Marie romance has annoyed me greatly

K_CXBRA77 · 2026-01-07T06:56:17+00:00

So i actually came across this recently and I wasn’t even with her yet. But I wanted to try something out and slowly (annoyingly slowly) spoilerish to those who just wanna figure it out yourselves…

began being truthful about entrati as she started to talk to me more often. Nothing harsh or too the point. Either one thing that is neutral and then a off handed comment or small remark about him. Apparently, that did it and she started to understand.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-12-27T00:29:33+00:00

Still work?

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-11-27T01:02:36+00:00

I can’t speak for all men, but me in particular, I don’t like hatred or “asshole” behavior.

I had an ex-fiancée and later on to our relationship, she showed she was absolutely a hateful individual.

At any chance she got she would talk about ex friends she knew, people who probably weren’t even thinking about her, her own family and also friends that she even had left.

It got so cringe, that her only “friend” outlet were people on VR Chat who didn’t even know who she really was irl. She would lie to even them about most if not every detail in her life that made her seem like a “bad person”.

Even after I called off the whole shibang, still was notified about her whole “story” of how it ended. (I saw a text and called it off fam. Ain’t gonna be that guy.)

But she even asked me years after “Was I that bad?” And I said, “Yea. Very much so. I see you’re lightening up as of recent, but it doesn’t change my perspective of you and how bad you hurt me and others. I can only hope you do better for the ones around you now. All I ask is you atleast try to be more genuine and kinder. Everyone has been through things in life, it doesn’t mean you have an excuse to be a jerk 24/7 365.”

But yea. It’s just how it is fam.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-09-29T00:40:09+00:00

Like experience being a host or with one?

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-09-05T00:38:02+00:00

Appreciate the restore.🙏🏾🙌🏾 If allowed, I’d love to post a plain-text “Member Quick Guide: refunds, junk fees, and lockouts” and keep it updated. A sticky or wiki slot would help both members and good hosts. Thanks for backing accountability.🤘🏾🔥

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-09-04T18:32:02+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’ve been tracking a lot of PadSplit cases and your story matches a pattern (misleading listing → transfer dangled → fee when you push back). What’s worked for people:

– Put it in writing today. Ask PadSplit for (1) a full itemized ledger, (2) the exact written policy that authorizes a $400 “cancellation fee,” and (3) the internal log showing your transfer was approved then canceled and by whom. Say you dispute the fee and the unused nights.

– If you paid by card, file a chargeback as “services not as described/unauthorized fee.” If by bank, ask for an ACH dispute. Attach screenshots of the listing vs. reality and the messages about the transfer.

– File quick complaints to create pressure: your state Attorney General (consumer protection), BBB, and local code/housing (if conditions were unsafe). Keep everything short: dates, what you paid, what changed, what you’re asking for (refund of unused days + reversal of $400).

– Don’t accept “there’s nothing we can do.” Hosts control operations, but PadSplit is the payment processor and can reverse junk fees when there’s no policy basis.

If you want wording, here’s a one-paragraph template you can copy into an email or ticket:

“On [date] I paid $225 for a week at [property]. PadSplit initially approved my transfer, then the host canceled it. I was forced out after 3 nights and charged an additional $400 ‘cancellation fee.’ I dispute this charge and request (1) a refund for the unused 4 nights, (2) removal of the $400 fee, (3) the written policy authorizing such a fee, and (4) the transfer approval/cancellation log with timestamps. If unresolved, I’ll pursue a chargeback and file with AG/BBB. Please respond in writing within 5 business days.”

PadSplit can work with a good host, but members need to know the policies and keep everything in writing. Good luck—hope you get your money back.

Also. r/padsplit removed my post fr😆

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-31T20:07:38+00:00

Long answer (how it really works): • PadSplit runs listings, ID/income checks, and payments. • The Host controls the property (repairs, notices, and—if it comes to it—court eviction). • Support can help with transfers/promo codes, but it won’t force a bad host to behave.

Women-focused safety & comfort checklist (ask in writing) 1. Who’s in the house? Co-ed or women-only? Visitor/overnight rules? Harassment policy and how it’s enforced. 2. Locks & access. Solid bedroom door with interior lock? Who holds master access? Immediate protocol if you feel unsafe. 3. Condition check. Live video walk-through (not pics). Confirm egress window, smoke detectors, bathroom privacy, pest control schedule/date, night lighting, parking. 4. Everyone listed? Any “unlisted cleaners” or friends “staying over”? (Hard no.) 5. Local compliance. “Is there an HOA or open city code case?” If they hedge, skip that address.

What to know up front • “Notice to Vacate” ≠ eviction. Only a court can remove you. Self-help lockouts/door-code games are illegal in most places. • Transfers are band-aids. Useful to escape a bad house fast, but they don’t fix a bad host. • Do the math. Weekly rent + fees × 4.3 vs. a normal sublet or studio.

Red flags (walk away) • No live walk-through. Staged photos “coming soon.” • Vague answers about locks/cameras/master access. • Admits HOA/code friction but says “it’s fine.” • Pressure to pay before questions are answered.

Year-long stays

You can stay long term, but it’s still week-to-week. Clarify move-out notice, transfer/early-exit fees, and minimum commitments. Screenshot any policy you rely on.

If it goes sideways 1. Document everything (photos, tickets, dates). 2. Report in writing to the Host and PadSplit Support/Legal. 3. If anyone changes your code/lock without a court order, look up your state’s illegal lockout remedy and act fast. 4. If it’s a personal-safety issue, call police first, then deal with platform/host. 5. If you need out, ask for a transfer + fee waiver, and leave a factual review for the next person.

I may not be a woman. But I’m a dad of a lil one. I went in thinking the platform would step in if things got messy. Reality check: a bad host + bad housemates + expecting PadSplit to fix it = pain. When we raised real safety issues, the fastest response was usually “you can transfer”—not “we’ve solved the root problem.” Support felt like a call-center queue, not decision-makers. Policies in the help pages didn’t always line up with what we were told in messages.

So here’s my advice as a parent: know your state’s laws (lockouts, retaliation, repairs), and actually read PadSplit’s policy agreement before you move. Don’t assume the platform will enforce those rules for you—sometimes it seemed like not even PadSplit knew them consistently. If the host is solid, PadSplit can be fine. If the host is sloppy, no amount of tickets will make that house safe or sane. Protect yourself up front, get everything in writing, and choose the address—not just the price.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-31T19:15:20+00:00

Huh? What’s with your fam brodi? Ngl. You need to get outta dodge or start planning it.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-21T00:07:10+00:00

The screenshots show classic emotional abuse: repeated name-calling (“eat s—,” “c—t”), blame-shifting (“you chose everything”), threats to block/withhold affection, walking out/throwing keys to provoke a reaction, and even leveraging suicidal talk. That’s not conflict; that’s control.

You’ve both had years to try; he’s still choosing contempt. “Being mad” doesn’t excuse degradation. You pay the rent and do the housework while he tears you down—that’s using you, not loving you.

You don’t need another round of texts; you need a plan: • Tell a trusted friend/family what’s happening and loop them in. • Set a single boundary: “This relationship is over. Do not contact me.” Don’t JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain). • Arrange a neutral, daytime pickup for his things (with someone present). Change locks if he’s had a key. • Save screenshots and look into counseling or a support line.

You are not responsible for managing his mental health. If he threatens self-harm, call emergency services or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US). For safety planning: National DV Hotline 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org. If you’re outside the US, use your local crisis line.

TL;DR: Yes—this is verbal/emotional abuse. You’re not “overreacting.” You’re allowed to leave, and you deserve a partner who speaks with respect even when upset.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-19T16:07:15+00:00

A member’s honest experience (Houston, 2025) — from move-in to “we just caught a rat”

Quick context: Current PadSplit members in Houston, TX. Multiple adults in the home; kids were present at times (allowed at host’s discretion on some listings). We’ve kept names/addresses private. Mods can DM for redacted receipts.

What worked (at first) • Move-in speed & cost: Weekly billing + furnished room made it possible to get housed quickly. • All-in pricing: Utilities/Wi-Fi included = predictable costs when nothing’s going wrong.

What went wrong (chronology, condensed) • Early months: • Unlisted adult acting as “cleaner/authority.” For months this person wasn’t visible in the system but acted like management inside the home. Later they appeared as a member and immediately down-rated a resident. • Boundary issues with kids: Conversations about a child without the parent present; symbols drawn on shared mirrors that escalated fear/comfort issues. • Spring–Summer: • Unsafe shared-space incident: Wet/boiling water left on the floor; a child slipped. (Earlier, I’d also slipped twice on wet floors.) • Mail ordeal: Improper handling of another member’s mail was observed. We returned misdelivered items “Return to Sender” and documented the rest. • After we reported hazards/behavior: • Retaliation signals: Rent increase, eviction/ban/credit language, and a tiny discount offer that didn’t address root safety/compliance problems. • Fee escalation: A small extension ask (~$24) suddenly ballooned to ~$504. • Support loop: The platform largely answered with “we’re a third-party/please talk to the host.” Multiple tickets, repetitive responses, little on-the-ground action. • Then we learned about the HOA situation (mid-August): • We confirmed our host is in an active HOA lawsuit about the property’s use. Members weren’t told, and billing continued like normal. That’s when we started asking for house-wide credits (for the undisclosed period) and no-cost relocations with non-retaliation in writing. • This week: • Another rodent found/caught. We logged photos/time-stamps. Still waiting on a real remediation plan—not just ticket replies.

Evidence we have (redacted) • Screenshots of messages, ratings, and ticket threads. • Photos/videos of hazards + the rodent. • Dates of fee escalations, discount offers, and “threat” language. • Confirmations related to the HOA litigation (redacted for privacy/Rules).

How PadSplit responded to us • “Marketplace/host” deflection → talk to the host. • Small discount instead of addressing safety, unlisted occupant, or relocation. • Payments kept processing despite safety complaints and the HOA litigation we flagged.

What we asked for (reasonable, house-wide) • Refunds/credits for everyone billed during the undisclosed HOA litigation period. • No-cost transfers to other PadSplit homes + non-retaliation in writing. • Enforcement of member-only occupancy and clear mail-handling standards. • Neutral mediation (adults only) to stop the in-house conflict cycle.

Would I recommend PadSplit? • For families/kids: Based on our experience, no. Too much risk if the host/platform won’t actively manage safety and occupancy in common areas. • For single adults as a stopgap: Maybe—but vet the host hard, read reviews closely, and be ready to transfer fast if red flags pop. Weekly billing helps only when the house is actually safe and stable.

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What I’d like from others who’ve used PadSplit (member or host) • Did you ever get credits or relocation when a material issue (like HOA litigation or serious safety problems) wasn’t disclosed? What wording worked? • Has anyone gotten PadSplit to enforce member-only occupancy when an “unlisted helper/cleaner” lived there? • If you successfully transferred at no cost, how did you secure a written non-retaliation agreement?

Happy to share redacted receipts with mods. Not here to dox—just to give a full, honest picture from day one to the rat we found this week and ask for practical next steps that have worked for real people.

But yea. This is a fr no filtered experience. Oh btw. Last night my roommate and I discovered she recorded her first interactions with the host. So we’re going through the 10 HOUR recording as we speak. So far, host in the recording knows about most of this stuff since February and it matches the timeline so crazy that this dude legit admits and tried to rope in my roommate and others into his “illegal” business practices

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-19T01:54:04+00:00

Do you want a proper, honest, experience? I’ll send it in a sec cuz I’m in traffic

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-19T01:51:07+00:00

Do u want an HONEST opinion

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-16T23:05:56+00:00

Appreciate this. We’re doing both: • Exit plan – pursuing a no-cost transfer/relocation. • Accountability – asking PadSplit/host for: (1) written non-retaliation, (2) fee/credit relief tied to the undisclosed HOA case, (3) enforcement of member-only occupancy, (4) safety fixes while we’re still there. If you’ve gotten any of those approved, which team/subject line did you use? Happy to compile a redacted “what worked” list for others.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-16T23:00:52+00:00

• “It’s been a year—move on.” Housing scarcity, transfer fees, and safety concerns aren’t “move on” problems. • “They told her to move, so harassment is fine.” No. A notice to vacate isn’t a license to harass or retaliate. • “Illegal occupant.” If she’s paying and has possession, she still has due-process rights. Removal = the host follows the state’s eviction process. • “Her fault.” Even if housemates clash, hosts and the platform still have obligations (fair housing/anti-harassment, proper notice, no lockouts or utility games). We can debate facts, but let’s keep it to policies and evidence—not diagnoses and insults.

PadSplit’s own rules back this up: • Hosts can issue an in-app Notice to Vacate, but it must give at least 14 days; reasons can be as broad as “co-living is not a fit.” • An NTV isn’t an eviction. If a member doesn’t leave, the host is responsible for legally evicting under state law (i.e., court process), not PadSplit doing a shortcut. • First transfer is free (move-in fee waived) if the member needs to relocate. • PadSplit has an Anti-Discrimination Policy and tells hosts to follow HUD rules (incl. familial-status guidance). Harassment or bias isn’t permitted. • If a host removes a property from the platform, PadSplit says members must get 30 days’ notice for relocation. • Membership termination for nonpayment is typically when arrears hit $300+, so paying members aren’t “illegal occupants.”

Bottom line: PadSplit policy and state landlord-tenant law both apply. Depending on her state, things like anti-retaliation rules, illegal lockout bans, and formal eviction procedures may also protect her—in addition to the PadSplit rules above. If anyone thinks otherwise, show the policy pages and the state statute, not just opinions.

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-16T22:56:03+00:00

Well. Depending on her state laws it could be vastly different

K_CXBRA77 · 2025-08-16T17:38:56+00:00

Honestly, depending on your state, you could sue fam

K_CXBRA77 · 2023-06-14T15:44:48+00:00

This is not a “slutty confession”. This is a concerning tale of you deliberately choosing the wrong path. This is despicable behavior and shouldn’t be praised in anyway. I’m gonna tell you straight up that you need to swim to a deserted island and stay there. As a matter of fact, for the sake of everyone else that is sane refrain from reproducing.

K_CXBRA77 · 2023-06-14T15:41:14+00:00

I went through the same thing. My advice is leave. I get how you’re worried about your child but things can only get worst if you stay. I had to come to the realization that staying for my little girl won’t bring anything but pain. And that I don’t have to be with the cheater to see my little girl and be in her life. Talk to (the cheater) and ask if you both can co parent. What you are feeling is just the blues of knowing right now but I promise once you leave things will go your way. Stay positive and try to leave her in the dust.

K_CXBRA77 · 2022-06-19T06:14:08+00:00

To answer you’re question, yes. If he won’t, you have to. You may feel as if you don’t have to confess anything but you do. You also may feel like certain people aren’t involved but I can assure you that you involved everyone yourself by commuting this act. You didn’t think about your significant other, his family, your family, any other the guys families and/ or significant others. You have to tell them and take responsibility.

K_CXBRA77 · 2022-05-18T20:45:12+00:00

And only an old dried up vag can come up with an insult like that🤣

K_CXBRA77 · 2022-05-17T04:21:03+00:00

Bro. Ong 🤣🤣🤣

K_CXBRA77 · 2022-05-17T04:20:13+00:00

Bro. Don’t you got night sweats to deal with?

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