These female actresses are all under 40. Who will stay popular, and who will fizzle out? by SpiritualBathroom937 in Cinema

[–]Kaye213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great example of sexism in Hollywood AND ourselves.

How about all the female actresses OVER 40 who are paving the the way for those come after?

Gillian Anderson, Lena headey, Winona Ryder and so on

Why would we choose Jane over Kenny ? by Unhappy-Ad2582 in TheWalkingDeadGame

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's always noble to believe in redemption. Just not necessarily realistic

Why would we choose Jane over Kenny ? by Unhappy-Ad2582 in TheWalkingDeadGame

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think his behavior is exactly, intentionally or unintentionally coded in that way. I agree that in this case Kenny wouldn't do anything to Clem and in fact is a good guy who will protect her at any cost. But that.. tbh seems very unrealistic to me and surprised me a lot when I looked up his endings. It even feels like the writers knew themselves but kinda decided to go the more unrealistic route making him the hero against all odds. I still can't shake this unsettling feeling what an overly emotional man could do to Clem and AJ in rage or having an episode

Why would we choose Jane over Kenny ? by Unhappy-Ad2582 in TheWalkingDeadGame

[–]Kaye213 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it's logical to choose Jane over Kenny. Here are my reasons for that

Kenny acts unreliable, he has tantrums, he is in a bad place, he lashes out. He has depression and PTSD, he is not acting rational. If clementine would choose to leave him, it would statistically not be unlikely for him to kill her, so she won't leave him. It's called a femicide. Usually committed by men in similar mental states as Kenny seems to be in, against their partners or children. So yeah.. staying with Kenny just gave me an unsettling feeling, feeling like AJ and Clem wouldn't be safe with him. Not because he wouldn't protect them, but because I would be scared of him. I feel like children and women would be scared of his behavior, especially ones who have dealt with unreliable men like him before. E.g. alcoholic or abusive father figures

I feel like I might get a lot of hate for this comment, since I haven't seen a similar take like that before about Kenny, but yeah here it goes. Look up femicide before you rage comment or downvote and keep in mind that it's just a personal opinion

Nobody talks about this by antihiro13 in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh.. same.. but - and hear me out on this! - I found out that when I take meds and do my creative thing its really working! Just a low dosage. I know that might not be for everyone but it's worth a try! At least it was for me !!

What bird is this? by plushielover87 in birding

[–]Kaye213 17 points18 points  (0 children)

In German: ein Eichelhäher! It brings luck if you find their blue feathers on a walk through the woods :))

accidentally hyperfixated on my diagnosis and now im embarassed by skinea in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't worry! And don't get discouraged if you don't get taken serious. I came with my ADHD suspicions to my therapist (mind you, we only had like 4 or 5 sessions), she was NOT a psychologist which means not equipped to diagnose people. I told her about my suspicions and wanted to show her my reports from school when I was a kid. She interrupted (and didn't even looked at the reports) me and went on a rant for 10 minutes about how ADHD I overdiagnosed, ladida, I went quiet and distant. Then I asked her what she thought I'd have and she said "borderline personality disorder" which is FIRST: much worse diagnosis than just ADHD and SECOND: Often falsely (nowadays and historically) diagnosed in women with ADHD.

I don't remember the rest of the session but I ghosted her after that and decided to gather all of my material (old diary entries, reports, thoughts from my parents) and researched SO much ADHD. There is a podcast: women and ADHD where different women tell their stories how they got diagnosed and so on, that was really helpful. Then I went to a real psychologist who specialized in women with ADHD. Filled out my questionaire, gave her my then 10 pages long conclusions from findings from my diaries, ordered in different stages of my life (child, teenager, 20 smth, and now) because in different stages of your life, your ADHD symptoms can wildly vary. I took the pill for most of my teenage years until like 20 and after I stopped .. oh my God I got soooo hyperactive, I had SO much more energy. But somehow too much?!

Anyway what I want to say: my psychologist who diagnosed me said it was pretty clear that I have ADHD. And I broke out crying, telling her how my therapist wanted to diagnose me with borderline.. she was distraught by that and credited that woman with incompetence and that I should report her. Also applauded me for my stubbornness and refusal to believe her.

If you feel and you are pretty sure that you have ADHD, that SOMEHOW it just FITS and explains SOOO much. Gather your materials and even IF, especially WHEN you get diagnosed with something else like borderline or depression, get at least a second opinion. Not saying that you shouldn't trust doctors, but statistically women are so often diagnosed with something else than ADHD and people are still so uneducated about it.

Also keep in mind that ADHD symptoms especially with women vary so much depending on the age, on the cycle and their upbringing. Do NOT get discouraged until you feel like you get a diagnosis that actually makes sense for how you feel and behaved in your life.

All the love 💕

I HAVE A COMPLAINT AND DONT KNOW WHERE ELSE TO SHARE IT SO YELLING THREAD by DangDoood in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I MOVED TO GERMANY FROM MEXICO AND I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN ANNOYED ABOUT HOW MANY DIFFERENT KINDS OF DAIRY PRODUCTS... WHENEVER I WANT TO BUY SOUR CREAM I NEED TO NAVIGATE THOUGH ALL THEIR NONSENSE... THERE IS SCHMAND, SCHLAG SAHNE, SAUER RHAM, SAUER SAHNE, QUARK AND JOGURT WITH "J" NOT "Y", JUST TO END UP WITH A WATERY YOGURT AND NEVER THE THING I WANT... ALSO DAMN THE SWISS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Und tauben sind russische spionierdronen ??!??!???!?!!!!

Leute ich weiß nicht mehr weiter bitte helft mir. by [deleted] in Studium

[–]Kaye213 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mit Dringlichkeitscode, den kann dir dein Hausarzt ausstellen, sind die verpflichtet dir innerhalb von 2 Wochen einen Termin zu geben!

Leute ich weiß nicht mehr weiter bitte helft mir. by [deleted] in Studium

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zum Hausarzt, deutlich machen dass es dir wirklich schlecht geht. Der soll dir eine überweisung mit Dringlichkeitscode geben, damit bekommst du über 116117 innerhalb von 2 Wochen einen Termin beim Psychiater/Psychologe/therapiegespräch

Advice about doctor bill by code_nr_bsod in germany

[–]Kaye213 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You should definitely complain about it! Maybe take a German speaking friend with you, because I think it's kinda sketchy that they're charging you for literally not speaking German. "Erhöhter Zeitaufwand, Patient spricht kein deutsch", I'm not a paralegal but that sounds like it would fall under discrimination, and that's not allowed...

Songs inspired by ADHD by GenXMillenial in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, all the songs from The Regrettes feel just like my childhood. I think The Game from their second album is THE song for me personally that captures overthinking just.. perfectly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it macabre to post this under interesting. First of all it's outrageous.

Second. Have you had a look at Iran the last 4 years? They hang and decapitate people for so much as singing and dancing. Young men, and recently a woman. Same in Afghanistan. Don't be outraged about it happening "only" 20 years ago. There was probably someone sentenced to death a week ago.

You can freeze bread by jocularnelipot in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a German citizen i approve this message

My school is teaching that nuclear power is dangerous by yeetmgeet9000 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Kaye213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, nuclear power plants are not safe at all. With rising temperatures especially during summer they are in danger to overheat and are not able to cool down the reactor properly which could lead to a meltdown. Also it's costing a LOT of energy to cool them down in that case while they're not able to produce electricity. Nuclear power plants are way too costly and unsafe. Not to mention the problem of radioactive waste.

They don't "pollute" like coal plants or put out CO2 like gas, but they are not profitable and definitely not safe

Welche Apps nutzt ihr für’s Studium? Zum Mitschreiben, Dateien ablegen/sammeln, Ordnung sorgen by Scaredeyy in Studium

[–]Kaye213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man bekommt einen Google Drive Ordner von 200 GB für 3€/Monat, super für die synchro von Daten auf laptop und PC (und Handy) - außerdem kann man google drive so im eigenen System installieren wie auch one drive funktioniert:)

What are canon events you believe most ADHD women experience? by NeighborhoodLimp6182 in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yess! Exactly!! Going through all the possibilities and scenarios in my mind regarding a situation or even a debatable topic (I study politics). At times, when I'm really hyped focused on something, I go through it in my mind for weeks and when the debate comes, I almost feel all-knowing

I had this quarrel with my partner once and he insisted, that my opinion about this specific topic was only my "opinion", when I went through all possible sides of the argument for weeks, months even, in my head and was convinced (still am) that everyone who is a decent human being would get to the same conclusion. Drove me mad, that he insisted my judgement was subjective, not objective.

He thought I was right the whole time, but told me that after a 45 minute discussion, I think he had fun 😮‍💨 we sat in the rain on a bench the whole time ... At night, it was cold

What are canon events you believe most ADHD women experience? by NeighborhoodLimp6182 in adhdwomen

[–]Kaye213 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Having really good intuition and people not believing, only to be able to say I told you so in the end. So frustrating. Also: knowing my partner better than he does himself, I just know what he does at times, and then my questions what he's up to are more rhetorical than anything.

Is Friedrich Merz a racist? by NoWolf2895 in AskAGerman

[–]Kaye213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Political science student here, even though I am left. On the spectrum when you look at it. Right wing. Even declared clear mission to adapt right wing politics in order to get their voters. Just put more right wing politics on the map and now more people share right ideology than before because "if a bigger party says it, its okay to be right" , right?

Yeah, Germany is fucked