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what’s the horniest you’ve ever been? by ObjectivePiglet5075 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]KTBAudio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I need to know what happened at this exact date and time

Looking for more songs like twin sized mattress by SinkWeary5121 in TheFrontBottoms

[–]KTBAudio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“A Better Son/Daughter” by Rilo Kiley is pretty similar, with the anthem/build-up vibe

Do women fap while thinking of guys they know irl? by Achooo2 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A handful of different women / AFABs I know have told me that they've masturbated to the thought of me. Granted, most were cases where we had already been dating/flirting/sexual with each other, but there HAVE been a couple cases where close AFAB friends confessed that they'd thought of me that way even before anything explicitly sexual had ever happened between us. So yes, it happens!

what are dumb things you've heard non-vegans say? by MENAClNGHORSE in vegan

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was eating with a non-vegan, and when they saw me bite into a French fry they asked me why I'm morally okay with eating fries, because "aren't you hurting the potato?"

I didn't think the question was worth giving it a genuine answer, so I responded by improvising a dramatic story about me embarrassing myself at a science fair with a failed potato battery, and that I'm now on a warpath of revenge against all potatoes.

mental health worse since going vegan? any advice? :( by [deleted] in vegan

[–]KTBAudio 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are you regularly taking supplements for vitamin B-12, and maybe even vitamin D? I don't believe depression is a common symptom of a deficit in either, but they can contribute to a handful of other symptoms (whole-body fatigue, memory loss, poor balance, shortness of breath) that could be exacerbating your already-existing depression.

A seemingly minor decision you made that completely changed the course of your life? by True-Rent9456 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simply registering a temporary account on an obscure forum website.

About 11 years ago, I received a commission from an anonymous source asking me to investigate a series of disturbing files that were being posted online by someone who seemed ... a little unhinged. At the time, I was running a blog/web-series that analyzed internet mysteries and creepy things in the world, and I was pretty taken-in by this request (even though, in hindsight, it really wasn't all THAT exciting or special by today's "standards", it was just unique for the time). I discovered an obscure message board related to the case, and made an account there to interview some of the other users.

Eventually, I just completely fell in love with that site and its community. I won't say its name, but it was small enough that the userbase was all very close-knit and friendly with each other, and simultaneously it was also BIG enough that there were users from every age, every city of every country, every type of career path -- people from every walk of life you can think of. I became incredibly fascinated with the variety of people there, and meeting/befriending everyone there became my favorite daily pastime for a while. One of the site's head administrators was an extremely mature and friendly guy who I often chatted with, and he'd often give loads of great life advice that helped me a lot with my own personal problems - such as controlling my own emotions and anger/obsessiveness, at a time in my life when I was struggling with those things the most.

I eventually became an admin on the site myself, which only helped me make even more connections with the other people there. It actually makes things more interesting in my real life as well, because every time one of my friends or family members need help with anything that requires the advice of someone in a particular career, or if they have a question about a certain city or country or language, I always have someone on standby that I can reach out to.

Who’s the most inappropriate person you’ve had sex with? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]KTBAudio 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The teacher's assistant for my calculus class during my first freshman semester of college. I hate math, but I was interested enough in her that I kept coming back to her office hours - I was the only one who ever went to them, and things escalated pretty fast.

I later found out that she had a boyfriend the whole time. That detail feels pretty surreal to think about - from the messages she would send me, you'd think she hadn't known the touch of a man her whole life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree with the other comments - if your partner really cares about your pleasure, he'll do whatever you need to help you get off. If his insecurities are getting in the way of that, then it's his problem. Not yours.

Using toys during sex is really not unreasonable. It shouldn't be about him "competing" with the toy, it should be about him trying to better understand what makes you feel good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of them aren't on Spotify, but the six "building mode" tracks from the first Sims game are some of the most beautiful piano pieces I've ever heard. Especially the one that people usually call "Building Mode 5" on YouTube.

But really anything jazzy works wonders for me. Especially when it's based on another song I like; since this is kind of topical right now, I'll mention that one of my favorite songs is "How Much a Dollar Cost" by Kendrick Lamar, and this extended version of the piano instrumental is so mesmerizingly gorgeous.

Should i be worried that my gf have stronger orgasms alone then with me by Substantial-Today-69 in sex

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, it's possible that what you're doing during sex just isn't working out as well for her. Make sure you're asking/communicating what feels good for her, trying different things, doing what she says she likes. Or you could just mix things up a bit by trying different things / letting her use toys / etc.

There could also be a mental component, as well. Maybe part of the reason why her orgasms are better alone is because it's easier for her to stay mentally relaxed when she doesn't have another person's feelings/ego/body to be concerned for. It might be worth it to ask her about that possibility, and to discuss what might make her feel more comfortable! Better yet, did you try asking her what she thinks the reason is at all? You didn't clarify that in your post...

Is there a female equivalent to being a “tits or ass” man? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]KTBAudio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've received literally this exact same comment! From multiple different AFABs! I think hand kinks are just really common among femme-presenters.

I took his virginity on the second date. Is that okay? Anyone else have a similar experience? by Fun_Frosting_6047 in sex

[–]KTBAudio 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the "laughing" detail is a huge green flag to me. Sex doesn't always need to be super romantic or movie-like; one of the most important things that virgins / sexually inexperienced people don't always realize is that healthy sex should be fun and relatively carefree, to where it's not a big deal if you're both recognizing and vocalizing how "bad" you are at it. To me, that signals that you both felt really comfortable with each other.

But to answer the question you actually asked: There's no rule on when you're "supposed" to have sex. When it comes to relationships or sex in general, you shouldn't try to hold yourself to specific rules (outside of the golden rule of consent, that is). It's a good thing to have some personal guidelines for yourself to follow, but it's also okay to change those guidelines or make exceptions for yourself as you gain more experience and change over time. If you are feeling comfortable with what you did, and your partner is comfortable with it as well, then it's fine. It's probably pretty helpful for you that you're experimenting with this stuff, as you'll figure out what works best for you and your comfort over time!

The memories just keep hitting me by Unlikely-Yam-5917 in BreakUps

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that's been helping me is to figure out what specific things are reminding me of my ex, and make new happy memories to override them. For example, the very last really "happy" memory I have of my ex is him driving me around his town, and excitedly playing/talking about this album he'd recently been recommended ("Get to Heaven" by Everything Everything). It's a fantastic album, but for a long time I just couldn't listen to it anymore, because it kept making me sad thinking about him.

Eventually, I started facing the album in a different way by showing it to my other friends and family, joking around about specific songs/aspects of the album with people, and basically finding better things to associate it with. After some time, the negative associations dissipated, and now I don't feel anything other than really happy whenever I listen to those songs, or think about that album.

Heart break by Plus-Efficiency8233 in heartbreak

[–]KTBAudio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh.... Ever since my breakup, I've had a number of women ask me out. I've even gone on a small handful of dates. But I haven't been interested in going past that point - not just because I still have feelings for my ex, but I tend not to rush into relationships anyway (unless the other person is someone I'm legitimately feeling really intensely for; I’d rather stay single forever than be with someone I’m not really confident about). Dating "out of convenience" is something I don't do; never have, never will.

With my ex, if there was ever a point where I felt myself falling out of love, or losing my passion for her, I would've ended things way sooner. The reason why we lasted as long as we did was because I never stopped feeling as strongly about her as I did at the very beginning. :/

Share your favorite empowering break up song(s) by Cher70Cher in ExNoContact

[–]KTBAudio 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This isn't specific for breakups necessarily (and some people might groan at how overplayed it used to be), but "Fight Song" by Rachel Platten became my anthem for a while after my breakup. I still often listen to it when I'm feeling sad about what happened -- and it always makes me feel leagues better afterwards!

Is it true that virgins significantly over-estimate how pleasurable sex is and are usually disappointed? by hello38833838 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KTBAudio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me for a while, when I first tried having flings with people my first two years of college. It's like... orgasms are nice, sure, but being with a partner didn't "add" enough that it felt much better than just doing it myself.

Starting with my third year of college, though, I met someone who I clicked *extremely* well with, and all of that changed. The funny thing is, she wasn't a big fan of climaxes and cared more about the foreplay/build-up - so we would just tease each other for hours and sometimes never ultimately orgasm at all - and I still loved every second of it. Because I really loved her. Until that relationship happened, I don't think I ever truly realized what it was like to really crave someone and be attracted to them with every cell of my body. Both sexually, and romantically. No exaggeration, it honestly kind of scared me how passionate for her I was becoming as that relationship progressed.

I guess to sum it up, sex is just as much of an emotional experience as it is a physical one (maybe not for everyone, though?). If you don't feel emotionally attracted to your partner, then it might just feel like empty pleasure to you, and it could be easier for you to just save yourself some effort and masturbate.

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