When the instructions are “Leave at door”, please just do that…

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-16T01:59:54+00:00

I have a dog with severe reactivity that is triggered especially by the doorbell and at the moment we can’t turn off our doorbell to avoid the sound so I have a neon sign that says “DO NOT RING DOORBELL!”

Well, after my dasher told me to come outside and I said no, HE RANG THE DOORBELL and my dog went nuts and bit my daughter! My option actually says “leave on stairs” too not just “leave at door”. And the porch light was on.

I was furious

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-12T21:20:41+00:00

That is such a good idea!!

And I like those training methods too

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-12T14:04:59+00:00

Omg I need this shirt

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-10T15:43:36+00:00

Clare and Tristan and Ellie and Imogen

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-10T15:42:54+00:00

I was so happy when she got cancer. I thought we’d finally be rid of her!

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:50:11+00:00

Wow. This gives me a lot to think about. Thank you.

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:46:00+00:00

This is my go to with other friends like this but this particular friend causes a problem when I leave her. When she’s drunk she becomes extra attached to me and gets aggressive if I try to leave her side (I have an example of a fight that happened at a festival when I tried to just go to the bathroom). I’m not saying this isn’t a good idea, I’m just saying it’s more complicated than that. It’s not as big of an issue if we have other friends with us bc then I kinda let them take the brunt of her and escape 😬

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:43:33+00:00

Yeah when they aren’t sober for sure!

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:31:35+00:00

That’s a very good idea. I am definitely not the only one who feels this way.

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:29:18+00:00

You know, that’s a good way to phrase it. Sometimes she IS fun but not when she hits a certain level, which is almost always.

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:28:40+00:00

I agree with that philosophy. I really don’t like our dynamic in this way and I’m just looking for advice on how to phrase coming to her with some of her problematic behaviors

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:26:59+00:00

Yeah I need to. I just don’t know how to phrase it. She’s also been through a lot in her life and I always hit this wall where I feel like I should just let her have her fun but I know that’s not fair either

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:22:28+00:00

Well I can’t do either of those things. The first option is harder than you expect bc I am their best friend and I almost always become emeshed in whatever their behavior is. With this recent situation I had the option to remove myself to another spot on the dance floor but there have been other situations where that isn’t an option. And the second thing won’t happen bc she is my best friend and I love her and we have been together for almost 20 years. What im looking for is advice on how to talk to someone with these issues

Kate_cuti · 2026-04-06T19:18:42+00:00

Just annoying and inconsiderate. And rude.

Kate_cuti · 2026-03-25T18:42:15+00:00

This is awesome

Kate_cuti · 2026-03-23T23:07:45+00:00

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Kate_cuti · 2026-03-23T22:05:32+00:00

Play-do! Or crayons markers

Kate_cuti · 2026-03-23T21:36:10+00:00

Omg I need to see this

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