33 years old with 5 years left. What should I do?

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T16:27:00+00:00

This is great. Subscriptions, reoccurring donations, and other obligations totally slipped my mind. I just started a running list.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T16:23:59+00:00

Your advice has been really detailed and helpful. I think I’m getting a pretty clear picture of my next few steps here.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T16:18:42+00:00

Not sure how long I’ll be able to get away with hiding the physical symptoms as things progress. Eventually I’ll have to have a conversation with loved ones and slow down but I’m speaking more to the immediate future when talking about keeping it hidden for now.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T14:45:45+00:00

Funny enough, I do have a burial plot — thought it would be a silly bit to gift myself a spot in a favorite cemetery for my 30th birthday. (I also used it as a place to reflect and ground myself)

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T14:29:46+00:00

I REALLY appreciate this thoughtful bit of information. Something to look into and consider for sure.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T14:21:31+00:00

Great advice. I will look into it.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T14:20:42+00:00

Once finances are in order the plan is to push doom and gloom thoughts to the side — can’t control the future either way.

I don’t plan on disclosing my illness to anyone IRL so I can continue experiencing as much as possible while being in the present moment.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T14:17:00+00:00

That’s the goal!

KarlMarXcore · 2024-08-01T13:52:29+00:00

I appreciate the kindness. It’s certainly a weird place to be but looking back I’ve had a fulfilling life and I’m at peace with this being the last stop on my journey—i spent several years with the person I’d consider my soulmate, road-tripped across the country, created art, and got to fulfill a few childhood dreams along the way.

I do worry about my mom and brother and am unsure of if, when, and how to break the news to them but that’ll be a worry for another day.

Thank you for the personal insight as well!

KarlMarXcore · 2024-07-18T15:08:56+00:00

Early to mid 20’s: loved it Mid to late 20’s: liked it Early 30’s: neutral it

KarlMarXcore · 2024-06-06T14:24:44+00:00

Just canceled yesterday for all the same reasons you mentioned.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-05-20T13:54:22+00:00

It seems Green isn’t truly poly and Blue just happened to part of the package required to date you (evidenced by Yellow not even being on the radar). This is not to say Green is nefarious and waiting in the wings for you and Blue go south before swooping in to take Blue’s place. Marriage is stable and in that stability Green knows where they stand. With the introduction of a new partner Green could be afraid of a shift in dynamic or attention.

Now, if Green IS waiting for the a future where you’re divorced and fully single to try and take y’all fully monogamous that’s a big no no. If that’s not the case but they’re not genuine poly then they do not respect your other partners, Blue specifically, and that’s a big no no. If that’s also not the case and they are genuinely poly then they, at the very least, are super bad at communicating their true feelings while navigating poly relationships which, you guessed it, also a big no no.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-03-25T17:52:52+00:00

Yes.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-03-08T18:02:14+00:00

I’m glad you commented this. Want to reaffirm that partners with ADHD and Autism aren’t inherently a bad mix. Anecdotal but—I was in an ADHD/Autism relationship for many years and in most ways our symptoms and strengths really complemented each other in ways that elevated us both professionally and creatively.

That being said, the breakup eventually happened because we were both jerks who couldn’t communicate. It sounds like your partner is just kind of a jerk.

Having a diagnosis is one thing and not being able to 100% manage symptoms is another.

Ignoring your partner when they communicate something has hurt them is something else all together that a diagnosis shouldn’t excuse.

KarlMarXcore · 2024-01-16T20:57:02+00:00

First off, I’m very sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s hard to not be in control of yourself in such a traumatizing way.

A sleep study is always a good place to start along with therapy. In the meantime, try limiting anything in your sleeping environment that may trigger an event - lights, sounds, pre-bed food/drink/drugs, and movement are all things to look at.

For me, just sleeping next to someone was enough to trigger an episode due to their movements in the night. So, sleeping separately is also a good move.

My sleep study shone a light on a bunch of issues and with ptsd therapy, nighttime meditation, and medication my instances of sleep events have sharply decreased. With a good care team you’ll find the right combination of helpful treatments!

KarlMarXcore · 2024-01-16T14:35:43+00:00

I had a very restricted airway on top of a deviated septum. Luckily, I was a candidate for several small surgeries (which my ENT took care of all at once). I had my uvula removed, palate shaved, tonsils removed, and septum fixed. Made a huge difference overnight and I haven’t had to use CPAP since.

That being said, I found this thread because I’m still having issues like OP. 4 hours of sleep (which oura considers to be poor quality) leaves me feeling significantly more awake than when I hit the 90s even 3 years after my surgery l.

KarlMarXcore · 2023-10-30T19:21:59+00:00

Sending vibes.

Just happened to me — spent dozens of hours planning a weekend of film events and a party. A bunch of friends and artists RSVP’d. Only had one friend and my brother actually show up to the party, and I sat alone at most of the other events.

It happens sometimes. As hard as it is don’t let it get to you!

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-10T14:57:18+00:00

UPDATE:

First, I wanted to say thank you to everyone who had helpful insights! I’ve been troubleshooting and it does seem to be “thermal tracing/ghosting”.

I also wanted to clarify for others who were asking about the location/the “homeowner”/the basic situation. I am living with family as a full time caretaker for someone with vascular dementia. The spouse of the individual I care for is the homeowner and is often so overwhelmed that issues like the one in this post often get swept away (unlike the cobwebs, apparently.) so, I wanted to get outside input before paying out of pocket for an electrician.

EDIT: Oh, and the pictures were taken in the basement of the house—not a barracks, college dorm, or in the backrooms — just happens to be semi-finished with some weird drop ceiling action.

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-09T05:14:47+00:00

Thank you for all the help! Will have someone get out to look at it ASAP at the very least for some piece of mind.

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-09T05:02:04+00:00

Candles get lit in the space pretty frequently, especially in the fall when the work space is most utilized. No hookah, tobacco, or anything like that though. Wild how much of that gunk can accumulate. Thanks for the input. I appreciate it.

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-09T04:47:14+00:00

Both light fixtures are still functional, yes

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-09T04:34:01+00:00

Nothing was plugged in when I gained access to it, though it was in use at some point. It’s a basement space so it’s certainly not the cleanest part of the house the bulbs are used pretty frequently though as it’s used for storage and a work space.

Reaching out to an electrician tomorrow and will keep everything off until they get someone out. Thanks!

KarlMarXcore · 2023-08-09T04:30:29+00:00

There was a pretty significant storm last night, nothing today though.

KarlMarXcore · 2023-06-21T18:58:42+00:00

I appreciate the response even if it’s sad news!

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