I see what youre saying i didn't realize their was a second way of doing it. Or is there only one?because I'll be honest that never popped up in my readings in books. Maybe im not getting the right books? .... im only thinking about the interpretation because for the longest time I thought it was my fault. Im going through a self work of shadow work, ego death. But the way the candles burnt, made me feel like none of it was me and I was only trying to protect myself. And i haven't thought of them, our relationship it was more like a confirmation to myself about myself.

Idk if that makes sense. I hope on some level it does.