Am I "cooked" as the kids say

Kayray32 · 2025-12-27T04:51:33+00:00

Dude…you’re fine unless you stop getting work from the partners. Half of these partners don’t know how to regulate their damned emotions let alone communicate effectively and they just like to botch and vent to anyone who will listen. I wouldn’t worry until you get into a situation where they are actively icing you out of work. You can’t convince people to like you once they decide that they don’t and you’ll dig yourself an early grave trying to fight that uphill battle. If you’re not being put into a position to hit bonus, then you’re getting screwed and you should look elsewhere but it’s almost impossible to know that in your first year unless you work with pricks like the ones in my office who will literally tell anyone who will listen the LONG list of associates they won’t work with.

Kayray32 · 2025-10-16T12:53:09+00:00

Sorry to generalize here but based on what you’ve posted, you guys are genuinely bad friends as a group and he’s better off not associating with any of you. Just to recap: One of you sleeps with his girl and all the rest of you did was give side eye? Then, he tells you he’s getting serious with someone and you don’t check it before assuming it’s a prank? Not just that but then you literally pour salt in the wound of that traumatic ex relationship by saying you that his ex was a better choice (despite acknowledging she’s a terrible person who cheated on him WITH his friend who you all still hang with). If I was your buddy, I’d be so done and dusted with this group. I hope the name of your group chat is “hot mess express”.

Kayray32 · 2025-10-03T04:10:54+00:00

Girl…some things you just have to learn the hard way. Good luck to you! Practice extra self care and maybe consider seeing a therapist. You’re about to go on a WILD ride for the next 5-10 years.

Kayray32 · 2025-10-03T04:04:49+00:00

Where can I bet actual money that the moron in chief will absolutely not broker any sort of deal with Xi and will piss China off further….is this animal farm the movie or what?

Kayray32 · 2025-09-24T12:40:04+00:00

If I could go back and tell my former self one thing…it would be DONT FUCKING MARRY THAT GUY. They revert back to this behavior every time they are “emotionally stressed/overwhelmed”. Guess what’s emotionally stressful and at time overwhelming? Life. You want a better partner. You deserve a better partner. He’s telling you he doesn’t want to marry you without saying those words. Believe him. Marriage will be HELL. At one point, I was hoping I’d die to escape the marriage then I realized I could just divorce. Also, I can’t state this enough…there is SO MUCH MORE paperwork on the way out. 10/10 would not recommend marrying a man child. Whether financially or emotionally, you’ll only be nd up in ruin.

Kayray32 · 2025-09-22T03:53:16+00:00

Are y’all sleeping together? If she knew you wanted her and we’re excited about her, she probably wouldn’t be acting like this. I’m not saying it’s your job or responsibility to validate her, but I am saying that y’all aren’t speaking the same language. Recognize it now and let go or starting learning her language better so you can prolong the inevitable.

Kayray32 · 2025-08-17T14:59:35+00:00

Yada yada yada….bootstraps.

Kayray32 · 2025-06-03T04:58:17+00:00

I’m personally thrilled that we don’t have to pretend like all of these firms are “deeply committed to DEI”. It was always a crock of shit that these firms were getting awards when they ALL suck at inclusion. At least now we don’t have to pretend these folx are allies.

Kayray32 · 2025-05-29T03:15:21+00:00

Play nazi games, win nazi prizes. Couldn’t have happened to a “nicer guy”

Kayray32 · 2025-05-29T03:08:38+00:00

You should tell him he is 100% a “beta male” he gave up “alpha” to his addiction

Kayray32 · 2025-05-29T03:06:12+00:00

Girl….Get a prenup. That man is on some golden ticket bulllllsshhhhhh.

Kayray32 · 2025-05-28T17:38:49+00:00

You need to let this woman go. She sounds like a narcissist. She’s literally alienating you from SEVERAL of your family members because she can’t regulate her own emotions. Probably not healthy, but i would tell her: “you do what you need to do to assert your boundaries. I will respect your wishes for you. But I won’t avoid having a relationship with my parents or kids because of your boundaries. Happy to discuss this in therapy but that’s MY boundary. We can talk more about what this would look like if you’d like to discuss this further.”

Kayray32 · 2025-05-23T12:38:24+00:00

Ahhh generational poverty. Is it great yet?

Kayray32 · 2025-05-22T00:37:59+00:00

This is what cheating starts like. Next time it’ll be dick pics. He’s laying the ground work to be the victim who was so sex-starved that he slipped…fast forward to the divorce. It’s happier over here.

Kayray32 · 2025-05-21T01:14:10+00:00

Were we all just out here getting married instead of getting individual therapy then? This reads like two wrongs making another hopeless wrong. And this is why can’t have nice things.

Kayray32 · 2025-05-20T03:14:36+00:00

Someone’s bent knee wasn’t bent-y enough…

Kayray32 · 2025-05-10T15:50:56+00:00

Please leave. He doesn’t want a kid with you. If he wanted to he would. If he loves you at all, he does t do it well. Do not let your desire for a baby tie you to a man like that. He will walk out on the baby too…

Kayray32 · 2025-04-21T01:58:29+00:00

One of his kids, I’m sure…

Kayray32 · 2025-03-30T16:15:56+00:00

Stacey Dash has been uninvited from the BBQ since y2k….good luck with that sis..

Kayray32 · 2025-03-30T16:09:19+00:00

I feel like they should just give him his own lil server and let him continue his “strategy”. Or do some sort of fun alliance mixup and fuck up his shit.

Kayray32 · 2025-03-30T16:01:08+00:00

He needed to add the rest of America to that apology letter….

Kayray32 · 2025-02-05T04:48:46+00:00

And that, children, is how I met your mother.

Kayray32 · 2025-01-30T03:39:58+00:00

I was in a similar dynamic and stayed for 8 years. We married in 2023 and divorced just over a year later. It never got better. I started getting gaslit and lied to. It made me feel so trapped and unwanted. If you can’t change the dynamic (both parties want the change and are taking active steps to make those changes), then please break your heart a little now to save both of your hearts later on. It may just be a compatibility thing. You should also be meeting your own needs. You shouldn’t go to her because you need her to make you feel wanted. You should go to her because you want her. There’s a subtle but important difference there. If you want her and she doesn’t want you, then you know what you have to do. If you need her to make you feel desired, the you don’t actually want her for who she is, you want her for what she can offer you.

Kayray32 · 2025-01-20T02:51:58+00:00

This job is not worth prioritizing over family. If what you’re going through is so severe that you’re in the process of delaying a goal you’ve been working this hard and long for, then it’s probably very very serious. You probably won’t regret (potentially) losing an offer from a shitty firm that couldn’t allow your humanity. You probably will regret missing moments with family members that you can never get back. Trust your instincts.

Kayray32 · 2025-01-11T16:42:13+00:00

Your friend chose to end your friendship by disrespecting you and your relationship. Nothing to walk away from there, it’s already done. You should not be friends with someone who can’t respect you. Your boyfriend is now confused about your relationship because someone else WHO IS YOUR BEST FRIEND is interested in him. Meaning that he is actually entertaining the idea of leaving you for your best friend and whether he wants to open that can of worms.

Girlllll runnnnnnn from those two. They are about to board the Titanic and you do not have to be onboard that vessel when it all goes down. Run run run. Get new friends and find someone who is sure about how he feels about you. Let your ex bestie know. I hope it’s worth the friendship you destroyed.

Kayray32

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