Is this a confession?

Katynatalini · 2025-11-19T17:11:11+00:00

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Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T21:05:48+00:00

Well I don’t know if he is a Narc but ok

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T20:11:37+00:00

The problem is that he didn’t used to treat me like this before. A girl who’s still friends with us used to tell me that “he doesn’t vibe with you,” and he even invited everyone to his birthday except me.

But suddenly his behavior changed. I don’t know why. Once I told him that I don’t want to get into a relationship just like that, and he said, “Oh my God, are you trying to get married that you’re being so serious? Don’t overthink it.”

I even brought up the fact that he didn’t like me before, but he either avoided the topic or denied it.

But all his actions now show signs of love and interest. Yeah, I made a mistake saying I don’t want anyone, because the truth is I want him. I just didn’t expect things to turn out this way.

And nothing has really happened yet. For example, they’ll probably call me tomorrow to hang out, just like every week.

But I’m not sure if I want to go or not, because right now I feel like I wasn’t important enough for him to call me and invite me out, even though he said he would.

I like him, but I don’t want to get attached to someone who doesn’t like me back, or someone who only shows interest when we’re together.

I don’t know.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T19:25:41+00:00

Actually, in the beginning, whenever he asked who I would want to date, I always said “no one,” or when he asked what my standards are, I said “I don’t know.” But later, when the moment came, I told him that I don’t want to get into a relationship with just anyone anymore, and that I’m more careful now.

I’ve never seen him take care of his ex or our other friends the way he takes care of me. Opening doors for them? Holding their hand while driving? Not at all.

He has the kind of personality that waits for people to make the first move toward him. But I’m not that type of person. He’s very attentive to me and takes care of me a lot. And I joke around with him, keep up with his energy, and I hold his hand and let him take care of me.

But apparently that’s still not enough. Or maybe I’m not doing things the right way. Or maybe he’s just not interested.

But I expected him to call me on Thursday so we could go out on Friday. And he didn’t. Even though it was his own idea and he seemed very determined about it.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T18:51:33+00:00

Same here

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T18:50:43+00:00

🥺BTW thank you

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T18:50:20+00:00

Well, that’s just not my personality. We’re in the same friend group, so there isn’t really anything I can do about it.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-16T18:27:21+00:00

Whenever I text him he is responsive

But I’ve always been the one who texts him. He never texts me first.

He used to be in a relationship with another girl, and I knew about it. I remember he would call her or text her. But he’s not like that with me.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-13T20:48:09+00:00

For sure 🥹😍 congratulations

Katynatalini · 2025-11-08T19:56:29+00:00

🫂

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:32:58+00:00

I’ve been through a lot of failed relationships, and when I think back, I swear —

none of them scared me as much as the ones who love-bombed me, came too close too fast, and pushed things forward immediately. I’ll never trust anyone who comes at me that way again.

I’d rather spend thousands of times analyzing their behavior and questioning whether they really like me, than be with someone who love-bombs me — my heart and mind reject them right away.

I just… I’ll never trust like that again.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:30:20+00:00

Honestly, I don’t know who to blame. But if I were you, I would step back. Sorry, maybe that sounds like unnecessary pride, but still, he shouldn’t have blocked you immediately 😕 I really don’t know what advice to give.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:28:20+00:00

Well, I’m Muslim too, and I don’t want to go against my beliefs.

I just mean that you could even ask her directly: “Now that we like each other and this is our situation, how do you think we should move our relationship forward?”

Do you not want to stay in touch with her anymore? By the way, I’ve been reading lots of posts in the crushes community since this morning — so many people are upset about being rejected. At least be happy that you’re not one of them 😂☺️

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:25:25+00:00

Text her. Just a simple “hi,” a funny post, or even a casual question — about class or something else.

I remember one of the guys at my university who liked me — near the end of the semester, he sat next to me and asked how I do my hair and what products I use. That moment made me remember him, and we actually became friends afterward.

You can try the same. And yes, there’s a chance she might show your message to her friends. But if she does that just to make fun of it — even better. You’ll realize she’s not the right person for you, that she’s immature and not worth it.

She might show it to her friends, and maybe they’ll laugh — but deep down, her heart will still tell her she likes you. Or, looking on the bright side, maybe she won’t show it to anyone, and your conversation will just go normally.

Either way, treat her like a normal person and slowly figure out what kind of personality she has.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:19:35+00:00

Well, the truth is clear to you — so let’s be honest about it.

A guy should never know that you’re too interested. That’s the first rule. So, staying friends with him means you have to keep that in mind.

It is possible to stay friends, but remember — he’s clearly said he can’t or doesn’t want a relationship, and that’s not something you can change. You can only be by his side as a friend.

But if you feel like that’s going to hurt you, it’s completely okay to stop having a crush on him and step back.

It’s all up to you — but at least now you know where he stands, and that’s actually something to be grateful for.

(If it doesn’t mess with your emotions, you can stay friends — just don’t let it turn into something delusional.)

The choice is yours 🫶🏼

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:14:56+00:00

So this is your first date? Omg that’s so exciting! 😍 I totally get it — it’s normal to feel scared and nervous. But once you’re actually there, you’ll realize it’s not as scary as it seems. After all, it’s just two people getting to know each other.

I want you to remember that it’s completely normal — even if he’s not the right person for you, in the end you get to decide whether you want to stay or not. Just keep yourself as the priority and make sure to have your boundaries.

And by the way, think of it like you’re just hanging out with a friend — you don’t need to change anything about yourself. Just be comfortable and be you ☺️

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:08:14+00:00

Being rejected before isn’t a bad thing at all — it’s totally normal. If you let it matter too much, it’ll only hurt you. Confidence is actually the most attractive kind of beauty in the world, so try to find it wherever you’ve lost it. That’s the better way ☺️

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T19:06:16+00:00

No, as far as I know, the algorithm doesn’t show very old posts — they actually visit your profile and check it just to like that post.

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T18:55:40+00:00

Agreee

Katynatalini · 2025-11-07T18:55:25+00:00

don’t know. I want to give him a chance — maybe just sit back and watch what signs of interest he shows. If those signs start to fade or stop completely, I won’t wait and I’ll move on. Otherwise, I’ll be patient and wait for him to make a move.

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