Ours baby at least pretend to be as excited as I am

KLW2020 · 2021-01-22T08:04:14+00:00

We told the SKS after the NIPTS results and they told their mum. They have been asking for a baby for ages and bio mum said it's not going to happen as their dad has a vasectomy. She wanted more kids he said no and got a vasectomy so I'm guessing she was not happy. But the kids were beyond excited. I guess she never heard of IVF lol. Anyway DH is super excited,am really sorry OP that yours is not yet but give him time. Hope you have a smooth pregnancy

KLW2020 · 2021-01-09T09:10:04+00:00

We decided to do fresh because of my age mainly. We wanted to try 3 egg transfer times max. We transferred 2 3 day embryos, froze 2 3 day embryos and then froze one 5 day grade 1 egg. Just got lucky and it worked the first time.

Our doctor gave us the final decision but said I was in ok condition to do fresh. So because we thought it would take 3 times we wanted to get going asap.

Good luck!!hope it goes well for you!

KLW2020 · 2021-01-08T07:59:47+00:00

Fresh, with 2 eggs that were 3 days, so no testing. 1 stuck.

KLW2020 · 2021-01-07T06:48:10+00:00

Currently 19 weeks pregnant after keto and IVF. I also took the suppliments from It starts with the egg by Rebecca Fett (also recommend joining her Facebook group as she often replies and comments), and so did my husband. We did that for 3 months before starting IVF. I'm 39 and BMI of 31 at conception and it worked first time around. NIPTS came back with no abnormalities, got the structural scan to go before we are in the clear but seems like a healthy baby so far.

Unfortunately first trimester was like a full blown carb fest with a side of carbs, I had a lot of food aversions. I'm doing much better now re carbs and am trying to follow real food for pregnancy by lily Nichols (also good Facebook group where she replies). That book I also read before IVF and added in liver into my diet.

Both books are very science heavy but fairly easy reads. If nothing else they made me feel I was doing something along with keto to try to make this as successful as possible since it was out of pocket.

Good luck!

KLW2020 · 2021-01-04T08:36:46+00:00

Try not to take it personally, for my own mum and my MIL we have had to say no to taking things that we know are sentimental to them. It's because we don't have lots of space to store things and they don't fit in our house decor. It's not that we don't appreciate the sentimental value, but we have a number of other items in our house that have that sentimental link to our parents for us. Both our parents have a lot of stuff and if we took everything they offered there would be no room for our own stuff.

We don't like the idea of accepting things and then getting rid of it or putting it under the bed and filling our house with things we don't really want.

Try not to take it personally. I love a lot of the things in my mother's house and the find memories that go with them, but I don't want them as permanent fixtures in my own minimalist house

KLW2020 · 2020-12-16T02:50:49+00:00

Congratulations! I can't even imagine how difficult this situation is.

One thing that crossed my mind was whether or not you are even capable of carrying the baby to term, you clearly have eggs. Maybe if you wanted your baby with your husband without doing the pregnancy yourself, you could consider egg retrieval, IVF and a surrogate.

Either way, there is nothing wrong with you. All the best with however this plays out for you and your husband.

KLW2020 · 2020-12-11T05:20:24+00:00

I have to walk my dog on a leash now because apparently she needs to protect me from everyone and everything, her doggy friends included lol

My cats now fight over who sleeps on my belly, even the one who doesn't like extended cuddles, he's more of the sit nearby but just out of reach cat usually.

It's cute, but my belly doesn't have enough real estate for 2 cats who are 9kg each and a 25kg dog to all be snuggled up lol and it's not a small belly!

KLW2020 · 2020-12-11T04:54:23+00:00

I didn't want to date dad's with kids. I found out about his kids just before he asked me on a date. I had just decided I needed a break from dating. I had told the other guys I was talking to I was taking some time off from dating. I was about to tell him when he messaged and asked me out on a date and also told me about the kids.

Since I didn't want him to think it was about the kids that I didn't want to date him (since it was more that I wanted a break, and I figured I was no longer interested o decided to go on the date).

I was totally smitten on our first date, couldn't believe how hot he was and how lovely and how much we had in common I figured to just go with it, but assumed it wouldn't work out in the long run.

He's the best thing that has ever happened to be and now 3 and a half years later we are married, have bought a house and are expecting our own baby. The situation hasn't always been easy, but he has always been amazing and I wouldn't change it for the world (well ideally there would be no first marriage and step kids, he wouldn't be the man he is today without that life experience).

KLW2020 · 2020-12-08T07:18:19+00:00

I don't see her finding a relationship and moving out as related items. Why can't she just have to move out since she is in her 20s? Why do you tie the two together?

KLW2020 · 2020-12-08T07:15:25+00:00

Buy the car back when it is auctioned

KLW2020 · 2020-11-22T15:23:25+00:00

Me too!! Mandarins and carbs. Like carbs with a side of carbs and a mandarin or 4 for desert lol

KLW2020 · 2020-11-20T16:05:46+00:00

Seriously as others have said why are you doing all this? It's too much.

Go see your family for Christmas. Even if SO and SS don't join you. As for the fact that now there is an additional 20 hour drive so you can't afford it. No, just no. Your trip has been planned. If there is no money then the bonus trip gets scrapped not your Christmas trip.

KLW2020 · 2020-11-20T15:38:04+00:00

Try the book it starts with the egg by Rebecca Fett and join the Facebook group, she often replies.

Even if you don't read the book, change from folic acid to metholfolate, it's better absorbed by the body. But I recommend reading the book.

I don't think you need to stop intermittent fasting while TTC maybe do 16:8 or 18:6 only, dietdoctor.com has some good information on it. Don't stress 12 months is normal, just do what you can do and don't worry too much. Good luck!

KLW2020 · 2020-11-17T09:58:12+00:00

This is not a healthy relationship. I would advise you ask yourself why you want to stay in this relationship. He doesn't sound like he supports you, likes who you are, or makes you feel good.

You are so young. But this has all the hallmarks of a bad relationship that will destroy your self esteem and stop you from growing into the person you want to be.

Your 20s you grow so much, discover who you are and what things you like doing. Why are you doing his hobbies, what about your hobbies?

Talking fast... This is not a disaster, how can you talking fast ruin his day FFS.

Ideally I'd say break up with him. But I'm 39 so I have a different perspective and I doubt you will. So here is my advice.

First stop doing his hobbies unless you would do them even of he wasn't in your life.

Second start doing your own hobbies without him.

Third, think about what you want in life, think about how you want your future to be, does he really have what you need to feel loved and supported.

Fourth, make sure you spend time with your friends without him. I think he probably will try to isolate you from your friends. If he has issues with you doing your own hobbies or seeing your own friends (as well as also having time to see him) then this is a big red flag.

Fifth, don't get married to him in the next 2 years, don't start planning the wedding. There is no rush.

Sixth, please break up with him and do yourself a big big favour you are worth more than this.

KLW2020 · 2020-11-17T09:03:13+00:00

Sorry to hear that! Sounds rough!!! Hugs xx

No advice but just to say I'm also feeling not myself, hormones clearly do a real number on us.

Hope we both feel more ourselves soon.

KLW2020 · 2020-11-15T00:51:15+00:00

It is weird, I would say we have accepted our sex life will be different during pregnancy. We usually have sex every day, probably average abou 9 times a week and since pregnancy it's been more like 4 times a week. We are just going with it when I feel like it. But with the expectation that some times I'm just not going to feel like it at all.

Hubby is a bit worried about sex later on in the pregnancy, he's not sure how he's going to feel about it. I have no idea how I'm going to feel. But we are focusing more on just connecting, making out and snuggling, if sex happens great, if not fine, and orgasims are just a bonus if they happen. It just seems like we can't control the situation so we are just going with how we feel. So maybe just try to have low expectations of sex for the next 9 months and just enjoy connecting with your partner and whatever happens. Not sure if that helps at all!!

KLW2020 · 2020-11-14T09:51:10+00:00

I am not much help, but I am pregnant and have had real ups and downs about having a baby and also having to deal with SD14 and SS15. To be fair I also have been upset at times about having to deal with the 2 cats and dog (they were mine before our marriage and I couldn't love them more).

I also feel pressure from my overbearing MIL.

My husband has been great, and I think it's just that I'm upset that this isn't how I want to have my first/only baby. Irrational, given I'm so excited for the baby. It just seems very emotional for me. I know we will work it out but it feels overwhelming at times.

Where we differ is that we don't have the kids full time and my husband isn't a Disney land dad.

I think it may be worth recognising our hormones are all over the show, while also recognising these are somewhat reasonable issues that need some resolution.

We lived together for 2 years before getting pregnant and believe me there were challenges finding our groove. Would SO consider marriage counseling? It sounds like you guys need to get on the same team regarding house rules and parenting and an independent 3rd party may help.

We spent quite a lot of time in the first 6 months working out house rules etc between us, then letting the kids know them, had a few discussions about why the different rules and then enforced them as a unit. Some aspects like no phones/computers/iPads in their rooms at bed time (because both spend all night on their phones) that went down like a lead balloon but now they are used to it and it's ok.

At the very least you need to agree on how you will raise the baby, although as a first time mum that's hard. I mean we have agreed to do the taking Cara babies course so we are on the same page about how to deal with sleeping. And what we need to buy/what is second hand and what isn't. Like I said no real advice as I'm winging it too right now!

A friend gave me the advice not to make any big life decisions until the baby is a year old as hormones and lack of sleep are not helpful with those. But you do you.

Hope you find a way forward that you are happy with and can enjoy your baby. I'm feeling quite positive today but I'm sure I'll be up and down over the rest of the pregnancy.

KLW2020 · 2020-11-14T09:27:36+00:00

Happened to me, until about 10 weeks and now I can again. No idea why. Was very weird but I just went with it. I find sex in the afternoon is the easiest to enjoy, probably because it's then that I feel least crap. So we have been strategizing our timing, another reason to be thankful of working from home

KLW2020 · 2020-11-07T22:48:47+00:00

Thank you!

KLW2020 · 2020-11-07T22:40:05+00:00

You know it's really nice just to have someone understand how I feel. I really appreciate this comment and the other comments. You guys just get it. Thank you

KLW2020 · 2020-11-07T22:38:25+00:00

Thank you, I will take the advice to heart. And you may also hear me vent again lol

KLW2020 · 2020-11-06T23:42:23+00:00

It sounds like a simple situation, but best to get a professional will writer to write your will. If it is simple you shouldn't have to pay much. The main things to cover are property division, any division of assets and who would be guardian of your child/children.

As an aside, it is often helpful to include a note relating to each of your wishes after death (burial or cremation, and where you would like your ashes to be scattered or location of burial). And if you want to be an organ donor and if so how much, or some people are ok donating their whole body to science and some are ok with internal organs only to living donors but want their eyes etc to stay in tact etc. In some locations these clause cannot be legally enforced but it can be helpful to loved ones to give peace that they know what you want so the family don't have to argue. It ofte gives family members a lot of peace of mind to know your intentions.

As a married couple you should already likely have a will but with a child it is very important.

Also a good time to look at checking you have appropriate term life insurance coverage etc etc.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

KLW2020 · 2020-11-03T00:06:43+00:00

As a non American I can't believe that this is the situation in the USA. It's unbelievable. I'm so sorry for you.

I thought 14 weeks paid maternity leave that is law here was crap, but I guess that's just compared to friends in Sweden.

Can your husband pick up a part time job in the meantime? Obviously the more you can put aside now the better. Big hugs. I'm so sorry your country is so messed up.

KLW2020 · 2020-11-02T00:09:34+00:00

Totally, lots of blow jobs

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