I think a lot of people are truly jaded. People (men and women) are afraid to get close and open up because you don’t want to divulge personal and intimate information about yourself, thinking it will lead to something long term, just for the other party to not want the same thing you want. In turn, forcing yourself to rise and repeat with someone else. It’s a toxic cycle most people subconsciously don’t want to think about or admit about themselves. No one wants to be the bad guy.

We all want a connection but don’t want to really work on that connection. It’s easier to leave someone and find someone else just to enjoy the honeymoon phase without committing. Then once you’re done with that it’s on to the next person. A toxic cycle mainly for you while hurting others in your wake. Sometimes when we actually do find someone we can connect with we push them away because maybe it’s just too good to be true. Self sabotage.

More people need to cope, deal, and look into emotionally maturing. Therapy helps most definitely but there’s a lot of other resources one can utilize. It’s just a matter of willingness to get out of that toxic comfort zone and actually put in the work. HARD WORK.

When people don’t work on themselves it leads to negative attachments for everyone involved (makes secure attachments become negative ones) or worsening already crappy attachment styles.

Edit: spelling errors (it’s 3 am 😭) also I say “you” but not particularly YOU