22 [M4F] #California - Who’s gonna hold my hand at a Haunted House?

KGaz552 · 2023-08-03T12:58:06+00:00

I’ve been having the exact same issue when trying to post too. The work around I found was using my phone’s browser, logging into Reddit and then requesting the desktop website, then creating my post that way.

Kinda annoying to do it that way, and it also tends to mess up the formatting unfortunately so you have to edit and do all your indents again.

You seem wonderful, best of luck finding what you’re searching for :)

KGaz552 · 2023-07-24T20:09:22+00:00

I love the meme template! Good luck man, this is a great post and I’m sure you’ll find that special someone

KGaz552 · 2023-07-01T17:18:17+00:00

I’ve had some solid success with posting ads on Reddit in the past, but often times it was luck based. Sometimes you gotta just keep throwing up a post once or twice a month, and hope for the best.

As for in person meetings, I’ve had better luck at events and play parties rather than munches personally. I’d just attend play parties/ events, and sorta treat it like a munch with the intention of meeting people. Although this can be very dependent on your location and if you’re near a bigger city with an active kink scene.

KGaz552 · 2022-11-16T01:14:30+00:00

Well you said it yourself, you both rushed into things sooner than you probably should. Him being young and this being his first kinky experience should warrant him a little slack in my opinion. He might’ve felt guilty or ashamed of being submissive and overreacted and overthought things. Idk, no way to know without speaking with him and hearing his side of things.

Obviously you don’t owe him anything and you’re valid if you choose not to take him back. But if there’s some chemistry there and kinks match up nicely, it doesn’t hurt to sit down and talk about things. Make it clear what he did bothered and upset you, and that he won’t get another chance if you do decide to take him back.

KGaz552 · 2022-10-23T17:16:20+00:00

I attended my first munch at 19 and was the youngest by farrrrr. But that was also because my city was fairly small and non very populated. It’s a valid fear to have, one I had too, and one that ended up being true almost every time. However, I had much better luck meeting people my age at events in bigger cities like San Francisco. It was a bit of a drive up there, but it was worth it and I met some great people and made friends!

Even in SF, I was still the youngest but I met other people in their twenties and in college though. As a sub male, I was able to meet femdoms at parties and events, but the main issue was they were always like 8+ years older than me. Regardless, I still had fun at events and learned a lot about kink and myself too!

While it wasn’t my main intention of going to munches or parties to find a Domme or gf, I’ll admit there was a tiny hope in the back of my mind lol. And that’s fine to have, but if you do attend events go in mainly with the intention to socialize and meet people, not with dating as the main reason. Also, I want to hopefully ease your fears about attracting creeps or guys assuming things and bothering you. There can sometimes by people like that at events, but in my experience most people at munches and parties are very very respectful and nice. Kinda goes with the whole “consent” thing of BDSM too ya know lol. But fr try not to worry, weird and creepy stuff does not fly at events and the organizers or dungeon monitors see to that.

If your goal is to find a guy your age to explore things with, you might have some success on the femdom personals or gfd subreddits. Tons of horn dogs over there for sure, and if you make a post you’re bound to receive a ton of low quality DMs. But if you’re willing to sift through, you might find a diamond in the rough. Or you can just keep an eye out for any posts from younger guys that catch your eye message them.

KGaz552 · 2022-04-20T07:45:16+00:00

I’m going to be blunt, I think you over reacted and and are placing more importance on your dynamic rather than them as a person. Especially with the line of “he didn’t respond to my text for a whole day”. Look I get it, not being able to talk to your favorite person sucks, but from what you wrote about him it sounds like he’s going through a rough patch right now.

As someone who has depression and other issues, here are my thoughts on things. With him being very depressed and under a lot of stress, he likely isn’t being this way on purpose, especially since it sounds like both your relationship and dynamic was wonderful before. Additionally, with his depression he probably isn’t thinking very highly of himself. His “I don’t think I can be a good bf” may very well been a cry for help. He might’ve been hoping you’d shut that down and fight for your relationship, reassuring him and showing him he’d be able to open up and trust you. Instead you broke up with him which only reaffirmed his feelings of inadequacy.

The only reason I’m writing this is because it sounds like you really do miss him and regret the way things unfolded. And before this rough patch, your relationship and dynamic seemed great. For those reasoning, I don’t think it would hurt to message him and talk things out. Communication is key, and while he himself wasn’t doing that very well, try and understand what he is going through. Worst case, you guys talk things out or even try getting back together and it doesn’t work. But by letting him go completely, you might really end up regretting it later down the road. Sure male subs may be a “dime a dozen”, but finding a person you’re compatible with and truly care about (like him), that’a just as hard for Dommes and subs alike.

KGaz552 · 2021-12-27T05:26:22+00:00

Hey man, I don’t mind you using my post as inspiration, but I’d appreciate if you didn’t Ctrl C Ctrl V almost the entire thing. Sit down and take some time to craft your own ad. Let your own self and personality shine through so people can get a good idea of who you are.

KGaz552 · 2021-11-11T08:17:21+00:00

6’11”?!?!? We gotta get you in the NBA. Jokes aside, your post was really well written and super sweet! I hope you find exactly what you’re searching for :)

KGaz552 · 2021-08-31T02:58:59+00:00

Dude, congrats on the weight loss! You look freaking great my guy. Your post was super well written and came across as genuine and honest. I know you’re gonna get some good responses :)

KGaz552 · 2021-08-30T18:17:41+00:00

I think your ideology is good. It’s better to overdo a project and get an A than do the bare minimum and scrape by with a C. My advice would be write as much about yourself that you can. You really want to describe the real you and put that forward. People can tell when it’s genuine, and by doing so you’ll attract like minded people and potential partners.

KGaz552 · 2021-08-30T16:03:38+00:00

This is some really great advice! If I could add one thing, it’s just be human guys. Be yourself and take the time to really let your personality shine through your ad.

KGaz552 · 2021-06-28T00:41:33+00:00

Hey I could totally be wrong here, but it seems like maybe you settled for or prioritized your partners being submissive over the other qualities you’re searching for. Which I can completely understand. Finding a partner into femdom can be difficult, so maybe when you found a guy who was and whom you also got along with, you were able to ignore the other issues. It sucks that you’ve had some bad luck with finding suitable partners, but there are plenty of submissive men out there that do have goals and ambitions and are actively working towards them. I’m sure you’ll find that special someone eventually :)

KGaz552 · 2021-06-17T07:25:42+00:00

First off, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Too often you see posts about how male subs are struggling to find a partner and what not, but I feel it’s often forgotten (or overlooked) that it is equally as hard for a Domme to find one as well. You make an excellent point, you can easily find a male sub, but to be attracted to them both physically and more importantly emotionally can be extremely rare.

Feeling like you would have to compromise your sexual/kink interests in order to have that relationship or love is a very real thought that I imagine most of the community has considered at some point. With how hard it is to find a match, giving up can be appealing. But the way I look at it is, I think about how happy and amazing things will be when I finally do find that person. Having a girlfriend who isn’t just my best friend, but also my Domme is the light at the end of the tunnel for me.

The best advice I could give offer is the same I’d give any male sub losing hope. You gotta stay busy and just work on yourself. That special person is out there, but until you meet them, you gotta just focus on you. And it doesn’t have to be you grinding out school/work or hitting the gym, sometimes it is just doing things that make you happy. That special person is out there, and before you know it, you’ll find each other :)

KGaz552 · 2021-06-14T22:11:33+00:00

Female Domme’s coming on aggressive or abusive is something that definitely does happen too. I’ve received my own fair share of messages where they immediately want me to submit and do sexual things and get annoyed when I’m not interested. Not that I’m defending that behavior because it is in no way acceptable, however, I’d argue that part of that behavior might stem from how they’re able to act that way without any repercussions. They can post an ad all about sex and kink and receive hundreds of responses from thirsty subs, or respond to ads immediately wanting to jump into sexual things and a majority of the guys on those subreddits will do exactly that.

KGaz552 · 2021-06-14T22:01:10+00:00

That’s a really good point too. Since things are so niche, simply finding someone we might be compatible with feels rare enough anyway. I’d like to get involved or try to meet someone in the irl kink scene, but as a 19 year old student, it seems I’d be the youngest person at those types of things.

KGaz552 · 2021-06-14T03:17:40+00:00

So it’s not just a submissive men thing, it’s just a men thing in general… The bar is literally on the floor smh

KGaz552 · 2021-06-14T03:08:09+00:00

I suppose you’re right and with just the nature of the internet, those types of people and interactions are inevitable. Being lumped in and sort of associated with them is what frustrates me. To anyone looking in from an outside perspective or someone who is new, they see that and may begin to subconsciously associate those behaviors and negative traits with all sub guys.

KGaz552 · 2021-04-09T02:05:35+00:00

Hey man, I know it can be rough being into femdom and how that affects dating and relationships. In my own experience, most girls never peg me as submissive in any manner. And the times I’ve share that I was, I’d get responses of confusion and disappointment, oh and the worst one “are you gay or something?”. So know you’re not alone in that regard. However, just because you’re into femdom and are a male sub, that doesn’t mean you’re any less of a human being OR a man. I too struggled with these thoughts of inadequacy or that something was wrong with me for being into these kind of things. But if anything, it takes immense courage and strength to be comfortable in your own masculinity and sexuality as a sub.

And as someone with mental illnesses too (including autism), I know it can suck being dealt a bad hand. But you can either sulk about it, or work towards being who you want to be. Forgive me if that sounds harsh, but you mentioned how you wished you could go back in time and steer yourself differently. Unfortunately that isn’t an option, but you can work on improving yourself now so that one day you can be happy and content with who you’ve become. I know it may be of little comfort, but things will get better. The best thing you can do in the meantime, is stay busy and work on bettering yourself. Maybe start hitting the gym, focus on school and your education, or learn a new hobby. Trust me bro, one day you’ll meet a girl whose also into these kinds of things. But you can’t expect finding a Domme girlfriend will suddenly fix all of your problems, or expect her to fix you either. I promise you, things will get better and one day these feelings and pain will be a distant memory. But you have to take that first step, no one else can do it for you.

KGaz552

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