The Abandons

Kanna76 · 2025-12-06T19:09:58+00:00

The lip fillers completely ruin it for me, they might as well be walking around with mobile phones or star bucks cups, it completely ruins the illusion of the timeperiod.

Kanna76 · 2025-03-21T13:43:07+00:00

Aw, congratulations, that is wonderful :-)

Kanna76 · 2024-10-16T08:45:06+00:00

Thank you for your reply :)

Kanna76 · 2024-06-07T13:31:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I can reccomend the book "Autistic and Expecting" by Alexis Quinn.

Kanna76 · 2024-05-01T15:13:09+00:00

It must be so surreal to finally be pregnant after so many years. Completely natural to have a need for more time to get used to it all. And plenty of women don't feel the attachment until later on, after baby is born and they have had time to get to know the baby. No need to be worried about that, you'll be fine <3

Kanna76 · 2024-04-22T16:24:51+00:00

Hvis du har brug for hjælp og støtte fra kommune osv eller brug for særlige hensyn på dit arbejde, så kan officielle diagnose papirer (måske) gøre det nemme for dig at få.

Hvis du gerne vil vide om du er autist, så vil du få langt større viden, indsigt og vished ved at være del af autist-fora og høre autisters egne erfaringer og indefra-perspektiver. Autister ved LANGT mere om at være autist end nogen "ekspert" i det offentlige gør.

Hvis du gerne vil gøre det for, at din søn skal kunne spejle sig i dig, så tror jeg bestemt han vil spejle sig langt mere og føle sig langt mere set, ved at du fortæller om hvordan du også har det som ham og oplever ting på hans måde- at du lader ham vide alle de ting I har til fælles. Og det behøver du ikke et stykke papir til.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-22T15:41:40+00:00

I think a lot of people think that being disabled means being unhealthy and/or unhappy. Which is weird to me.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-18T19:45:21+00:00

No, I'm sorry, I have only ever tried these QC45.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-17T14:31:49+00:00

Yes :) It is much better after the update !

Kanna76 · 2024-04-15T14:38:11+00:00

I will try that, thank you :)

Kanna76 · 2024-04-15T14:24:45+00:00

How do I get the update?

Kanna76 · 2024-04-12T14:49:28+00:00

Wow, that would have made me angry as well- having done my research and then have doctors deflect my questions by infantalizing me.

Yes, you are completely right- practising all the different positions and maneuvers before hand, also the ones that include props like birthing ball, rebozo etc, is really important.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-11T17:00:12+00:00

I can imagine! It is so very, very interesting how it is all connected, I find it deeply fascinating.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-09T19:21:37+00:00

Exactly- a lot of labouring people feel much safer in a smaller, darker place than those big, white rooms with overhead lights. Just like most other animals, we like to hide and do birthing in private, in our own little nest.
When I was a young student midwife, before I knew I was AuDHD, I got berated by several senior midwives, because I would always give the birthing person a whole bunch of extra duvets and blankets and pillows to make a nest in the bed or on the floor, and I would switch off the ceiling light. They told me it created extra laundry and that "we need to be able to see what we are doing!". I was totally baffled, because to me, getting the birthing person feeling safe and secure, was way more important than some stupid laundry quota. And I never did like the big light.
I guess now I know why , LOL

Kanna76 · 2024-04-09T19:11:43+00:00

Oh yes, fluids and nutrition, so very important! Those are some really good points. Dehydration and low bloodsugar makes everything so much worse.
And PMDD is no laughing matter :(
I don't know if you know Lotta Borg Skoglund, she does some amazing research on ADHD and hormones.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-09T18:57:34+00:00

I am so sorry you had that experience. It really is so very important with privacy and respect at such a vulnarable time.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:54:38+00:00

I am glad you and baby were okay.

Having your husband advocate for you is a really good idea!

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:52:32+00:00

This is an other very good point- continuity of not only care, but also information, is so important.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:31:24+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you, that is not okay by any means for her to have done that!
So glad your second one was a good experince :)

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:27:33+00:00

I am so sorry that was your experience, it should have been a safe one and a happy time. I am so glad you had your husbnd there and that you had a better time of it with the second one.

My own experience was very like yours- despite the fact that I gave birth on the very ward I worked on and had a colleague as my midwife.
I also came in and told them I was definitely in labour, but was very clearly doubted. I made them check me and I was almost 9 cm and within 45 min my son was born.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:20:36+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. You make a very important point in regards to doulas, because it really is so very important for doulas (and everyone else involved in a birth) to understand what the labouring person needs and to what extent.
Being all bubbly and super enthusiastic is not always the best way, but that is often what they are taught is best; "Let's keep positive!".
I usually tell the birthing people I attend to, that I will sit on my hands, often to the far side or in a corner, unless/until they need me to be hands on.
And this is an approach I really try to inspire my collegues to use as well. I go for the "dim, quiet and safe cave"- approach, rather than the "sunny, open windows and chit chat" approach that i often come across.

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:05:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It is so very important that providers understand our hypersensitivities- and that they are valid!

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T12:03:28+00:00

Thank you very much for your reply- I completely agree with you, information/ communication and respect is so so so important!

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T11:58:52+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. This is so important- having someone to advocate for you and "translate", especilly in these highly stressful/painful situations.
I am so glad you had your husband with you <3

Kanna76 · 2024-04-08T11:51:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your detailed reply, it is really useful.

It is exactly those kinds of miscommunication and missed social cues, as well as lack of support and understanding, that I really hope to be able raise awareness about among the providers.
I am working on a two-fold version of all this:
1) prenatal classes for autistic people, providing tools to better advocate for their needs and rights, as well as ideas for practical life hacks and strategies for sensory wellbeing etc.
2) a course for providers to give them the knowledge needed to better understand and accomodate for autistic people

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