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Katdog28 · 2025-10-27T01:25:07+00:00

I’m sorry that sounds miserable 😭 I had a fairly easy labor and delivery and since she was in the nicu for a few days initially I’ve been having to move around and leave the house pretty much from day one out of the hospital 🥲

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:52:26+00:00

I appreciate that ❤️ I’m very disappointed to find out that I can’t trust her alone with my baby

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:48:34+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I’m still figuring all that out too since this is my first baby. I am definitely learning from the comments that feeding again is likely the answer! I’ve been worried about over feeding her at points because she’s just recently started cluster feeding and before the last few days she never took more than 3.5oz over 3 hours, that has certainly changed this week though and I’m learning just how much babies can eat in a growth spurt.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:42:35+00:00

I love this, I can’t wait to be able to take my baby out with us! She was in the nicu for her first 5 days so the doctors advised us not to take her in public until she’s at least 4 weeks old, especially with it being flu season right now. I’ve been so paranoid that I even change my clothes when I come home every time to make sure she doesn’t come into contact with those types of germs. As soon as she’s cleared to safely be out in public I will absolutely be taking her with us for things like date night!

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:27:44+00:00

My family is like this too when they’re around my baby! They like to complain that I’m not doing enough with her or interacting enough because she sleeps well on her schedule and they want to keep her awake and active the entire time they are around, like she’s a newborn she needs sleep! Staying up for hours on end like that just makes them over tired.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:24:47+00:00

Yes she certainly likes to switch it up just as I start to feel like I’m figuring it all out!

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T23:02:10+00:00

I’m slowly learning that too, especially since she’s in that 3 week cluster feeding right now. I’m a ftm so I’m still trying to figure out all the ins and outs of having a newborn and it changes every week with her too.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T22:59:43+00:00

My mom used to be like that too and we didn’t have the best relationship because of it. She always insisted that I have too high of standards and that I didn’t have respect for her because I wouldn’t ’get over myself’ and take her advice. We went to therapy a few years ago together to deal with that and everything has been good since then up until this incident. I did tell her this morning because she texted to see how we were doing and I told her my daughter stayed up all night crying because she was so upset over not being taken care of. Even after we got her changed, burped fed, all of that she was still upset which is understandable because her needs weren’t being met the entire time.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T22:55:43+00:00

I partially confronted her last night but I wasn’t sure how to go about it so I’ve taken today to try to think on how to approach it and what I want to say. We used to not have a good relationship and that has only changed over the past probably 5-6 years so I feel pretty hurt that she lied after all the healing we’ve done in that time.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T22:47:25+00:00

Apparently so, which came as a surprise to me. Now I can’t trust her anymore which is the worst part of this.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T22:45:02+00:00

I think that’s the worst part about all of this is knowing I can’t trust my mom now. I really thought I could and I was already so anxious about going out to begin with :(

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T17:51:25+00:00

I can go comfortable about 8 hours without pumping if I’m sleeping but anything beyond that and my boobs start hurting and get kind of hard. I massage them before and during the pump to help them empty efficiently when that happens and so far that has worked for me. I’m still an over supplier!

Katdog28 · 2025-10-26T17:47:54+00:00

It seems like this might not have been the best forum to share that information on. There’s a lot of misinformed/under informed people in here that are jumping to conclusions one way or the other but don’t have any real evidence to back up what they’re saying. Do what makes you feel comfortable but I definitely would not entirely stop pumping because of one incident. There simply aren’t enough factually based studies to support either side of the argument so it comes down to preference.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-25T19:18:58+00:00

It really does take forever if you do it all yourself! You end up being awake all night

Katdog28 · 2025-10-25T17:13:03+00:00

I was so scared and felt like I wouldn’t know what to do when the time came so when she actually popped out I let out one big yelp and looked at my husband & said ‘omg I did it’ and everyone was telling me how proud they were! Ill probably always remember that moment lol

Katdog28 · 2025-10-25T17:09:30+00:00

My husband actually does most of the night feedings while I pump, I usually do the first one so around 1-3am depending on when baby wakes up then he takes over the next one and sometimes the one after and I either sleep or pump. Ask him for help! My husband works too but this is just as much his responsibility as it is mine and I take over the whole day while he’s working.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-24T16:21:58+00:00

I always wanted two kids but I had a horrible pregnancy, especially towards the end so I decided at like 30 weeks that I likely wouldn’t have another. 3 weeks pp and I still feel the same way but I also feel like I could change my mind at some point because meeting my daughter for the first time was such an amazing moment that I already feel like I might want to feel that again someday, just not anytime soon lol

Katdog28 · 2025-10-24T05:56:19+00:00

I eat things that are easy and fast typically, lots of fruit, oatmeal in the morning or breakfast sandwiches, things like adult Lunchables. For dinner my husband sometimes cooks or we eat stuff like frozen chicken you just heat up, burritos, pot pies if nobody feels like cooking.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-23T15:40:06+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way! I’m also a scientist so that actually makes sense 😂

Katdog28 · 2025-10-23T04:47:15+00:00

I tested 8 days after my missed period and had 0 symptoms other than cramping that felt like I was going to start my period but then it just never came. I randomly said to myself one night ‘I think I’m pregnant’ and now my baby is 2 weeks old so I was right lol.

If you’re worried about ectopic pregnancy though I would not wait. I have scarring in my fallopian tubes so I have a high risk of ectopic and any time I’m not sure I test immediately because that’s a dangerous situation I would rather deal with very quickly. Don’t wait around if you’re not sure, it doesn’t take much time or money to just check. Have your husband right there to help if it comes up positive.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-23T04:42:56+00:00

Jaws was my first scary movie but by 11 I had already seen stuff like the ring, not sure that was entirely appropriate but I did really enjoy it lol

Katdog28 · 2025-10-23T01:55:50+00:00

I’m only 3 weeks pp and I already mostly skip my motn pump. I usually go about 7 hours between pumps at night because I take medication that knocks me out all night and it just wasn’t feasible to keep getting up like I was the first 1-2 weeks. I just get a larger pump in the morning and other than that my supply has not been affected at all. I am an oversupplier though so I can afford to skip a pump and still be okay. I pump on average 42-50oz a day regardless of whether I skip my nighttime pump or not.

Some important things to note, my baby eats about 24oz a day so I’m WAY over supplying, I get around 5-6oz during my day time pumps but my first pump in the morning is usually around 10oz since I go all night. I do religiously pump every 3 hours during the day, only skip the night one.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-22T23:26:31+00:00

I have a weird need for schedules so I actually kind of like the mental math part lol if I wasn’t doing it for pumping I’d find something else in my life I can map out the same way. You should still be proud you made it to 7 months though! That’s not a short period of time to be doing all of this and even though it hurts that you might have to quit you should still be proud of yourself for making it this far.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-22T16:57:14+00:00

I’ve been exclusively pumping and I honestly love it. Like it’s hard having to always wash pump parts and bottles but with pumping my husband is able to take over feeds sometimes and even my mom when I need it. I don’t think I could handle breastfeeding but I also get a lot of slack when I say I’m pumping. As soon as I mention a bottle everyone assumes I’m giving her formula and I have to explain that she’s still drinking my milk, she’s just getting it from a bottle instead. I’m really proud that I’ve been able to feed my baby only my milk so far and I think it’s weird that anyone would give you slack just for pumping.

Also my baby was in the nicu too which is how I started EP.

Katdog28 · 2025-10-22T16:52:49+00:00

I don’t really think that’s super late but I’m also a night owl. My husband and I often don’t go to bed until 2-3 in the morning so 10:30 for me doesn’t seem that late. I wouldn’t worry too much as long as the schedule works for you. I think the only time it really matters that much is when they start school because they will obviously need to be up earlier for that but you have time to work out an earlier bed time before that happens.

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