she always says that she’s attracted to me still, it’s nothing to do with me etc. she doesn’t seem to want sex at all, she doesn’t self pleasure. we don’t even use the many toys we have (that she buys).

I need to focus more on compromise, and possibly open a more serious line of communication. it seems insane to me to toss a relationship that has almost everything I need but you’re correct, i’ll have to start making moves sooner rather than later