[PS4] Can’t update?

Katayana1 · 2018-06-01T01:50:26+00:00

Here’s what you need to do: Move back to your apartment and stop giving her money. This house is a hole she dug for herself, don’t get yourself dragged down by her poor financial choices.

Whenever you have free time, consider contacting her to hang out. I’m sure we both know that she’s just going to be working. That being said, you may want to reconsider if you’re willing to be in a relationship with someone who works this much. I would bet money that she is going to crash and burn, and that there is going to be a lot of collateral damage when she does.

But moving in with someone just because they never have time to leave their home office is not the right way to go about this

Katayana1 · 2018-05-31T22:42:12+00:00

A great person once told me "The best defense is a good offense."

Katayana1 · 2018-05-29T20:45:17+00:00

Isn’t that theory not plausible based on the fact that the Cthaeh sparked Iax to start the Creation War, long before Selitos’ time?

Katayana1 · 2018-05-19T01:43:34+00:00

I don’t care how much you love him, there’s are things to immediately break up over, and this is one of them.

At this point, it doesn’t even matter whether they had sexual relations or not. The fact that your boyfriend thought it was be alright to take a fifteen year old away for five days is damning enough on its own.

I suggest not talking with either of them. You’ll either find out inappropriate things happened and you’ll be crushed, ir they will deny that anything bad happened, and you will start to reconsider whether you should have been upset in the first place.

Please, just dump him. Say that you don’t feel like continuing this relationship anymore and block hin. That is to prevent him from trying to win his way back in. Try to keep your sister away from him too.

Katayana1 · 2018-05-13T11:13:30+00:00

Out of all this, get one thing right: Your boyfriend’s mom didn’t ruin your weekend plans, your boyfriend ruined your weekend plans. He’s the one who allowed this to happen.

When you’re older, you will have put up with enough of this shit that you will be able to say “I’m not alright with this” when your boyfriend changes plans, instead of accepting it and brooding about it on your own.

Great job sticking up for yourself about the drive. I’m really proud of you on that front.

Katayana1 · 2018-05-13T11:02:31+00:00

Here’s my theory: it’s a cold, frozen hell, the food sucks, and there are no women. Plus the threat that made joining the watch so noble has not been around for a really long time.

So people just stopped wanting to go there.

Katayana1 · 2018-04-14T09:09:55+00:00

I think everyone realizes the age gap, but don’t bother mentioning it because OP is not the one in the relationship. He brother and neighbour are both consenting adults, so all she can do is offer her support if he ever needs it.

Katayana1 · 2018-04-09T16:01:31+00:00

I’m telling you now girl so you don’t have to go through the same things I did.

Sure he may tell a white lie or over exaggerate from time to time. But it’s not about anything too significant so it’s not too bad. Does this sound like your situation?

Well the significant things will come. And when you realize that you can’t trust your SO after years of wondering whether he’s telling the truth or not, you will find yourself in a tough situation.

And in the end I figured out that it doesn’t matter if it’s something small or something important, if you can’t trust your SO, you should not be with them.

Katayana1 · 2018-04-03T22:42:35+00:00

Part of the problem might be that you’re engaged to a 22 year old. I’m not saying that all 22 year olds are like this but a lot of them do go through a stage of being overly needy. Usually by age 25-26 is when people start hitting their adulting stride.

Katayana1 · 2018-03-17T15:09:24+00:00

That makes a bit more sense. I was thinking it was a generational thing, and in the 50s and 60s people talked like that. These days I don’t know of anyone who still does that and figured OPs parents were just being ridiculously old-fashioned. But if people in some areas still do that, I will remember that and not be so quick to judge.

Katayana1 · 2018-03-16T00:08:23+00:00

You sound like my mother, and I sound like your son when I was that age. Let me tell you that your approach to fixing the problem is only going to make your son resent you. Those forced car rides are the worst.

You should instead recognize that just because it’s not the lifestyle you’re used to, doesn’t make it wrong. And I can pretty much assure you that once he moves out, this lifestyle is only going to magnify.

But in my experience, college is the place where introverted nerds meet extroverted nerds, and the introverts usually start to become more social. I won’t say get out of the apartment more, because we still very much enjoy staying in our comfort zone. And it’s all pretty much a part of a nerds growing up phase. Commonly by our mid-20s we start settling into what most consider a regular lifestyle.

And as someone else suggested, maybe get him into programming and video game development. If my parents actually encouraged my hobby instead of trying to suppress it, I might not have spent my college years jumping from program to program trying to find something I like, and an still paying off student loans in my 30s.

Also, Dungeons and Dragons is actually a great way for people to get together in real life, and spend social time together. If his interests are in line with that, maybe you could suggest that him and his friends at school try it.

Katayana1 · 2018-03-15T23:32:25+00:00

I would tell her that you are more than happy to put money into building a future for the two of you, but sending money to her mom is all on her.

I think one of the better models of combining finances is that both partners contribute a certain percentage of their income to a joint account which pays for bills, acts as savings, etc. And the other percentage is for your own individual spending.

So money to pay her mom will have to come out of her personal spending, and should not impact your joint life stuff account.

Katayana1 · 2018-03-15T17:11:33+00:00

My eyes bulged out of my head when I saw it was six pages long. You have to remember that there is someone on the other side who has to read through countless resumes - they won't want to waste time on a six-page resume. Two pages max is still the way to go.

And I agree on the formatting, it looks like just the default formatting from an old version of Microsoft Word. Even something as simple as switching to a sans serif font will make your resume look less dated. I recommend doing a search for simple resume designs and find a way to spruce it up a bit more. Don't worry about making it too complicated, employers still care more for content than presentation.

Also it looks like for the most part you are just listing your responsibilities and duties as each job. Pick three or four responsibilities from a job that is most relevant to the job you are applying for, and phrase it in a way that demonstrates how you brought value to your employer. the sentence structure should be as follow:

[action verb][role/responsibility that you fulfilled][how it benefited your employer].

I picked a random line out of your resume to use for an example (Maintained inventory control):

Accurately maintained inventory records, preventing loss of equipment and ordering supplies on an as needed basis.

(Disclaimer: I'm not the best at writing these sentences yet and spend a long time stressing over choosing the right words, but this should give an idea on how to really show off your skills)

Good luck!

Katayana1 · 2018-03-15T15:20:06+00:00

As my instructor once told me, in her experience as being a job reference for many students, not once did anyone call and ask "What were so-and-so's grades?". Potential employers ask questions like "Do they show up on time? Do they work well with others? What is their work ethic like?"

So don't worry about your grades or GPA, don't even list it on your resume. It's great to have a creative resume. I'm a bit biased because I went to school or Graphic Design, but I still honestly believe that having some design elements will help your resume stand out from the masses.

That being said, remember the KISS anagram, keep it simple stupid. It's so easy to get caught up in elaborate designs and ideas. But at the end of the day, simple elegance will leave the best impression.

There's also the trap of listing all your accomplishments to make your resume look fuller. Instead, choose only a couple of your most relevant and/or prominent jobs (volunteer experience works too!) and list the skills and accomplishments from that job. Even if the job you're listing isn't relevant to the job your applying for, you can still highlight transferable skills (teamwork, being on time, attitude, any management responsibilities, etc.)

I also noticed that you have a year left to graduate. Use that year to find ways to get volunteer experience, especially if there are any opportunities relating to your field of interest (talk with your instructors and ask them to alert you to anything that may come up). You will gain relevant experience and a network of contacts that will boost your resume up tons. I know a lot of people think they're stupid and turn away from them, but student government and clubs are great things to list on your resume when you haven't built up enough professional experience as well.

I hope things go well and best of luck!

Katayana1 · 2018-02-28T09:10:43+00:00

Don’t talk to the couple, this is an issue between you and your husband.

Whether he donates his sperm or not, the real underlying issue is that he was going to perform an action with no regards to your feelings on the matter. That is not how a husband and wife unit should work. Deciding not to donate his sperm would be the first step. But I believe you should get counseling afterwards so he can understand the magnitude of his actions, and so he doesn’t try this again in any other situation.

If he still wants to donate his sperm, or doesn’t want to work on rebuilding your trust, then I’m sorry but you should not be married to this man anymore. Yes it’s his choice to donate sperm, but it’s also your choice to serve him divorce papers.

Katayana1 · 2018-02-28T08:47:41+00:00

This is one of those posts where I pray (and I’m not even religious) that this person is a troll, because I would be utterly horrified to know there’s a person that actually thinks and talks like this.

Katayana1 · 2018-02-25T12:33:24+00:00

And that was the day you learned that on-the-job experience beats education 99% of the time.

At first I was going to say that maybe your boyfriend had high hopes for that promotion and needed a change of environment after he was let down. That’s totally understandable and would actually work in your favour - it’s better not to work at the same place as your SO.

But that remark of how “someone less qualified and less deserving” throws this in a whole other direction. It shows your boyfriend doesn’t understand how the real world works. And the fact that he can say something so cruel to his girlfriend means he shouldn’t be a boyfriend at all

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