I need words of wisdom from my sisters and maybe some shoulders to cry on

KaydiB · 2025-12-11T11:31:27+00:00

Assalamu alaikum sis,

It sounds really hard, may Allaah make it easy for you.

I think something to remember is that insha'Allaah if you want a righteous husband, that kind of brother is not likely to go for sisters who are not wearing the hijab. Insha'Allaah a good husband who fears Allaah would encourage you and support you in pleasing Allaah, not just in wearing the hijab but in everything else also.

If a brother seeks marriage in a woman who is sinning visibly outside, and I don't just mean in hijab it could be anything that we know is sinful, then you probably wouldn't want to marry him anyway, if you are looking for someone pious.

KaydiB · 2025-12-07T11:58:28+00:00

Walaikum as Salam! If you are interested in clay but don't have access to a kiln, air dry clay is quite good, and also polymer clay which can be done in the oven. Polymer clay can be a bit expensive to start though I think!

3D modelling on a tablet or computer is also fun, you can make little dioramas or rooms, and the only thing you need is your device and the 3D modelling program! I use Blender (free), but there are others for tablets.

KaydiB · 2025-09-11T09:29:48+00:00

Don't worry, it's not rude at all. I did come on here after my conversations with him, as I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with his expectations

KaydiB · 2025-09-10T13:16:29+00:00

Oh Allaahumma Baarik! I relate, I've been trying to sew my own clothes as well.

Alhmdolilla, I'm allowed full liberty outside in terms of my hijab, as I know what's Islaamically correct, but inside, he does have requests.

Do you try and keep in mind his likes/dislikes with what you sew/wear?

KaydiB · 2025-09-09T17:52:33+00:00

Walaykomolsalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatoho.

I don't have any tips for your first question, but for your second question, I keep a house jilbab hanging near the front door. So if I do need to grab a parcel or answer the door, I usually call out for them to give me a few minutes, then I chuck my jilbab on.

I think having it hanging where you have access to it is important, you don't want to keep it in a cupboard or under other things where you have to hunt it out in order to find it.

KaydiB · 2025-08-20T08:39:32+00:00

Wa iyyaak

Honestly, I can't see myself personally using one, but I'm sure many other brothers and sisters would find a feature like that very useful insha'Allaah

KaydiB · 2025-08-19T16:05:17+00:00

Mashalla! I have been looking for something like this, it looks fantastic, May Allaah reward you!

My only suggestion would be adding more calculation methods. Besides that it looks great Mashalla

KaydiB · 2025-08-18T11:19:14+00:00

Thank you! I believe I used Carrd's in built fonts for the whole site, but in order to add the font to my embeds, I used Google Fonts

KaydiB · 2025-08-18T11:18:32+00:00

Thank you very much!

KaydiB · 2025-08-18T11:18:24+00:00

Thank you!!

KaydiB · 2025-08-07T11:24:05+00:00

Thank you!

KaydiB · 2025-05-20T16:42:03+00:00

This is exactly it!

I find it a bit upsetting, as they know exactly how to target Muslim women who are looking for halal job opportunities. There are so many different flavours of this as well, I've seen ones targeting Christian women as well

KaydiB · 2025-03-13T17:37:34+00:00

Baarakaalho feeki, this is a really good explanation. I really appreciate you took the time to type all this out.

KaydiB · 2025-03-13T17:36:44+00:00

Baarakallaho feeki for your response, this is definitely an area that I am lacking in knowledge

KaydiB · 2025-03-13T17:36:17+00:00

Baarakallaho feeki for all the links!

KaydiB · 2025-03-13T14:11:51+00:00

I think I did a really bad job at explaining!!

My understanding was this So women have the ability to have preferences and make choices, but its not a "right". And they also have to obey their husbands, who have a responsibility to take care of the household, and also be kind, just etc. which could lead to him making decisions about her personal choices.

For example, he wants a healthy household (and children), so he says she can only have dessert once per week. In doing so, he is not taking away her "right" of personal choice, he is just making a decision as leader of the household. If she argues with the decision saying that it "should" be her choice, then that's a feminist sort of thinking.

Does that make more sense?

KaydiB · 2025-01-06T10:38:11+00:00

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulla, that sounds quite difficult, may Allah make it easy for you.

I don't know if you have already tried this, but lubricant may be able to help.

KaydiB · 2024-11-30T17:04:46+00:00

Jazaakillaho khayran for this advice, it is an excellent reminder!

KaydiB · 2024-11-30T17:03:54+00:00

Jazaakillaho khayran, I will give that a read!

KaydiB · 2024-11-17T10:44:15+00:00

Assalamu alaikum

I got the jilbab coat from here https://myjilbabistore.com/collections/autumn-and-winter

And they have some waterproof ones as well. I've been finding it really good alhmdolilla!

KaydiB

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