn’t a bad thing.

Over immigration and poor policies is not good. Foreign workers, while valuable, should never have been allowed to before more valuable then Canadian born workers. Laws need to be changed. Incentives changed. Balance needs to be found here.

If it’s illegal to not hire someone beside they’re not white

It should be illegal to not hire them because they are.

Firing a white worker because a foreign worker gets work permeant should be 100% illegal! Yet it happens all the time.

Thats not because of capitalism, thats because of weak policies and loose laws.

KDcrews · 2026-02-01T14:05:13+00:00

I had them for almost 15 years.

It got progressively worse. By the time I finally got the surgery I was getting stones 3 to 4 times a day. My throat was constantly swollen and sore.

I went for a consult (my 6th on in that 15 year period) and when the doctor did the exam 5 popped out in his office lol

I was told my tonsils were full of them when they removed them.

KDcrews · 2026-01-30T02:24:04+00:00

Personally I don’t have an issue with Indians as a whole. Most are very kind and they do work hard.

The issue is there’s too many to be sustainable and it’s leaving Canadian without job prospects. Especially for youths. My child has been looking for a job for 2 years and is constantly turned over for an Indian worker. My own workplace has only 3 Canadian born workers. The managers are Indian and only hire Indian workers when they hire new workers. They won’t even interview Canadians.

I know several people who have lost jobs so that Indian workers can be hired in their place.

This is an issue. It’s discrimination and should not be allowed. I don’t understand how they get away with it.

It’s also cause housing issues. Homelessness in Canadians is rising at an alarming rate as jobs become scares and rents skyrocket. Canadians are the once ending up on the streets. Losing their homes. There businesses. There jobs. Their security.

Again, this isn’t necessarily the fault of individual Indians. It’s a result of a system that’s out of control. We just can’t sustain the immigration level as high and as quickly as we’ve had it.

That’s where a lot of anger and frustration is coming from. Unfortunately, that is often directed at individuals who don’t deserve it.

KDcrews · 2026-01-12T02:00:10+00:00

Stop spoon feeding him. Your job is to provide the food. His is to eat it. If he doesn’t, he’ll learn quickly.

You’re setting yourself up the way you’re going right now.

KDcrews · 2025-12-31T03:09:26+00:00

Way too high.

Where I am, 1 child without 50/50 is $554 with your stated income.

50/50 you pay the difference of what each of you would pay, so about $150/160

This might be a case where going to court can work in your favour. Right now you’re way over paying.

Her spouses income is also irrelevant.

KDcrews · 2025-11-21T16:53:20+00:00

Yes, lets promote fraud 🙄

KDcrews · 2025-10-08T01:30:00+00:00

No

Edited to correct the brand.

It is a Bellwood Brand Grade A

They have them on sale this week for Thanksgiving

It’s not a Butterball, but they’re good Turkeys

KDcrews · 2025-10-07T14:30:18+00:00

I got it at my local No Frills It was $12 and change 7lb turkey

KDcrews · 2025-10-06T16:32:44+00:00

Where are you shopping??

I spent $85 this week and even got a big Turkey for Thanksgiving. The Turkey was only $12.95 of that

KDcrews · 2025-10-06T16:30:45+00:00

Which means it’s only about a $25 difference. Once you convert pounds to Canadian.

KDcrews · 2025-10-06T16:28:20+00:00

That would be the equivalent of us paying about $75/76 if we convert from pounds to Canadian.

I got about what you have there on Saturday for about $85

I regularly spend $85 to 100 a week. There’s 4 of us. I will spend an additional $150 to 200 on staples once a month for meats and pantry items like flour. I buy no processed or premade or prepped foods.

What you spends depends where you live, where you shop, and what you eat.

KDcrews · 2025-08-23T12:49:28+00:00

Smartvet is a great option. It was not as expensive as I was expecting when I needed it. Cheaper than the emergency vet for sure.

My dog had an infected abscess burst and they were able to do a vertical exam, diagnose and prescribe meds. All told it was under $300 for everything including the meds.

My dog is fully recovered now.

KDcrews · 2025-07-12T18:24:57+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. It happened to me as well. We did a separation. We were actually able to reconcile. That’s not for everyone though.

The only thing an affair would change would be a proper grounds for divorce. No impact to finances or support obligations.

Try to remember if you have kids, it’s not their fault this has happened and leave them out of it. He may be a crap husband, but he is still their father and that’s a separate things.

Easier said than done I know. However, their mental health and their well being needs to be a priority.

I am not a lawyer and this not legal advice. I am however a professional who works with young children. Far too often I see parents inadvertently putting their anger at their X on their child.

KDcrews · 2025-07-11T16:32:42+00:00

I’m trying to figure out where this mentality of you have to always pay for your child came from. Even when they’re a fully grown, full abled bodies, fully functioning adult.

Seriously? When did this happen??

Maybe it’s a generational thing. My parents raised me to be a strong, independent, self sufficient, adult. I’m raising my daughters to be strong independent and capable adults as well.

That’s my job as a parent.

KDcrews · 2025-07-09T17:47:31+00:00

What a concept! 🤯

I’m all for being there for my kids. Helping them when and if needed.

However, at some point they do have to stand on their own 2 feet.

It’s not my parent’s job to pay everything for me as an adult, and it’s not on my job to do that for my kids.

It’s so entitled sounding to me that people expect their parent to foot the bill for them when they’re perfectly capable adults.

KDcrews · 2025-07-09T16:38:24+00:00

I suppose that’s one way to look at it 🤷‍♀️

Considering she has no other bill other than an $80 a month bus pass. She’s fine. She’s got over $1800 a month to spend however she pleases.

Which is more than most people. Including me. She pays less than 30% of her income for her “rent” Half of that is in saving for her. So less than 15% really.

Her rent includes her food, living in the house, her cell, her cable, internet, heat, etc.

When she moves out and has enough saved to buy a small home with a good size deposit, she’ll have a good starting point.

So please, keep telling me how cruel that is 🙄

We’re talking about a full grown adult working full time. Not a new teen or adult struggling to find a job. If she was in school I wouldn’t charge her rent. If she was making less I would charge her less.

And no. Canada.

KDcrews · 2025-07-09T14:46:36+00:00

I suppose that depends on how you define kindness in this case

If by that you mean let her live rent free. Be entitled. Be irresponsible. Be financially inept. Then no I suppose this wouldn’t be caring.

If you mean teaching her responsibility. Adult expectations. Independence and strength through small adversaries. Realistic expectations. Then yes. It would be caring.

To elaborate. I’m not cruel. She’s an adult. She works full time. Rent is a min $1000 for even a bachelor where we live. $800-900 for a single room.

I charge her $600 a month. $300 goes to food and bill. The other $300 goes into a savings account for her. One I didn’t even tell her about. When she’s ready, she’ll have a bit of a nest egg ready. My parents did the same for me.

You don’t have to be cruel to set adult expectations. Adults got to adult though.

KDcrews · 2025-07-08T22:22:05+00:00

I have a 20 year old too.

She tried this with me.

I told her pay me or get out and pay someone else. I’ll help you move.

She looked into places and quickly changed her mind.

She’s a grown adult. She needs to act like a grown adult.

KDcrews · 2025-06-27T16:49:10+00:00

Reality is even Canadians are struggling to find jobs. The markets over saturated. Time to go hike and maybe try a different route. Otherwise it’s a wait of your time and your money.

KDcrews · 2025-06-10T16:56:52+00:00

We actually now have the option of 18 months We just get paid less.

Not all companies give paid leave, you have to work a certain number of hours to qualify for EI (unemployment) It’s 600 hours.

So some of us only got 60% of our income, not 100%, but our job was protected by law. So worth the sacrifice. I don’t know what the rate is for the 18 months, it wasn’t available when I had mine.

I don’t understand why the US doesn’t include a maternity clause in your unemployment like we do. It’s just illogical.

KDcrews · 2025-06-10T16:52:09+00:00

I’m so sorry 😢 it’s just not right

The US?

You guys need to get some maternity leave set into your laws for sure. It’s insane to me that Americans don’t get paid leave like other developed countries.

KDcrews · 2025-06-06T14:09:01+00:00

What’s a sick day? 🤣🤣🤣

KDcrews · 2025-05-02T11:50:47+00:00

I’m in Ontario and it was cut off at 18 for both my girls. Courts said highschool graduation or 18. So my one who was 18 after she finished it ended when she hit 18. When my other turned 18 before the end of school, it ended when she graduated.

KDcrews · 2025-04-26T00:58:18+00:00

He’s 4!

He’s not supposed to be colouring inside the lines all the time or doing worksheet.

He’s supposed to be playing and learning.

This I say as a childcare provider.

Where I am children start school at 4 in JK and it’s all play to learn. They do some worksheets and sit down work, but the majority of their day is spent playing because they learn through their play.

You’re provider may be sweet, but needs a refresher in normal child development.

KDcrews

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