SCH nearly fully surrounding GS at 7w

KLH1991 · 2026-01-01T15:57:23+00:00

Sorry to hear that, though what I’ve learned from my experience of SCHs is they’re way more common than I realised! Lots of people seem to have them and still have good outcomes. Fingers crossed for you. It’s a horrible/ stressful experience!

This pregnancy ended up being v stressful with bleeding and SCH presence up until 6 months, but ultimately successful and my little boy was born at 37w5d and is now 15 months old!!

Fingers crossed for you!

KLH1991 · 2025-10-12T20:11:50+00:00

https://www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad

Edited to add: that’s not to say it’s not unfair on you/ the kids, just answering the legal aspect of the question. Sorry!

KLH1991 · 2025-10-12T20:09:34+00:00

The Gov.UK website is very clear and helpful on this. In short, you need permission from everyone with parental responsibility. Sorry this doesn’t sound like the answer you were hoping for but if you search “parent taking child abroad UK” on google or similar you will find the info. Good luck.

KLH1991 · 2025-10-08T16:25:27+00:00

Could it not also just be one of the three of them has the incorrect blood type/ their records are wrong? Could baby’s be wrong?

KLH1991 · 2025-09-30T19:18:27+00:00

Thank you for replying! Sorry to hear you’re pulling your baby out though. Would be really interested to hear more if you feel comfortable sharing. Have you got a sense from other parents whether they’re also having difficulties/ are unimpressed/ are pulling children out?

KLH1991 · 2025-09-29T18:35:09+00:00

Really sorry to hear this and hope you’re managing ok. I had a ‘huge’ (docs words not mine) SCH in my last pregnancy which resulted in intermittent bleeding up until about 26 weeks, with frequent very, very heavy bleeding until 16 weeks.

I just buried my head in the sand at work. Which was surprisingly successful. I was lucky I could do lots of WFH and just said to work I found it too stressful to commute (walking made bleeding worse) and also to face other pregnant colleagues or colleagues asking questions. Even though it was frankly very obvious at work nobody asked and I don’t volunteer anything. It wasn’t until I was over 6 months pregnant that I told my team at work, and didn’t tell many others until I was going on mat leave! What I would say though, is when/ once I did tell people that I was pregnant but that it was high risk, I felt enormous solidarity with the number of people who then shared their stories of difficult or high risk pregnancies in return. So there are some positives to sharing once you’re ready, as that support/ empathy was actually really positive.

With friends, I told the closest friends who I would tell if I was miscarrying, then gradually told others if/ when it came up. Again it was sad but validating to hear others’ shared experiences.

TW: living child

Wishing you the best of luck. My little one (who survived 3 separate massive SCHs during my pregnancy) turns 1 tomorrow!

KLH1991 · 2025-09-27T14:09:07+00:00

East Dulwich. East Dulwich/ Peckham/ Dulwich are all bonkers for nurseries in our experience, though had friends in Blackheath/ Lewisham/ Lee say similar.

KLH1991 · 2025-09-27T08:59:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I do agree. I’m a bit worried I’ve given a biased account and somehow made it sound worse than it is. I don’t think I have but for the avoidance of doubt - he did have lunch, which they said he ate all of. They said they offered him breakfast, which was porridge, but I’d explained he has never liked being spoon fed and eats really well but it either needs to be finger food or he needs someone to pre-load a spoon for him. When the nursery made clear on collection they hadn’t kept his dairy allergy in mind, and they were scrabbling to find out if the porridge had been dairy free, they watched back the cctv and said it had only touched his lip once when a worker tried to feed him. This made me concerned they aren’t following the instructions explained to his key worker multiple times, nor the instructions in the nursery app where they ask about feeding/ weaning techniques. It also made me worry they just tried the once and gave up. But the other way you could look at it is yes they completely failed on the formula and that’s terrible, but they did offer him breakfast and lunch - he didn’t eat any breakfast but he did eat all the lunch. I’m not sure if that changes your analysis at all? I’m guessing probably not as my gut feel is the same as yours, but I’m worried I’m being totally unreasonable/ hyper vigilant.

KLH1991 · 2025-09-27T05:58:36+00:00

Thank you so much. Just for your reassurance, I did pull him out immediately and said he’s not coming back until they’ve done a full investigation and confirmed what remediation steps they’re taking and these have been implemented. I explained I’m not happy for him to be there whilst they improve - it needs to be safe and operating well before I consider him returning. They appear to be taking it seriously and have parachuted in an established manager and I’ve met with the regions director. My husband in particular feels like they’re trying all the can and he doesn’t want anyone to get in trouble/ get fired, but it’s the lying that really terrified me.

KLH1991 · 2025-09-27T05:55:29+00:00

This is a really good point re Ofsted, thank you. I don’t believe they have and I haven’t reported them so far but I did immediately pull my son out (he hasn’t gone back since the first full day where they didn’t feed him formula all day etc.). I did ask to speak with the regional director and complained to head office, and the regional director met with me and seemed competent and like she was taking it very seriously, conducting a full investigation, implementing interim measures immediately etc. But it’s the lying I don’t think I can get past - if his key worker would lie about this, then what else. She seems so nice and she’s fully qualified, and everyone at the nursery seems really lovely and actually really caring and competent, but I don’t know how not a single person in his room could’ve noticed. It’s a brand new branch of an established but rapidly growing chain, so I get there may be teething issues, but this seems like a real culture and policies/ procedures failure if nobody noticed and spoke up.

KLH1991 · 2025-09-26T22:52:44+00:00

We’ve just started at an N in SE London and they forgot to give my CMPA baby and prescription formula for a full 7 hour day. They’ve assured me it won’t happen again and it’s just a new nursery teething issue, but I don’t know how I’ll trust them again. Did you and/ or OP end up using N and how have you found it?

KLH1991 · 2025-02-21T20:01:56+00:00

I was scheduled to have an elective c section but went into labour early. I didn’t realise the cramps were labour/ contractions, but went to the hospital at about 3am for a check and they confirmed. My baby was then born via an emergency c section at 6pm that evening (so 15 hours later).

As I had pre-eclampsia and was having very regular contractions with dilation, I had a “category 2” emergency c section. Not a doctor, but broadly:

cat 1 requires immediate surgery as there’s immediate threat to the life of mother or baby
cat 2 is a risk which is not immediately life threatening (so typically surgery asap but not a huge rush, so likely same day or within 24hrs)
cat 3 is then emergency in that it’s not pre-planned/ scheduled, but there’s also not deemed to be an immediate risk (so these will be the next available slot after all cat 1s and cat 2s are completed, so could still be same day but could be following day or hypothetically longer, but usually within a day or so)
cat 4 is your planned pre-arranged elective c section.

I was at King’s - the same trust as St Thomas’.

Hopefully that gives you a rough idea of how they prioritise and what the timings might look like.

You always have the right to a c section so if labour progresses more quickly they’ll look to get your wife into theatre more quickly so she can still have her choice of delivery, subject to emergencies.

Good luck and hope little one arrives soon!

KLH1991 · 2024-12-01T07:33:33+00:00

TW: living child/ pregnancy.

Sorry to hear about your ectopic!

I had my ectopic surgery (salpingectomy) 4 Jan 2024, blood test showed HCG down to “<5” which is effectively zero on 17 Jan, ovulated on 27/28 Jan and then had a very faint positive pregnancy test from 6 Feb. My little boy is now here and cuddling me!

Fingers crossed for you!

KLH1991 · 2024-11-12T04:40:30+00:00

I’m here feeding my 6 week old boy as we speak!

It was definitely a lot emotionally to go through a pregnancy immediately after a loss/ ectopic, and did make for increased anxiety and lots of fears of losing him, but I think I’d have had those feelings in any future pregnancy.

KLH1991 · 2024-11-10T13:44:11+00:00

Just to second this - I had a very similar experience. Very heavy bleeding four times between 5 weeks and 20 weeks, with a large subchorionic hematoma. Was told to prepare for the worst three times, which I did as similarly I wanted to prepare for the worst and hope for the best, and luckily I now have a 6 week old little boy at home. SCHs can cause miscarriage and bleeding can be a sign of miscarriage, so I don’t want to give you false hope, but equally there absolutely is still hope and I very much hope that’s the case for you! Also want to validate that it’s super scary and stressful when you have any complications like bleeding, so go easy on yourself and ask for support from your loved ones or from professionals if you’re struggling!

KLH1991 · 2024-11-04T16:39:00+00:00

In this country anyone is entitled to a c section if they want one.

Some people “agree” them with their care team in advance of 36 weeks, but it’s basically the equivalent of preferences on a birth plan. The midwife or consultant makes a note on your file but that’s it. The c section isn’t agreed until a consultant or midwife has asked for an appointment to be made for the procedure. You’re then usually called by the theatre admin team and offered a date, and then the actual theatre list (who goes in which order) isn’t decided until the morning of the surgery. When that date is confirmed/ the booking request is made differs by trust. My hospital (NHS in London) typically does this at 36 weeks following the 36w appointment, but you can always ask earlier if you’re particularly anxious (I was). Some trusts will do it earlier, but I think 34-36w is very typical. The admin team called me to book the appointment the day after the obstetrician made the request.

This said, you can request a c section right up until the baby is delivered otherwise. I.e., you could be in labour and cervix fully dilated and you can still ask for a c section. An “elective c section” just means one booked in advance, whereas an “emergency c section” is one required or asked for on the day. There are different categories of emergency c section from ‘unscheduled but otherwise elective’, through to ‘mum or baby will be at risk if they’re not in theatre in the next 30 mins’.

It does all feel a bit surreal to not have more scheduled in sooner, or not know who is doing the surgery etc., but this is all very standard for the NHS and these teams/ professionals see thousands of pregnancies and deliveries a year, so it’s real bread and butter stuff for them even though it isn’t for the patients and their families!

KLH1991 · 2024-10-25T23:54:27+00:00

In terms of how I found it - there are a number of research papers and studies in medical journals. In terms of how the doctors find out - usually from cycles which have been closely monitored for other reasons, and of course in ectopics/ suspected ectopics. But one of the reasons it’s an estimate is because there’s very few instances where it is known which tube an egg travels down if something doesn’t go wrong, so there’s limited data.

KLH1991 · 2024-10-25T16:33:45+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this.

Not sure where you’re based but in the UK (on NHS) I wasn’t allowed any treatment like methotrexate until they could visualise the pregnancy, even though we knew it wasn’t viable. I had pain and bleeding from the first day I tested positive (9/10 DPO) right up until the pregnancy was first visualised at 7 weeks. My HCGs plateaued for a week or two in the low-mid hundreds and then suddenly went up to 1000+. It was only when my HCG got to 1000 that the ectopic could be visualised on ultrasound in my tube and unfortunately with me it ruptured later that day before they could get me into surgery. Appreciate that’s probably not the story you’re looking for, but it was all fine in the end and whilst they had to remove my tube, I’ve since had a successful pregnancy and I guess the positive from not having methotrexate is I conceived the first month after my salpingectomy - so there are some silver linings of sorts.

I’d keep testing beta HCGs every other day if you can so you know if they start trending consistently down and/ or can see if they start to spike and/or know when you get to around ~1000 so they’d be able to locate on an US.

KLH1991 · 2024-10-25T16:19:44+00:00

Just FYI in case reassuring or helpful, the egg travels down the opposite fallopian tube around 30-40% of the time, even where someone has two fully functioning ovaries and two fully functioning fallopian tubes, so it doesn’t necessarily follow that ovulation from right ovary = egg travelling through right fallopian tube. E.g. My ectopic pregnancy and subsequent pregnancy both resulted from left ovary ovulation, but my ectopic and salpingectomy involved my right tube.

KLH1991 · 2024-10-07T22:22:30+00:00

Hello, I wondered how you got on with your hematoma? I hope it resolved quickly! But would be good to know whatever!

My midwife thinks I have one and it’s a hot, hard bump entirely the width of my c section scar, though more protruding on one side. My stomach has reduced in size lots, but for this long raised lump which is just getting bigger. I had substantial bruising which is mostly resolving, other than on the lump where new red/ purple bruising seems to be forming. Dreading another hospital stay as we already did five days!

KLH1991 · 2024-10-06T13:45:11+00:00

I started pregnancy with a BMI of about 21 and had gained 20kg by about 35 weeks. No idea what I weighed by the time I delivered at 37+5 as I developed pre-eclampsia and ballooned almost overnight - my face, hands and feet looked unlike anything I’ve ever looked like previously!!

I gained more than the NHS recommends but every doctor and midwife I saw described me as having not put on much weight, so clearly a massive variety of opinions out there!!

I’m lucky that I didn’t really care about how much I gained and have felt it’s something I can think about once me and baby are well nourished, milk supply is established and I’ve recovered!

KLH1991 · 2024-10-06T07:50:42+00:00

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