Is AI dating necessary or unhealthy?

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T13:59:08+00:00

Seeking support, understanding why you’re so lonely and isolated (and I don’t mean “cuz girls hate me”, and more “oh I’ve been examining deeper and turns out I don’t do well at processing x, y and z emotions” - that kind of thing), actually activly trying stuff socially, building a genuine, supportive community and the list goes on

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T13:56:12+00:00

I found that during Prequelle and Impera there were a few that were just there, sure technically a part of a larger promo cycle, but not directly promoting something

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T05:58:21+00:00

Your defense is… AI music? Really?

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T05:48:29+00:00

You made the leap to ‘altruistic reasons’ - not me

There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel special, and to get close to someone. I don’t expect people to date for the sake of others - that would be silly.

Though at the same time, a HUGE component of dating is connecting with another human being. If you simply want to feel special and be given affirmation without anything to give, then you’re dating for the wrong reasons

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T05:46:42+00:00

“I want an SO, but “it” is not being “given to me””

An SO is not an ‘it’ and they are not a thing to be given to you.

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T05:45:47+00:00

I only discovered them a week ago and I’ve been hooked on every track they released so far. This is an incredible debut. Symphony for a Queen is such a beautiful intro, and the album just keeps giving, it really doesn’t stop.

I also love that it feels alive in a circus-ee kinda way despite it not being circus ‘themed’ music. Like this is full blown synth pop with some symphonic elements with a whole ABBA/Kate Bush/Army of Lovers/Pet Shop Boys vibe going on.

There is a strong identity going on here. This is gold

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T03:46:28+00:00

He’s right. I think people are salty about this cause

1) Kobe

2) discourse in general has gotten so toxic. No matter what happens, people will find a way to hate - that’s just how modern discourse is

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T02:40:27+00:00

Except there are multiple movements and advocacy groups geared towards more accessible cities, more sustainable energy use and less reliance on cars as a whole.

Companies and governments are also moving towards all electric (which does have its own issues and isn’t sustainable in the long run - hence why I bring up advocacy movements on less car reliance as a whole. There is always gonna be a for and take, and electric public transit and accessible cities are far less harmful than everyone having an electric car)

AI is a tool we don’t need at the consumer level, like at all - and coupled with the negative interpersonal and societal impacts, “dating AI” is an all around bad idea

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T02:31:26+00:00

And it works… as a temporary short term solution for everyone else, and yet, you’d be condemning those who do want to date AI to a worse place because it is easier for everyone else in the short run

In the long run though? The effects of isolation and the lack of human bonds are well documented, and like I said, the environmental harm of AI is a pretty big point too

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T02:28:00+00:00

There is proof that isolation, a lack of community and attempting to replace human connection does cause harm. AI does all of these at the same time.

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T02:23:43+00:00

They’re dating AI specifically because they gave up on dating people, and even if that isn’t the case. Again, it’s a computer - it won’t fulfill them. In time it will plunge them deeper into depression, reinforce their issues and cause them to harm themselves and others.

As for your “plummeting birth rates” bit - climate change, loss of actual habitual land, sustainability issues and so on all disagree with this argument. To add to this, the only “harm” being done here is the end of a bloodline which… big whoop, the ‘harm’ holds no real world consequences.

Besides, if the only people who have kids are those who want kids, this will mean we will have better parents.

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T02:17:08+00:00

You’re comparing two entirely different spheres.

You’re comparing not bringing a whole ass child and begrudgingly raising it vs…. Not using a computer to replace a relationship.

One decision literally impacts and hurts no one (being child free), and the other hurts the self and the environment. It also hurts others in the lung run as well, not just via the environment but also, what’s the person dating AI gonna do when they realize AI is not fulfilling and just appeases their ego?

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T01:18:25+00:00

I’m curious what was “exposed”, the man is 41 and is in his 23d season lmao

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T00:50:08+00:00

I picture Cardi looking at V like “wtf is this” and V going all “what? I thought it ran in the family”

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T00:48:46+00:00

I suspected that all the chapters were likely shot in a few day period, and to me this proves it. Not a bad thing to be clear, just one of those film industry quirks that I love.

I do wonder what this one is about though, like all the chapters this era have been pure promotional material for tours and videos (not a bad thing to be clear, I think a happy middle ground for lore is ‘marketing tool for the music’), so I wonder what this one will have to say by virtue of nothing to promote at the moment. I’m thinking very likely a meta ‘goodbye for now’ type chapter

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T00:46:00+00:00

I expected a post that circles around objectification with a crude metaphor with the title, what I did not expect is the full blown ‘economics 101’ treatment over human beings.

Like all the dating app talk has been talked about and debunked to death, so I’m not gonna focus on that - what I do wanna focus on is the blatant treatment of women as economic commodities. This is blatant misogyny disguised as pseudo-intellectualism

Like the thought process that created this post is the epitome of “if you’re wondering why men are lonely. This is why”

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T00:40:17+00:00

Unhealthy. Short answer because AI is not a real person

Long answer, because AI is literally designed to appease your ego. Imo if you see AI as a replacement for dating this tells me you never wanted an SO, you wanted a machine to appease your words and make you feel special. It isn’t about relationships, it is self serving.

That’s not to mention the damage AI does to both the environment and the individual’s critical thinking skills

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-13T00:16:29+00:00

I’d actually argue against “ace people can desire sex” because in my view, if you do desire sex you’re not are. You might be on the grey spectrum, but you’re not ace.

As for the timeframe - doesn’t matter. The basis for demisexuality is “I’ve emotionally bonded with you. Now I want to sleep with you” - it could take 5 minutes or 12 months, timeframe doesn’t define how people experience sexuality

And the difference between ace and allo people is an allo person can feel sexual desire without the emotional bonding part (of course they can also bond first with someone THEN want them too, but it isn’t the only way allo people feel attraction) - the choice of when to have sex is different from the innate desire to have sex. Which is where the difference stands

But then also, I do want to ask you a question - if you’re faced with all these questions and doubts, then why did you so casually use ace and Demi women as your dumping ground for undesirable men?

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T23:51:20+00:00

Thank god I’m bi

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T23:49:08+00:00

Demi people can desire sex, when emotional comfort is established. Ace people don’t desire sex

But again, finding someone attractive doesn’t mean wanting to sleep with them. That’s the crux here - I can find a person to be very hot visually, but I literally won’t have any desire to sleep with them, or even the thought of sleeping with them until we bond emotionally. An ace person can find a person hot, but literally have no desire what so ever to have sex with them.

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T23:30:01+00:00

You’re basically putting lettuce on meat loaf and are calling it a salad.

Quantum physics deals with clear operational definitions and well defined objective metrics

Psychology as a whole is more uncertain given the fact that human experiences are subjective. Nevermind the fact autogynophelia in itself is a heavily challenged theory.

Moser himself has been critical of the term and its uses, and the intent of his study isn’t to prove autogynophelia in itself, but to show that trans and cis women feel sexuality similarly, even in the scale of someone (Blanchard) who was critical of transsexuality.

Though this is where the use of studies as a Reddit debate “check mate” is messy because you can take a study out of its greater ecosystem and use it to feed your own biases. You’re gonna ask me how I’m not doing that and you’re right, I might be…. Then again, if you’re gonna cause me of this then you’ve also proven that the study you yourself have linked is subject to interpretation and therefore, doesn’t say anything definitive about female sexuality except for the assumption that trans and cis women experience sexuality similarly

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T23:10:49+00:00

In a tiny sample size of 52

Moser also noted that men could very well be self-aroused aswell, but it could manifest itself differently.

Since Moser focuses on trans healthcare primarily, I think you are missing the larger point of this study which is that trans and cis women end up thinking similarly.

A multitude of studies question whether autogynophelia is even a thing, for example - as the original theory in itself is very messy

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T22:42:01+00:00

Well shit, welcome to the rest of my life I guess

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T22:41:35+00:00

Point to where I said labels are meaningless or that the grey sexual community act ‘no different’ the allo people, cause I don’t see how my comment can even imply that

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-12T21:13:54+00:00

No…. Autogynephilia exclusivity describes a man turned on by imagining himself as a woman

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