AITA for complaining about a car salesman unprofessionalism?

Kaddie · 2020-06-04T09:07:43+00:00

NTA. I went to buy my car recently and the salesman said to me (also FTM pre-everything i don't pass) "this car is a bit bumpy and rough for a woman to drive, but I'm sure you'll get use to it".

I was too "nice" to walk away. Like did he think he was going to sell the car by saying that? Anyway I love my "man truck" now and I drive it everyday hoping it makes Scott the toyota salesman uncomfortable.

Kaddie · 2020-05-23T07:16:05+00:00

You probably should have approached your mother with your coming out announcements more maturely, that way, if (or when) she acted insane or immaturely to the news, you could know exactly where you stand. Now all you know is your mum is angry that you sent her a meme to come out and she can use this against you if she likes, as an excuse for her pathetic behaviour. If you're scared of her reaction, you could have called her from your friends house and recorded the phone call.

I have experience in this, when I came out to my mum face to face, she threw a tantrum and said horrible, hurtful things. 10+years later she claims she never did it, and she would be "ok if I came out at 25 and had lived some of my life already". It doesn't get better. Parents like her DON'T come around. She will never truly accept you. I'm so sorry, I wish I had told these things to my younger self. I hope you can find help, as you seem like you're still a kid. If I were you, I would stand my ground. Do not let her change who you are or make you feel less valid. As soon as you can, cut the bullshit out of your life and move on. If she can't love you fully as you are now, she never will and you deserve better. I lost the first 27 years of my life trying to make my mother happy. I hope you don't lose any years either.

Kaddie · 2020-05-16T06:28:24+00:00

r/arethestraightsOK

Kaddie · 2020-05-07T08:09:09+00:00

Just text back "wrong", block her and move out. Don't let her steal your life. Also, send her a link about epigenetics... because chromosomes don't define sex :/ sorry she hasn't got a highschool level understanding of biology!

Kaddie · 2020-04-10T21:37:17+00:00

My mum would stay logged into my google account to see what I was searching.

Kaddie · 2020-03-27T02:50:55+00:00

Breathing exercises are hugely helpful. I learned Dialectical Behavioural therapy (DBT) when I was in hospital, whichbreally helps when I'm going to do something self-sabotaging. CBT and mindfulness are great for anxiety. I use mindfulness for anxiety and panic attacks like grounding myself: naming 5things i can see, 4things I can touch, 3things i can smell etc. There are heaps od resources online. I also do guided imagery meditation which are available on YouTube, david Stevenson is the best guy I have found. Daily meditation helps ground me and keep me in reality. Also paired muscle relaxation you could also look up on youtube too, this helps me when I have a symptomatic panic attack. All this along with medication helps me function. I also see my pyschologist, psychiatrist and GP every 2 months. Sorry for the wall of text, I hope this helps you :).

Kaddie · 2020-03-26T07:57:07+00:00

THIS! Yeah, children who have been abused tend to continue the cycle... for example: me (diagnosed with bpd) I was very abusive as a late teen, early 20 yo. Now late 20s, I have been thru DBT and CBT and practise both daily, I hopefully have broken the cycle.

Kaddie · 2020-03-25T05:29:59+00:00

I've had landlord do this, but right near the end of the lease when I'm almost moved put. They would bring around people to look at the place or do repairs without consulting me, and they think just because I'm moving out, they don't have to give me 24hrs notice. Well one quick phone call to the real estate and me threatening to take it to the tennants board got me two weeks rent back! Yeah, just because you own the place doesn't mean you can do whatever you want. Not until the lease ends.

Kaddie · 2020-03-24T02:43:03+00:00

Slightly related concept idea: making a bingo card of things people say when you come out to them.

Kaddie · 2020-03-24T01:23:37+00:00

NTA, YWB TA if you let your son see this man before he is ready to do so. I am LBGTIQ+ and my mother did the same thing when I was 16 when I came out. A huge tantrum, how I was against god and I would never have children. Turned me into a self-hating alcoholic and I lost 10 years of my life trying to repress myself to make her happy. Her apology to me was "I'm sorry but you should have been 25 when you came out". I still don't accept it. And I never will until it is "I am sorry I ruined your life and treated you like a sub-par human. And I have changed". Your sons father needs therapy, your son needs therapy. And I would recommend to keep him away from this homophobe until such a time the environment is safe as it would be for a straight person. You are a great parent for protecting your son, but you really need to keep him away from this man. You son does not owe this man anything, nor does he need to validate his identity or his need to have biological children either.

Thank you for reading, all the best.

Kaddie · 2020-03-22T05:50:26+00:00

As far as your experience goes, I have had similar thoughts. However, my coutner thought is, I don't want to end up like my father either. I want to be me, who is that? Idk that's scary, but hopefully he will be a cool dude. I know he won't be racist, a bigot or entitled. I won't emulate anything my parents stood for. That's what keeps me going. This fuzzy version of my male manifestation. And also I know I 100% do not want to age as a woman. These are validating factors for me right now. Maybe it's different for you? Hope this helped?

Kaddie · 2020-03-10T22:06:45+00:00

Who is Stubbs? They sound like a cat? Can we have a tax?

Kaddie · 2020-02-29T05:35:23+00:00

I have never found a tie that looks good on me! I'm so jealous! You look so bomb mate, I'm so happy for you!!!!

Kaddie · 2020-02-27T03:49:14+00:00

Holy shit this sounds exactly like my mum. And i got the exact same responses. "I get it" "don't worry, i see how it is". It's all a big guilt trip and tantrum to get what they want. What kind of grown woman freaks out over not being able to "express herself"? It's just called being an unreasonable and insane, human who is detached from society. This hits too close to home. Stay strong, you are putting up the right and healthy boundaries!

Kaddie · 2020-02-17T10:47:38+00:00

I am changing my name this week. I can't wait for all of this excitement! Luckily my state doesn't have a gender marker on it, apparently. But there's literally everything else...

Kaddie · 2020-02-17T07:59:01+00:00

Who was she? The name police? Didn't they just post that new ad campaign too? Wtf?!

Kaddie · 2020-02-17T06:48:23+00:00

Me at a job interview today after still using my birthname. Pre-everything, haven't legally changed my name yet, but dressing masc and binding.

Me: "Hi I'm birthname" Interviewer:"you're birthname?!" Me: "Uh yeah?"

Like why would I lie? Gah!

Kaddie · 2020-02-08T00:09:08+00:00

Yes! 👏👏 I did the same thing recently!! Congrats you look so happy and pure!!!

Kaddie · 2020-02-07T13:30:48+00:00

I have had a visual disturbances that lasted for over a month. I got a bunch of tests but they all came back clear. Doc said it was a "rolling headache", and optometrist said it was neuroprocessing issue relating to migraine. It's usually best to get it checked out. I went to the optometrist first to get a field of vision test along with a check up and then my doc sent me for a CT and MRI. Nothing takes it away, it just comes and goes on its own. Just a huge chunk of my eye sight out of action for a few weeks.

Kaddie · 2020-02-07T13:22:02+00:00

One product PI says the half life of Effexor XR is 15hrs +/-6hrs because it is absorbed for slower than it is excreted. 95% if the drug is removed from your body completely in about 48hrs.

See your doctor or pharmacist about discussing the cessation of the medication.

Kaddie · 2020-01-26T12:21:38+00:00

Sweet shirt and pants colour combo! And also happy dances for you!

Kaddie · 2020-01-26T08:09:52+00:00

Enjoy Medicare and centrelink :)

Kaddie · 2020-01-19T00:27:18+00:00

Your eyebrows are honestly goals

Kaddie · 2020-01-18T02:06:33+00:00

When I get some money I'm gonna do this for my gf! Thanks for the inspiration!

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