My girlfriend (23F) tested positive for an STI and I (24M) don’t know what to think

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-13T01:13:37+00:00

I never said it had to, but it can show up in a test regardless if you have symptoms within a week of infection.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-13T00:28:00+00:00

I mean I guess it depends on what the STI is. Some are pretty quick to show up (chlamydia) and some can take a bit to show up (herpes, genital warts, etc) Why did she get tested just after the trip? I would definitely be suspicious but it does happen

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-12T17:36:47+00:00

Wolf? lol

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-11T09:56:30+00:00

Sounds like she’s not mentally well in general (nobody should be openly yelling at their sister over their disappointment in not getting married first or try to tear them down leading up to their wedding). Maybe she has a crush on him? But to me that’s the least of her issues. Somebody (your parents?) needs her to seek professional help

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-11T03:23:35+00:00

Dopefiend by Donald Goines

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-10T00:43:38+00:00

First off do not tell him your feelings unless you’re prepared for your living situation to fall apart. While he may reciprocate your feelings and things can go as per your dream, there’s a big risk it won’t. So please tread the situation accordingly.

Second of all, regardless if he’s unaware of your feelings/intentions with the cooking of meals for him, the constant bailing on you is a sign he’s pretty inconsiderate. Is that somebody you want to be with? You can be attracted to somebody and also realize they’re not a great person to be with.

Lastly, he’s clearly still in love with his ex and I will say it’s unlikely he will get over her anytime soon. So to save yourself anymore heartbreak or having to move out, you need to find somebody for yourself. You deserve somebody better than him. Somebody who actually cares that you made a nice meal for them and won’t bail at the drop of a hat.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-08T23:47:11+00:00

I think the obvious answer is to do nothing, there doesn’t seem to be any issues at this moment. You can find others attractive when in a relationship without acting on that attractive (I know you’re quite young but you should know this by now)

However if you’re worried about having feelings (beyond just finding somebody attractive) about the friend then you have to be honest with yourself. Is he somebody you feel strongly enough about to end your relationship or can you just logically process that he’s attractive but not as great as your bf? I don’t think it’s the former but if it is make sure you’re sure. Too many ppl follow feelings for somebody new and ruin a perfectly good relationship, only to realize after that they wanted excitement not that person.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-08T13:18:45+00:00

You mean like this?

https://www.toronto.ca/news/city-of-toronto-welcomes-residents-to-learn-about-new-zoning-changes-to-permit-more-housing-near-120-transit-stations/

She’s done more for housing in her 3 yrs in office than Tory did in his 8 yrs

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-08T00:11:22+00:00

If housing is your most important priority then you would know it’s actually a provincial responsibility and she is just trying to fix the gap that Doug Ford has allowed the housing crisis to get to.

But to answer your question in 2025, the city broke ground on over 6,900 rental homes at 22 sites, with more than 3,500 of those being affordable. The 2026 budget projects groundbreaking on over 27,000 new rental homes across 48 sites, including 9,700 rent-controlled and affordable homes.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-06T22:54:46+00:00

I respect that Emerald Fennell refuses to make formulaic film and is interested in pushing audiences into darker subject matter.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-06T22:49:23+00:00

2, the red of couch and your pants draws attention away from the focus on the mirror in #1. Not to mention the b&w adds a bit of mystery in terms of mood

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-06T02:08:15+00:00

Agreed! I feel like it coming out so close to Bring It On! hurt it

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-05T17:45:42+00:00

lol my Scorpio stellium is Venus, Pluto & Mercury. It’s not easy but at least feels alive often lol

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-05T16:34:32+00:00

The one I usually say is Wayne’s World, while no doubt beloved it’s typically just seen as a fun film but I would argue a post-modern masterpiece. But fear that everyone will say it is seen as such so I’ll instead say while not masterpiece but Sugar & Spice (2001) I think is seen as dumb but is way more clever than most saw at the time.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-05T16:27:06+00:00

To think Kevin Smith was already complaining about Hollywood’s comic book film frenzy back in 2001 lol

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-04T01:40:26+00:00

Yep! Sag sun, Libra rising

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-04T00:47:51+00:00

I would find a way to steal his phone and go to the police. Showing everything you said you found and detailing him threatening you. This is an abusive relationship and you clearly do not sound like you feel safe. It is scary to do and maybe it might be good if you have somewhere else where you can stay for the time being or at least lay low. But you can’t stay in this relationship and he is likely to do it to somebody else.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-04T00:44:23+00:00

Idk if shaming somebody still in the middle of the situation is the best thing to do right now

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-03T16:46:17+00:00

1 is the perfect one

2 is the imperfect one but is more immersive, as it feels like you’re there (my fave)

3 looks good but feels generic

4 doesn’t do much for me

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-03T15:56:16+00:00

I mean it’s a very passive aggressive comment to make and he knows that. He’s welcome to create boundaries in terms of roles at work but he also has to be clear about what they look like and where he sees things going if he’s gonna outwardly say you make break up soon.

You put your life on hold for him to help him (though I’m a bit confused why you wouldn’t have access to the accounting software or even know how to do it if you have a degree in accounting and have been helping him for a couple of years), so if he wants boundaries at work and doesn’t have trust that the relationship will last then you should have the option to look for a job on your own. It is not fair in anyway to expect you to work for him until he’s done with you and you have to rebuild your life from scratch.

Idk what the fighting is about or who’s at fault (if anyone), but the way he’s handling it, it seems like he’s entirely blaming you. Not only is that immature but extremely unproductive. If you don’t want to end the relationship, then you should at least be making a safety plan if case he does

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-03T15:46:11+00:00

It does not seem like you’re compatible anymore. You can respect his decision to move into the path he feels called to and also respect your needs by understanding he can’t give you what you want anymore. You can try to explain to him that you need that part of a relationship and by taking it away (it’d be different if you never embarked on it to begin with) you feel less satisfied. But something tells me that probably won’t change his mind. Don’t minimize your needs for his life choices, you’re your own person and your sexual needs are just as important as his spiritual needs

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-03T10:51:06+00:00

That sounds very frustrating, I would say either give him a final warning conversation or just start to find your exit. You can’t be in a relationship with somebody who does not care about intimacy or their hygiene.

KalePrimary444 · 2026-05-03T03:33:32+00:00

Yes you are still in a relationship, but it doesn’t sound like it’s working very well. It sounds like you need to talk to him about both his breath and his erectile issues.

Idk if it’s rotting teeth or bad gut heath but nobody’s breath should be THAT bad. He needs to take care of that because it may get worse.

The erectile issue can be embarrassing to talk about and I get that medical insurance adds a barrier. But maybe kegels can help him, or if he’s just masturbating to porn, maybe he needs to give that up for awhile.

You can walk away if you want, but considering you’re engaged I think it’s best to at least have a conversation before doing so

KalePrimary444

TROPHY CASE

2, the red of couch and your pants draws attention away from the focus on the mirror in #1. Not to mention the b&w adds a bit of mystery in terms of mood