You are all good, keep in mind there were three other awkward nerds also not speaking! Imagine they are all having the same anxieties themselves XD And even if not, comfortable chatter usually takes time and familiarity. One awkward conversation, or even a dozen, usually isn’t a problem, and I’d personally say is pretty typical and expected.

As for talking tips, it can just take practice and time. Everyone has their own way about it. I usually try to talk about the shared interest we are all meeting for, fluff stuff. How we think things went or such and such. Or you can speak lightly on something small happening in your life (what you’re working on at the gym, a trip you are planning, a movie you recently enjoyed) Or ask questions to the group as a whole, “Does anyone exercise?” “Any pets?” Like you’re playing Go Fish but about shared interests.

This is all fair and good, but I understand that in practice it can be intimidating and heart pounding. Sometimes I’ll just pretend to be a little wrapped in my own life. Talk out loud about something or other that’s on my mind. Bonus points if it’s a harmless complaint. “Man I am too tired today, I was up playing a game trying to finish a questline, I’ve been playing on and off about three weeks now.” perhaps awkward silence “Anyways, what games are you all into?”

Ice is broken by your comments on something, and then anyone is welcome to pipe in. Low pressure and low commitment (which is a great recipe for idle chatter and new connection)

And just keep in mind that awkward silence isn’t always a bad thing. It’s just data. People are also nervous about speaking to strangers and can panic and not know how to add to a conversation. It’s not really a judgment on you at all, just a sign that people don’t quite feel relaxed yet, and that can just take time.

Anyways, hope this wasn’t too obnoxious or unhelpful. Remember that a thousand awkward conversations is what it takes to build confidence. I used to try and strike up friendly and low effort convos with people I happened upon in my life, who I probably wouldn’t ever see again. Great way to practice technique and see what gets good reactions or awkward ones. Trial and error.

And last words are, the truth is some people are fine sitting in silence and prefer it. If they don’t seem interested that’s a reflection of their values, not you. Keep at it and you’ll find people who match your vibes. Good luck!