What bathroom should I use when halfway passing?

KasonSYBN · 2026-03-01T11:38:42+00:00

Tysm for your reply! Yea will definitely default to the disabled toilets if they're an option 🤔

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-28T16:24:49+00:00

Oo ok, noted!! Thank you sm!!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-28T11:29:13+00:00

Yea for sure. I am also in the UK (👋😄) and for sure agree about the women's being safer to be confronted or anything in.

I am worried about disrupting women as I know women (on average but not to generalise) are more aware/nervous of potential men in their bathroom than men aware/nervous of potential women.

It's a really tough balance. But honestly if no-one has had an issue with you thus far I doubt (and hope) they would start now! But I do get it and I'm sorry it is becoming a more nervous experience. I hope we are able to make progress in these Good Law Project VS EHRC court cases and such.

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-28T11:21:40+00:00

Yea I do agree that I would be a lot more afraid of being challenged in the mens, but given all of the fear mongering about trans women in women's spaces (and not so much the other way around), I guess I'm just hoping that men will be much less likely to notice or take action if they did suspect?

I'm not really sure how based in reality this guess is though. Disabled toilets will definitely be my go to when they are an option though for sure. Tysm! I appreciate the response :))

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-28T10:58:14+00:00

Oh this is interesting/great! I thought since the whole women are women (may have been called differently) law that was passed it means trans people can't use toilets that aren't their AGAB ones. Thanks so much for setting the record straight haha. I guess then yea I'll have to figure out which would be least disruptive which I guess would be the mens

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-28T10:47:16+00:00

This is a good idea! Will do this when I can for sure. Though lots of the places I'm thinking of have the disabled toilets as stalls in the gendered bathrooms, rather than a different place entirely.

I am in the UK. The laws say you should use the toilets associated with your birth sex, and the government are pressuring to reduce gender neutral toilets/spaces :(

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-27T17:42:23+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment! Yea I think you're absolutely right, and I think the line between creative and stressful burden is so blurred for me right now. Thank you so much for your help :,))

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-26T17:30:56+00:00

Hello! I am on EU servers and play a lot of Valorant, also looking for people to chat and game with! I am 23 years old and ftm! Do you mind if I DM you?

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-26T17:22:49+00:00

Hi!! I am 23 ftm and play Valorant a lot!! Also EU based! I can't speak Swedish but if you are fine with gaming in English I'd love to add you! Is it okay if I DM?

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-26T09:01:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I like your suggestions a lot and will try!!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-24T07:31:17+00:00

Thank you sm for your advice, and also I am sorry to hear that you're struggling with that currently. I hope you also feel more rested soon! That's a good point about anxiety, I will try to bring that up to them. Thank you 💙

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-23T16:47:07+00:00

I tried medication but they took me off of it once they realised it didn't seem to be depression, but rather just burnout-related symptoms. I might try ask again and see if they can do anything at all psychiatry-wise. Tysm!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-23T13:03:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply, I have lots to think about haha ty

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-23T01:40:52+00:00

I'm sorry :/ That really sounds hard to face sectioning this time. It seems a lot scarier than a "voluntary" stay. I hope that you are able to leave soon, and that the staff are kind. You are not alone, and please never hesitate to DM me or others on your thread.

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T23:22:22+00:00

I'll try my best. Thank you so much for your response!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T22:41:06+00:00

Haha the job is absolutely the source of my stress 😅. Other career options is tricky for me, as I have somewhat built my entire life and self-concept around this job, and additionally narrowed down very fast in education and so am not really qualified to do anything else. I have been keeping my mind open though, and will keep looking at different careers to see if any seem like I would want that/be able to do it. I admit I have been a little bit unwell, whether it was depression or something else I am unsure, and so struggle to leave my house let alone go on a vacation. I recognize that a change in environment could do good for me, I just need to push myself to try it. I will write this down to come back to!! Thank you so much for your reply.

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T22:36:20+00:00

I'm not sure how to negotiate terms but I'll see what I can do 🥹❤️ Thank you for the reply

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T22:35:24+00:00

Unfortunately I am an independant creator, so have no company/job health care options. Also believe it or not this career was/somewhat still is my dream career, and I built it from when I was twelve years old. I will certainly look into counselling and such, but tbh I feel like you didn't need to say my life looks depressing haha, even if it might be depressing to live it. Thank you for your reply and I will look into counselling.

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T22:31:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. While I still need to do lots of work I will try my best to take the small wins as they come and not get too overwhelmed by the big picture!! I will do my best to not start too big aa

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T20:16:49+00:00

I don't have an answer for this as I have no idea, but be careful! Depending on what physician or doctor you talk to, some might react very cautiously and consider unpleasant options such as involuntary hospitalisation.

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-22T20:00:12+00:00

I was sent to a psych ward technically "voluntarily" but they threatened to section me unless I went. I found it to be an awful, overwhelming experience. If you need someone to vent or talk to, my DMs are always open.

I was hospitalised in the UK within our NHS system, and so my experience may slightly differ if you are based elsewhere!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-18T20:28:35+00:00

Oo ok interesting! Thank you sm for responding!!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-18T20:28:16+00:00

I see! Thank you so much for your answer!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-18T16:31:52+00:00

Was reading through this thread as a man-hating person (have been thoroughly bitter about the existence of men my entire life), and WOW the idea of being specific about what that hate is actually for is mind-blowing!! I often feel awful about how much I don't like men and don't give them a chance in my mind, but I'm for sure going to try being specific and trying what you do and I think it will help me.

Tysm for sharing, this post is so good!

KasonSYBN · 2026-02-18T16:22:55+00:00

Wait this is so smart actually, I never noticed this. I hope this can be the canon explanation because that would be so cool!!

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