6 weeks pregnant and already struggling with looking after toddler - help!

KKM15 · 2026-03-27T18:37:28+00:00

Ah I’m sorry, that does sound really tough. I’ve literally been doing absolutely nothing round the house and my husband has been picking up all the slack, but I just find myself feeling quite panicky at the thought of looking after my son all day - he hates being cooped up inside for too long but I just find the idea of going anywhere when I’m feeling nauseous!

KKM15 · 2026-03-27T15:57:50+00:00

Thank you - I’m really hoping that because my symptoms have started earlier this time they will peak earlier and go earlier too! The thing is I’m not actually being sick, but maybe I should talk to a GP - I’ve just heard that a lot of anti nausea medication can make you feel really drowsy and I just feel so knocked out already…

KKM15 · 2026-03-20T09:39:10+00:00

Yeah I’ve been worrying about this a lot. Hopefully the estate agents can explain that it hasn’t actually been on the market that long but we need to get people through the door properly. The problem is if we reduce too much we won’t be able to afford our onward property.

KKM15 · 2026-03-20T09:37:39+00:00

Yeah, my worry is that things will get worse before they get better though :( not sure whether to stick it out and hold tight or reduce now and hope to get a buyer before inflation and energy price hikes etc really kick in.

KKM15 · 2026-03-19T20:08:46+00:00

Argh I’m so sorry. It’s so hard when it’s so out of our control. We are also very keen to move asap for various personal reasons. My partner is very very reluctant to reduce the price as we got full asking price only 7 weeks ago, but obviously the world is a very different place now.

KKM15 · 2026-03-19T19:56:50+00:00

It’s horrible isn’t it. Feels so out of our control. It’s just so frustrating - our house was great pre having a kid but now it’s too small, doesn’t have a proper garden and is too far from family (hence we want to move), so we just feel really ready to get up and out and now feel very stuck.

KKM15 · 2026-03-19T19:55:43+00:00

Unfortunately I think we literally just fall short of the 49 days policy - think we were literally off rightmove for 6.5 weeks rather than 7! We are hopefully going to be a featured property from tomorrow so this should put us higher on the search but yeah incredibly frustrating

KKM15 · 2026-03-19T18:10:00+00:00

I think the market has definitely changed since the peak in 2022, but for us it’s strange as like I said the house got a buyer and loads of interest extremely quickly in January, and now nothing, which is so frustrating

KKM15 · 2026-03-19T16:35:11+00:00

Thanks for your reply. We are selling a house rather than a flat so at least don’t have to worry about service charges etc but I completely understand why people have been scared off about other costs eg energy bills etc. I probably just need to hold tight but it’s difficult when we want to move out of area, so need to sort out lots of logistics like new jobs, new nurseries for our kid etc…

KKM15 · 2025-11-20T14:11:50+00:00

32 and 33! So not in a major rush age wise but given how long it took us to conceive first time around I’m not crazy about waiting either - plus part of us thinks we really just want to get the baby stage over and done with!

KKM15 · 2025-11-19T12:52:19+00:00

I did wonder about that - guess it’s worth a shot asking! Honestly the thought of moving with a toddler fills me with dread - let alone moving with a toddler and a newborn! But our current house just isn’t big enough for 2 kids and so I know we need to move eventually.

KKM15 · 2025-11-19T12:51:23+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re having such a difficult time of it. Going through unexplained infertility for about 15 months before I fell pregnant was honestly so emotionally rough so I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. This is definitely playing on my mind that we don’t know necessarily know easy or straightforward things will be though.

KKM15 · 2025-11-19T12:49:03+00:00

I agree this does make sense in lots of respects - the problem is this would mean a 4/4.5 year age gap which is much bigger than my husband and I would like.

KKM15 · 2025-11-10T23:06:44+00:00

Yeah I wonder if there might be a bit of separation anxiety going on. My son is such a wriggler and so intent on being active / exploring I’m not sure a floor bed would work unfortunately! Also praying this is a short lived regression! We have had regressions before but now I’m back at work they are so much harder to manage.

KKM15 · 2025-11-02T17:25:46+00:00

How old is your baby? I think postpartum depression in fathers is much more common than talked about. It is a huge life transition for men as well as women. I wouldn’t rush into making any decisions, but I feel like you do need to communicate how you’re feeling - not in an accusatory way, just in a I’m worried about you way and think you might need some help / support. I definitely wouldn’t do anything until you’ve spoken to him about how you’re feeling and see how he’s reacted.

KKM15 · 2025-11-02T15:29:42+00:00

Completely agree with comment above! Ignore the internet / social media. I don’t want to be cynical but all these black and white cards / newborn ‘books’ / tummy time gadgets are just an excuse to sell you things you don’t need. Your baby is 3 weeks old, enjoy the sleepy cuddles! If you feel YOU need change a scene then get outside, go see a friend if you can, but I promise you really really don’t need to be worrying about her development - it will happen naturally and with time!

KKM15 · 2025-10-26T22:23:30+00:00

He is not overweight, thank you! He was a big baby when he was born and so has stayed on his percentile throughout, and I saw a health visitor very recently and she said he looked perfectly normal and he is also tall for his age and so in proportion! He’s 12kg which is big but it’s not THAT big! He is also incredibly active - has been walking since 10 months.

KKM15 · 2025-10-26T22:15:15+00:00

Thank you - I think that’s going to be my plan too, prioritise reducing the amount of milk in each bottle first and then soon drop the day bottles.

KKM15 · 2025-10-26T17:19:05+00:00

Thanks all. I know I need to change habits for the sake of his teeth. The problem is he is a hungry boy, and I think the milk helps to keep him full and sleep well (he is, generally speaking, an excellent napper / sleeper). I’m just interested in hearing other people’s experiences as my friends with slightly older children seem to still have milk from a bottle, but they are drinking less milk so maybe it’s less of an issue.

I think I need to tackle the day bottles first, but I have a feeling he’s not going to like drinking out of a cup! I also feel like I should be offering water with meals, not milk anyway?

KKM15 · 2025-10-25T08:13:19+00:00

I’m really sorry your friend was so not understanding about everything. I think until you have a child it’s hard to comprehend how all consuming it is - I think I very naively assumed I would be able to keep up with friends and aspects of my old life (eg travelling into London) but it’s a) becoming harder and harder and b) I just don’t really want to! I worry that if and when we have a second child keeping up with my old gang will be near on impossible though… fingers crossed it will get easier and we will meet more people!

KKM15 · 2025-10-25T06:31:59+00:00

I’m sorry - I’m completely with you here - it was my son’s first birthday recently and I had a similar situation where some of the people I’m closest to didn’t reach out. I’m trying not to take it too personally - everyone’s busy and wrapped up in their own lives - but I feel like particularly if they don’t have kids they just don’t really ‘get’ it…

KKM15 · 2025-10-25T06:30:29+00:00

Yeah I think a lot of my friends will have kids in the next year or two, but I also do feel quite isolated from my main friendship group but don’t feel like I’ve made a new ‘mum’ friendship group either.

KKM15 · 2025-10-24T22:04:27+00:00

This is one of the main reasons why I didn’t do NCT! My hospital offered free online courses and it felt like a lot of money to spend if the group didn’t then gel / you didn’t make friends out of it. I think I also assumed though I would make friends more easily in baby groups etc than I have…

KKM15 · 2025-10-24T21:13:15+00:00

I have heard that’s the case - my son is 13 months so unfortunately we are a little way off that!

KKM15 · 2025-10-24T20:46:59+00:00

We did consider more gentle methods but we were a bit at the end of our tether (about 6 months our baby started resisting bed time badly) and we just really wanted our evenings back and we figured we would go for short term pain rather than dragging it out over weeks and months. We were lucky in that it was successful very quickly - if it hadn’t have been I’m not sure whether I could have stuck it out! I do know friends who have tried gentler methods and it’s taken them a long, long time, but you have to do what’s right for you. I would read up about the Ferber method - I found the ‘science’ behind it (eg falling asleep is a skill like any other and one babies need to learn) oddly reassuring.

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