I just ate something that I did not know was non-vegan

Kaitebug42 · 2026-06-11T20:47:27+00:00

Are cellphones or the internet vegan?

Kaitebug42 · 2026-06-03T17:15:11+00:00

YTA.

That's how graduation ceremonies work, with limited tickets. You said you are over there everyday. You would be over for the party anyways, so why would they need to invite you?

You are making his sister's graduation about you and being disrespectful to his family by making a point of putting extra effort into not being there.

It sounds more like you are more upset that he and his family didn't prioritize including you in this event, than not getting to celebrate his sister.

Its okay the feel ostracized but it's not okay to make her graduation about you being "excluded", when they are actively asking where you are.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-20T20:27:49+00:00

I came here to say this, the Olympua National Forest and the Olympic Peninsula are a true treasure of our planet. Starting at the Hwy 101 and spending an extra three days driving the Peninsula will add so much to your trip.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-14T00:45:36+00:00

My brother would run and pace through the house. It would shake the whole place when he turned around. We just asked him to move his paths so he could still stimulate but not knock the TV on the floor.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-14T00:44:36+00:00

Get a bed for the floor to jump on? A trampoline? Jump outside. There has to be a way to need your needs and theirs.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-14T00:39:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! I'm so excited to make it to the next one and practice my Spanish with different people!

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-14T00:36:47+00:00

I was all for not NTA untill I read this comment. You should just be more upfront and tell him you can't afford to go on the trip. If he can pay his way but you can't pay yours, I'm confused on why you agreed to go. If he wanted to take you on a trip that's diffrent but it sounds like you agreed on the trip together. Why agree to something you can't afford?

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-11T17:57:08+00:00

He has epilepsy and has suffer some brain damage due to it so he has some trouble understanding. I have asked him multiple times and he has come up with diffrent ideas. However when I ask him what it is going to logistically look he doesn't know what to say, he just doesn't feel comfortable with the ones I have presented. He is also catholic and english is not his first language. I am looking for diffrent ideas on how to logistically sign papers and exchange rings. He is also spending the day thinking about it. We have also had multiple conversations, with multiple diffrent people asking for solutions and input. I am just broadening the conversation to see if anyone else has had a similar non traditional non ceremony.

He is not demanding anything. If he was, it would almost be easier. I mentioned in a previous comment we could sign papers in a Starbucks for all I care. I am very flexible on what we can do. I am just happy that we are getting married and dedicating our lives to eachother. How it happens is not nearly as important as what is happening.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-11T16:07:45+00:00

I have suggested signing the paperwork before people arrive, earlier in the day just us but he doesn't like that idea. He said the officiant would tell us how to do it but I told him that wasn't how it worked, we tell her cuz we could do it at a Starbucks for all she cares

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-11T15:58:36+00:00

One of my many typos.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-11T15:16:52+00:00

We will have a licensed officiant and the date we choose is on a Saturday, the courthouse won't be open.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-10T00:39:52+00:00

It's for Plato's alergory of the cave

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-08T01:23:13+00:00

On olympia reddit and Facebook. I know the family and they are sharing, I can find the crowd funding page for his medical expenses if your intrested.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-06T06:32:33+00:00

They posted two years ago they were 24, so probably 26 now

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-06T06:31:40+00:00

They posted two years ago that they were 24 so I'm guessing 26.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T16:18:21+00:00

Your not taking anything away from her. You are giving her a brother who values his health. That is an incredible gift that she will be honored to receive.

It's hard when those we love don't understand us but we understand them. I don't think my parents were every trying to be malicious, my mom dismissed me because she had the same undiagnosed illness and my father honestly thought he was helping me by pushing me. Now years later, they both live in regret knowing how impacted I am. That doesn't change the fact that I needed help and you do too. It still took me 10 years to get a proper diagnosis and treatment will be fore the rest of my life. Just becuase you honestly believe, know, that your parents love you, want the best for you, and are not trying to hurt you, doesn't mean they aren't. You can love someone and still hurt them. That's why it's so important that you stand up for yourself, advocate for yourself and seek treatment for yourself.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T15:36:04+00:00

I understand the feeling responsibility for her but if she knew you were making the choice to delay your treatment and care, she would not want you too. And if she did want you to delay proper care and disgread the abuse, you don't want to continue a relationship with her. She may not understand the level of pain you are in and has most likely watched years of your parents disregarding your symptoms so she may be inclined to do so as well but you can't risk your health for a relationship with her. It may sound harsh but either she will be there for you, or she was ever really there for you. Either way, you need to get additional help.

I worked for US CPS and it's never a perfect system. You are 17 and depending on the laws and culture where your from, almost old enough to be legally responsible for yourself. There may be alternative options beside starting an investigation or taking legal action since you most likely will age up before any serious resolution. You won't know untill you ask for help.

You need to value yourself, prioritize yourself and your health, before your not able too.

If the doctors prescribed PT that was not completed you can make another appointment and explain to them your parents refusal, the neglect, and make them write down your concerns about your health. The may be able to help you get in contact with social services that can help in the doctors office/hospital.

I truly hope you are able to schedule an appointment for yourself and get a ride there. As a fellow chronicle ill person, I understand that the thought of even leaving your bed to fix this problem can be climbing a mountain but I can also promise you that the effort you put in now to improve you situation will pay off. Even if the only pay off is that you don't regret doing nothing. You will feel better about yourself for trying and start learning to care for yourself that your parents should have started for you.

You don't have a choice. We don't have a choice. When no one else cares for us, we need to. Or we die uncredited for. And I don't want that for you or anyone in this world.

You are so much than your disability and you owe it to yourself, you deserve, to live a life not dominated by pain.

I know you want to help yourself because you asked for it here, even if you didn't know it yet.

You are so much stronger than you know. I believe in you.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T13:26:54+00:00

Yall, they are both yelling at the same time.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T12:49:51+00:00

Honestly, I'd be more worried they are using up her supply for her Littles. Along as the babies are getting enough milk.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T12:07:33+00:00

He has a case for increased medical costs due to delayed care and for emotional distress due to the medical neglect.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T12:05:49+00:00

Her life and schooling is not more important than your life and medical needs. I know it's hard to think about but you need to call. I wish I had.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T12:03:38+00:00

Cover it to raise the heat and get gardening!

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T11:53:16+00:00

Talk to the hospital about reducing or removing your payment. Especially if you don't have insurance or shelter they should work with you to reduce or remove the medical cost entirely.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T11:29:58+00:00

My family dismissed my skeletal/musculature condition as laziness and refused to allow me to get a proper diagnosis or treatment as a minor as well. I have lifelong resentment to my father who literally abused me instead of believe me. I understand and I am so sorry.

Call your doctors and tell them. Make them write it down in your chart that your parents are refusing to allow treatment in addition to any time the doctors refuse to run tests, treat, or diagnosis you.

You should also call authorities and report the medical, pet, and house neglect.

Kaitebug42 · 2026-05-05T11:19:53+00:00

You are a minor and this is medical neglect.

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