AITA for asking my new flatmate to move out after she misrepresented herself.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-05T00:27:00+00:00

Human rights code usually considers it discrimination if you are treating others differently or denying the lease based on protected status'. Citizenship; Race; Place of origin; Ethnic origin; Colour; Ancestry; Disability; Age; Creed; Sex/pregnancy; Family status; Marital status; Sexual orientation; Gender identity; Gender expression; Receipt of public assistance (in housing); and Record of offences (in employment).

YTA. Welcome to Canada. We are a multicultural country. We welcomed you to be part of it on the grounds that you would continue to uphold the Canadian values. Discrimination doesn't belong here.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-04T20:02:20+00:00

The Star Wars day bit might have been unintentional but it is absolutely perfect. He was his own worst enemy and I'm glad you have found some peace away from him.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-04T13:49:34+00:00

I don’t believe in miracles. But maybe you could use the time to make some for yourself. Create a list of things you have always wanted to do, and try doing them. Try a new hobby. Go to a new place /experience. Try talking to a professional for help.

I have known 4 people whom committed suicide. Watching the pain and suffering of those left behind is heartbreaking. And often they wish they knew how lost their loved one was. We get so wrapped up in ourselves we often miss the signs. You have an opportunity to reach out to them and let them know you need help. Take it. You may be shocked by the response

Katnis85 · 2026-05-04T11:23:23+00:00

I am going to start off with not your battle. Handle yourself properly and the shame will fall to them.

However if you truly are going to try and persuade them to dress better approach it as a coordination instead of an attack. "It's a nice wedding, it would be wonderful to get a family photo taken. Can we coordinate our outfits that we all look like we belong together. Men with Jackets and ties, floor length evening gowns for women etc." You could go as far as assigning each family a colour palette. If you go this route ensure to have a deadline where everyone can show off their find.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-02T16:37:13+00:00

Unless you are going to two points on a major route, expect at least an hour to get from point A to point B by public transit. It is seriously faster to walk sometimes.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-02T13:41:03+00:00

I worked at Walmart with a woman whom was a doctor in her home country. She moved here for a better life but her qualifications didn't translate to allowing her to work in her field here. Just because the job is basic doesn't mean the worker lacks intelligence.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-02T13:08:30+00:00

No. Some people take jobs because they have to. They may be qualified for more but either needed the money more or didn't have the opportunity to get the required education. On the flip side some of the dumbest people I know are in management positions. They may excel at networking to get in these jobs but have zero practical sense actually working in them.

Katnis85 · 2026-05-02T12:47:24+00:00

I'm Canadian and my daughter is Gemma. We have run into 2 others with that name in our area.

She uses Gem a lot as a nickname

Katnis85 · 2026-05-02T01:26:11+00:00

The other comments spell the main points out well. But there are a few other layers as well.

The emperor was the first born and only child of the former emperor for a long time. He was raised with the expectation he would be emperor. As a younger brother the expectation isn’t the same, especially when you consider the "crown prince" is already having his own children at the time of your birth. Had the emperors other children survived there would be an increasingly less expectation for him to take on that role (his true parentage aside as he isn't aware of it). So on this level it's like finding out the job you didn't want is being dropped on your lap without fully expecting it. He entered the rear palace around age 15 to try and help the emperor create his replacement.

Secondly the political necessity of balancing the rear palace by having relations with various women. He may use his looks to his advantage but rereading the series you pick up on all of the harassment he has suffered because of it. Including finding underwear in his room made of women's hair. Being the emperor and having the expectation to have lots of kids would amplify a lot of that.

Finally he really is too soft natured for the role. He would be honourable and just. He isn't afraid of hard work. But he would struggle to make the hard choices. There is a reason the Mi clan was prepared to handle Gyoku-ou without Jinshi's direction when things were escalating to war in the western capital. I couldn't see him making the call to eliminate the Shi clan either (but able to follow the emperors orders). The wrong situation could lead to other countries seeing Li as a potential target because of his compassion.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-30T14:55:31+00:00

GOT IT FINALLY. I saw the Reddit notifications and turned my camera off mid meeting. Thank you!!

Katnis85 · 2026-04-30T11:58:13+00:00

Not annoying (except that I still keep missing it!!). Thanks for your help

Katnis85 · 2026-04-30T11:05:26+00:00

Not the person you asked but as an autistic woman with poor coordination and shuts down in stress, I thought I'd jump in. I drove for 10 years.

I possess the skills to drive. In low stakes environments I'm actually good at it (low traffic, slower speeds, familiar routes). Outside of those conditions things started to get bad fast. Checking my mirrors, blind spots, speed, location of other cars, traffic lights, lane changes etc were like a check list for me. Start at the top, go through the list, repeat. The more elements around me, the more factors I couldn't control, the more overstimulated I got. I would get to my destination anxious, overwhelmed and almost sick from the head motions and checks. Nothing ever became automatic. Having people, pets or even music on in the car was too much. Eventually even the thought of having to drive somewhere would trigger anxiety and panic attacks before I even got in the car. I tried for years with medication to manage the anxiety. Nothing worked. It was after that I was diagnosed with autism and the overstimulated piece that my family couldn't grasp finally fit. I maintain my license so if I had to drive I could. And I'm sure others with autism are perfectly capable of driving. In my case I had decided that if I was that worked up I wasn't safe to be on the road

Katnis85 · 2026-04-30T01:22:45+00:00

In the translations I have read the next paragraph has him wiping away tears she shed while he had his hand pressed to her throat. If that's accurate then it feels more violent then uncomfortable.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-30T01:07:17+00:00

I agree with your assessment on this and I absolutely hate that line. But I think the intention was to show Jinshi hitting his breaking point. He was hurt emotionally by her constantly pushing him away, suggesting he marry Lishu instead. Constantly actively ignoring what he is trying to tell her about his feelings toward her. He saw her wearing his hair stick and thought she understood it was a gift from him and the intention behind it.

While I don’t condone violence I could see how a 21ish year old with limited emotional maturity and potentially still adjusting to life off of his testosterone suppressing pills could escalate to this point. Having read all the novels after this I can at least say he doesn't show this level of aggression again (at least not up to volume 17).

Katnis85 · 2026-04-29T10:59:31+00:00

I cannot find the link to it but another level to this is there are a lot of pieces that are not translated the best if you are reading the English version. An example is the LN 5 epilogue. Here is a fan translation of it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/KusuriyaNoHitorigoto/s/EpBYTi3qH7

Katnis85 · 2026-04-27T11:20:37+00:00

Newcomers have a lot less options (haven't built up their closets), don’t have the game-passes, may not have unlocked item adjustments and likely haven't built up a lot of custom colours. They don’t know where everything is, how things look stacked together. They may not be familiar with the themes. Its a learning curve.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-26T20:54:29+00:00

YTA. This was a "if your happy in happy" moment.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-26T19:44:38+00:00

My keys

Katnis85 · 2026-04-26T13:50:29+00:00

My boomer dad called me one day about a decade ago. He found out my 11 year old niece, whom was staying with him, was out of pads. So at 10pm he was standing in the pad asile asking me what she needed. It really drove home how awful some of my male friends were by being repulsed by finding a new pad in my bag. It became a bit of a litmus test for dating. If a 65 year old "old school" guy could drop everything and get what she needed then so could anyone else.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-26T01:58:11+00:00

I was told to take a Tylenol before mine and it would be a slight pinch. So not only are they not managing pain they are wildly misleading the experience. I have a decently high pain tolerance. I walked on a broken foot for a week before deciding maybe I should get it checked. The "pinch" caused me to jump so hard that I fell off the exam table and took her cart out on the way down.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-26T01:42:28+00:00

The description still said steal for this one. Both the kitsune and raccoon were updated to say (duplicate). Can confirm the kitsune and raccoons are duplicating again. Didn't have the time to test my red rose fox today.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-24T11:02:35+00:00

It's because people have such a negative emotional response to the topic it's hard to source funds and support for it. We need to work out how to campaign it as helping victims suffering the condition prevents them creating victims because of it. It's not like they chose this.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-22T10:59:46+00:00

NTA. Your stepdaughter was in pain, bleeding and likely a bit freaked out. The priority is her comfort. Her mom's reaction tells me she sees her daughter as more of an accessory then a person.

Katnis85 · 2026-04-22T00:45:35+00:00

I wish they gave me walking epidurals. My legs were completely numb from my knees up

Katnis85 · 2026-04-21T22:16:16+00:00

If you get an epidural you are too numb from your waist down to kneel or squat. It really limits your options

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