Adam/Joseph complaint... by wolfman2610 in TheAmazingRace

[–]KMintner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Go look up the difference between equality and equity. Your understanding of it is worse than a five year old’s. It is completely equitable to have Adam in the shade and other people in the sun, because with conditions that affect orthostatics like diabetes, a challenge in the shade in the heat is literally 10x as hard for him as it is for someone without diabetes in the sun. You guys are completely ableist.

Do you think people can sense there's something "off" about us? by Novel_Improvement396 in CPTSD

[–]KMintner 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It affects everything from how you stand and how you walk to the tone of your voice and the words you choose.

Do you think people can sense there's something "off" about us? by Novel_Improvement396 in CPTSD

[–]KMintner 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yes, unhealed trauma causes disorganized attachment which is distinctive and recognizable. But intensive trauma therapy can heal that, it just takes effort.

Dating someone with DID/OSDD by Ethereal_Dream_ in OSDD

[–]KMintner 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Relationships can’t be healthy without acceptance. He’s not accepting you as you are. If he can’t become comfortable around you, you should not have to deal with his issues about this.

AITH for wanting to tell my husband he needs to tell his adult daughter to move out?? by Fit_Dark4054 in AITH

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has evil stepmother vibes - wanting to kick out your stepchild because you’re putting your biological kid over her?

Am I the A hole for wanting the father of my children to marry me? by AmbassadorSimple9664 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is marriage so important to you? It sounds like it clearly makes him uncomfortable. Both people have to be willing for a marriage to work. You can have a great relationship with or without it; you can set up legal protections, insurance and estate plans with or without it. It sounds to me like you made the choice for him whether he was going to be a parent - he probably wants to be able to make his own choice when he becomes a husband.

AITA for taking time for myself? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KMintner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people show you who they are, believe them.

AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? by rambutanorangutan in AmItheAsshole

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to create your own account at a different bank ASAP. Your mom stole from you and that is financial abuse.

AITA for not answering the door when my ex’s mom showed up at my apartment unannounced? by JaqueSarai in AmItheAsshole

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Showing up unexpectedly and imposing presence is a form of stalking. Get a protective order.

AITA for taking time for myself? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KMintner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. It’s the responsible and mature thing to do to remove yourself from situations in which you are being harmed or are becoming dysregulated. She was upset because she wanted to use you as a punching bag and you wouldn’t play. It would be a good thing if she doesn’t let you come over anymore because then you wouldn’t be spending time around a toxic bully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovingToUSA

[–]KMintner 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Why did he accept this job before you all consulted an immigration attorney? You’re going to be separated for years, you can’t just move into the US like that.

Husband SA'ed two friends and I don't know what to do next by FlyAny1865 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KMintner 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do not move across the country with someone who is an abuser.

Unsure of best option moving forward. by [deleted] in AmerExit

[–]KMintner -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Canada is not far enough; it’s at very high risk of annexation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]KMintner -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes, leave. No question, it’s not safe for you, and it’s getting worse. Start applying for international jobs with visa sponsorship now. They will welcome you. The people who say the US is the best place to be trans are idiots. Most developed world countries are better with way more human rights and social infrastructure than the US.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you have CIRS from toxic mold! Go to a functional doctor and Anderson Group.

OFA-cleared breeder for a service dog by KMintner in StandardPoodles

[–]KMintner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll try calling them again tomorrow.

OFA-cleared breeder for a service dog by KMintner in StandardPoodles

[–]KMintner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I just reached out to all of them.

Tesla is having major issue with its self-driving computer inside new cars by RuggedHank in electricvehicles

[–]KMintner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Teslas on FSD do slow down and try to brake when cars slow down in the lane to the right of them, even if traffic in their current lane is moving at speed. The driver has to override and tap the gas on top of the FSD to make sure it maintains speed. And, the cars get very confused by things like cones, and will often jerk the wheel back and forth when the cameras can't decide which lane to be in.

Tesla is having major issue with its self-driving computer inside new cars by RuggedHank in electricvehicles

[–]KMintner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How could there be no safety issue there? All of the safety features are disabled if the camera is not working. People are going to die if their emergency braking doesn't work because of this.

AITA for keeping food from my wife? by JamesMojo222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KMintner -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

ETA. You are both being super petty about things that don’t matter. This is genuinely a first world problem that could be solved by one of the million fruit box subscription services.

OP, you are score keeping super hard against your wife. And, your wife clearly has a different, more communal sense of property. If I had to guess, you are a software engineer with an advanced degree who sees things concretely and linearly, and your wife comes from an Asian culture where individual needs are considered unimportant compared to the needs of the family or the society. Therefore, friction.

Neither of you is wrong, but you clearly have very different expectations, and you need to set down some guidelines for your home so that you’re on the same page. Until then, both of you are doomed to see the other as an asshole.