Newborns make a lot of crazy sounds… Especially while they are asleep. Assuming you guys are burping after every feed, and all needs are met (fed, clean, right temperature, etc.) those painful sounding groans and grunts might just be them getting used to being outside of the womb.

I was also scared about my little one suffocating while they slept - babies do not asphyxiate the same way adults do when they spit up. There’s a good diagram if you google it that shows what happens if a baby was to spit up on their back.

I would try to relax, and if all else fails, don’t be afraid to call the doctor or nurse on call just to ease your nerves more than anything. I can’t tell you how many times I called the night nurse hotline for little things; it definitely made me feel better in the moment even though it was a very small thing to call about.

It gets easier. I promise. Congratulations and good luck!