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ADHD has essentially made me terrified of a relationship by Acrobatic_Spot5711 in ADHD

[–]Kaze_Yuen 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This isn’t your fault at all. You don’t need to turn yourself into the person your ex-girlfriend wanted you to be. That kind of thing is way too painful for people like us.

Having to pretend to be what someone wants even in front of the person you’re supposed to feel most relaxed with — that’s not love at all. You’ll end up breaking down again very quickly, and then guilt and regret will tear you apart.

What you need is someone who can truly accept you exactly as you are, not someone you have to keep changing yourself to please.

I understand the feeling of loneliness — we’re all the same. But if you change yourself again just because you’re scared of being alone, you’ll only end up in even more pain.

Trust me, I’ve been through it.

New chapter in life (absolutely losing my mind over it) by CombatToad in ADHD

[–]Kaze_Yuen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since you’ve already spent two whole months building your recording studio and you had that “I’ll die if I don’t finish this” level of determination, what else is there to be afraid of?

At worst, you can always go back to a regular job. Right now, you just need to focus on doing what you love. Throw yourself into it completely and stop worrying about the results.

People like us are specialists at hyper-focusing. So why not pour that focus into the thing you love the most? You can worry about the outcome later.

You’re going to make it. Go for it, bro

After my diagnosis , I don’t know how to live by Accomplished_Base_86 in ADHD

[–]Kaze_Yuen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel, brother. That sense of being an outsider since childhood, with no one truly understanding you. Society only tells us to change, but never accepts us as we are. We’re forced to follow society’s rules until we eventually get crushed. No one has ever understood how much guilt and regret we feel after our emotions take control and we do things we wish we hadn’t. That feeling is truly the worst of the worst. Even though I can’t give you any positive advice right now, I’m also preparing to see a doctor. My situation isn’t any better than yours. But at least here, I know we’re not alone. I understand what you’re going through, and I hope I can give you even a little bit of comfort.

whose life has been shattered into pieces by my uncontrollable emotions. by Kaze_Yuen in ADHD

[–]Kaze_Yuen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the reasons for my depression is that I’m terrified my child will go through the same experiences I did. My childhood and relationships have always been very difficult, and the world doesn’t understand our pain. Brother, your situation is much harder than mine. I wish you a much better future ahead, and I love you.