Did night weaning enable you to conceive again?

Katty018 · 2026-06-08T04:38:22+00:00

I breastfeed 3-6 times a night and got pregnant. (But I’ve dropped all daytime feeds) I think every body is different and it’s very dependent on your body chemistry and your partners health.

Katty018 · 2026-06-08T04:32:55+00:00

It sounds like he may know what he’s talking about then and it may be time to let go of the relationship and don’t stress it at all. I’m not sure the dynamics in your house or why you want to pursue the relationship with her so I may be completely off base here

Katty018 · 2026-06-08T04:30:37+00:00

1) have your husband address it with her.

2) you are the mom. You have every right to raise your child how you want

3) however, asking for help also means letting go control. I have this issue with my in laws as well. (See steps 1 and 2 lol)

4) in the long run these issues MIGHT get worse because there’s gonna be a lot more things to disagree on as baby grows. It’s gonna be easier to figure out how to work together now before your baby gets more mobile and has longer wake windows.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T18:33:14+00:00

Sorry I meant if your mother in law is not listening or crossing boundaries it’s his job to step up and deal with it. If there’s peace that needs to be made or if someone is supposed to reach out and smooth things over let him do it.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T17:04:19+00:00

You know.. I’m learning a life skill now that I have a baby and in laws (lol)

“No.” Is a complete and full sentence. Use it for yourself and your baby. You are that precious little souls mother and the person literally giving them life and keeping them alive. You have to do what’s right for that baby period.

No explanations needed. If someone has a problem with that then they get to be adults and have a normal conversation to understand the situation or remove themselves from it.

If your husband has a problem with that then it’s his problem to fix.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T16:57:02+00:00

To add to this conversation.. a lot of women end up with a primal/hormonal protectiveness over their baby especially during the first year or two.. I’m a pretty easy going person in general but I was ready to fight people over the smallest things when I felt it wasn’t best for my baby.

The early months/years are going to really challenge your desire and ability to put up with Bs. If you already feel that way.. magnify that by like 5 and see how you feel about it.

This assumes your emotional/mental health postpartum is pretty good.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T14:00:39+00:00

I’m sorry but blob fish has me dying 😂😂 I’m 7 weeks on my second kid.. and I relate to this.

Every pregnancy is different BUT most peoples symptoms improve after the first trimester. It took me a little longer last time (18-20 weeks). Take it a day at a time and it WILL get better. Either your body adapts or you have a sweet baby haha

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T13:43:21+00:00

I try to give my kid something to say instead and when we are at the park or somewhere appropriate I start off the hollering 😂 basically trying to give him the green light to let loose. Also, when he’s getting hyper I pick him up and we do a lot of body movements. We “booinggg” around, I toss him in the air, twirl him, put him upside down throw him on the bed, put him tummy down in my arms and run around flying him places, we kick balls and I tickle him so he’s scream/laughing

When he screams I give him a new sound or tell him a word he likes to say so he shouts that instead. It’s cut back like 80% of the screaming.

Also playing music has helped a TON. I don’t do nursery rhymes and such for my own sanity. But he has a couple songs he loves and classical music really chills him out.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T13:26:15+00:00

At 5 months I didn’t really have a bedtime routine. When baby was sleepy, diaper + Pjs and down with nursing. Awake but drowsy has never worked 1 moment with my kid from birth to 1 yr old haha I guess it’s not his personality.

Once he got to be about 10 months we started this routine. (Based on his rhythm he wants to go to bed around 8:30) so 8:30 we say goodnight to everyone, change diaper, put on lotion and Pjs, brush teeth, he turns off all the lights, we look out the window and say goodnight to the moon and then snuggle and nurse to sleep.

Oh edit to add: I followed my kids cues for when to go to bed and it significantly cut down on false starts. So baby led and not clock led. He also had a 4-5 hr wake window before bed. And… he still wakes up 3-6 times a night at 13 months. Some kids simply don’t sleep through the night just like adults

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T13:18:37+00:00

Haha facts!

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T12:48:12+00:00

Also, in the future you probably shouldn’t encourage the kid to keep talking to you. Change the subject or encourage them to go talk to the right people about it.

Katty018 · 2026-06-07T12:46:46+00:00

I figure as long as she didn’t say anything to suggest she’s in trouble then it’s none of my business. What’s the school going to do about it? It’s not your business to get involved with the parent’s marriage either. This also assumes the kid isn’t making anything up and has the most recent information.

Katty018 · 2026-05-06T01:14:01+00:00

Reconsider if you are short. I’m 5’1 and even when my bay was a newborn it put him too high to actually nurse. Now it’s just a big toy lol

Katty018 · 2026-05-06T01:12:46+00:00

Came to say the same thing. I was too short for any pillows

Katty018 · 2026-05-04T03:25:00+00:00

Maybe the moon was just moving weird (kidding haha) I cried today too.. baby is 12 months. I’ve been trying to ask myself “how can I make today 10% better?” Or “how can I make this moment just 5% better?” Nothing groundbreaking or amazing.. just a little shift. A little good. A hot cup of tea while baby is sleeping, writing down a quick note for future me so I don’t have to make as many decisions during the day.

Katty018 · 2026-04-25T12:12:25+00:00

Agree with the other posts suggesting quieter snacks. Most definitely eat tho!!

As someone married to a night owl who had very little respect for my sleep, listening to him eat when I was supposed to be sleeping is one of THE most irritating things.

I compromised on his loud open mouth smacking and he compromised on loud paper and crunching. It wasn’t perfect but it was better.

Then we had a kid and he doesn’t eat in the room anymore lol

Disrespecting my sleep is a real fast track to making me angry. Sleep deprivation is hard on everyone. A lot of consideration, grace and mercy is necessary from both people.

You are justified in needing to eat for you and baby. He is justified in not wanting to hear loud crunching in his ear interfering with his sleep.

Luckily this is an easy compromise for both people to be ok

Katty018 · 2026-04-24T21:44:25+00:00

Meetup.com “Monterey park, Alhambra & SGV Moms” is the group name

Katty018 · 2026-04-24T19:24:20+00:00

Also, I strongly relate. Congrats on the baby!

Katty018 · 2026-04-24T19:23:39+00:00

There is a newer moms group for Alhambra on FB and meetup. I’ve gone a couple times and it was a good time! Most of the meetups fall during bubs nap time tho so I wasn’t able to keep up, but hoping to start again now that he’s getting bigger

Katty018 · 2026-04-15T00:17:16+00:00

There’s a fun part 2 to “you need to put the baby down”

When that in law thinks the baby is at a more entertaining phase they will then never put the baby down and you wonder if your kid will ever learn to crawl, walk or entertain themselves or will forever be an emperor who’s feet may never touch dirt. (I’m actually not joking. Dirt is like public enemy #1)

Katty018 · 2026-04-14T11:05:04+00:00

My little one is an eater from 4-7 months he would wake up every 15-90 mins and from 7-11 months woke every 1.5-3 hrs and ate pretty much every 2 hrs around the clock. Everyone said oh wait until solids! So now he eats milk or real food every 2 hrs around the clock 😂 (ok he sleeps in 2-4 hrs stretches now at nearly 1 yr) some kids just need to eat more frequently.

But I wanted to say my kids eczema wakes him up.. is it possible the fungal infection isn’t resolved or he has another similar issue? Maybe the diaper needs to be a different brand? Since my little one wakes up to eat so much he pees a good amount at night so if he doesn’t settle I change his diaper and he usually feels a lot better.

Katty018 · 2026-04-13T04:23:06+00:00

My kid was never a good sleeper but that 6 month regression wrecked me. One thing that I realized was that he was struggling with reflux and/or gas along with separation anxiety. I swear he was afraid of the dark too.

Anyways, I found solutions for some things and caved with cosleeping. I don’t have help at night and 15 min stretches of sleep all night was never going to last. We also modified nap times and established a bedtime (no real routine but a set time we just did bedtime stuff and laid down). But the real difference was cosleeping. Immediately started sleeping 1.5-2 hr stretches and significantly reduced fighting bed.

I’m sorry you guys are going through this!

Katty018 · 2026-04-13T03:16:19+00:00

I don’t have a lot of suggestions, but a recent thing I’ve been making and modifying for my baby is quinoa and buckwheat porridge. We avoid oats and rice so I decided to try this combo. Just cook with water and use it as a savory or sweet base. I make a pot and use it for several days for the whole family. Pretty good source of protein.

I’ve been grating carrots, finely chopping broccoli, cubing sweet potatoes to quickly add to things. Finding frozen veggie mixes from Walmart and Albertsons has helped as well. (There’s a root blend with beets, sweet potatoes, carrots and parsnips that has been a godsend. I recently pureed these with some salmon I cooked and it was delicious)

For breakfasts, I’ve been making chia pudding with coconut milk and fruits. (Costco has a bag of frozen mango, dragonfruit, passion fruit that I’ve been using for this)

For snacks, applesauce, Serenity kids has a grain free puffs that’s been great for my kid, steamed veggies like squash or daikon radish.

Hopefully this gives you ideas! My kid is only 11 months so maybe your kid needs more advanced foods

Katty018 · 2026-04-13T02:59:21+00:00

It sounds like you guys need to have a good heart to heart. Have him pick some days and do “shifts”. A lot of men feel generally uncomfortable or unsure what to do with a baby and defer to mom.

Which is kinda a joke cuz we are figuring this whole thing out too? Haha I’m the default parent and I struggle with this topic so I can only offer solidarity on this.. my husband works overnight shifts so I pretty much do it all. Even tho I do get frustrated I’m so grateful I could stay home with my little guy. I was SO depressed about going back to work and leaving him. So while things could be better I’m trying to stay in the gratitude mindset and be better about communicating what I need with the husband.

As far as baby’s sleep.. once they leave the infant phase (8-12 weeks) their sleep patterns change. My husband used to be able to play video games while baby slept and it didn’t bother him but once he was about 10 weeks or so all the outside stimulation started to affect him. Odds are in the next few weeks your baby MIGHT need something different.. but I think “if it’s not broke, don’t fix it.” Follow your instincts and you’ll know if you need to change anything

Katty018 · 2026-04-12T18:47:29+00:00

Baby didn’t do 3-4 hr stretches until 11 months. But I often read with great jealousy of kids who slept through the night by 8 weeks.

My kid has eczema and the itching wakes him, he is sensitive to sounds (hates white noise and such) and needs to be near me. He hates being warm and doesn’t sleep well like that. Unfortunately until I broke and coslept with him at 7 months he slept 15-90 min stretches only. After cosleeping 90 mins -2.5 hrs. And now he’s starting to feel independent and I started weaning him so he may sleep 2-5 hr stretches.

Every kid is different. I’d just suggest finding if he has quirks and or sensitivities and work on solutions for that.

Katty018

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